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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 15, 2017 15:02:19 GMT -5
Well, today's the day, we start couples therapy. We will see how it goes.
I am more nervous now then I was on my wedding day.
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Post by merrygoround on Jun 15, 2017 15:19:31 GMT -5
Good luck! Keep us posted  |
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Post by tamara68 on Jun 15, 2017 15:32:40 GMT -5
Good luck and be strong! Whatever they say, don't reveal your iliasm password |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 15, 2017 15:37:35 GMT -5
Good luck and be strong! Whatever they say, don't reveal your iliasm password I won't even reveal the forum name or my username. |
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Post by tamara68 on Jun 15, 2017 15:43:12 GMT -5
Good luck and be strong! Whatever they say, don't reveal your iliasm password I won't even reveal the forum name or my username. So you can't say "I am hoping for a change" when they ask what you hope to achieve there.....  |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 15, 2017 15:44:31 GMT -5
I won't even reveal the forum name or my username. So you can't say "I am hoping for a change" when they ask what you hope to achieve there..... Fuck, I needed that laugh! |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 15, 2017 18:55:08 GMT -5
Well we left and we're able to hug.
So a step in the right direction
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 15, 2017 22:18:21 GMT -5
Good luck!
I hope she is receptive to what is being said in the room.
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Post by merrygoround on Jun 15, 2017 23:35:35 GMT -5
Sounds positive! So, when is your next session and were you given any homework?
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 17, 2017 15:03:52 GMT -5
Sounds positive! So, when is your next session and were you given any homework? We go back Tuesday and we didn't have any homework. The first session was mainly our back story and getting comfortable talking with her. The therapist had no reservations on calling us out in things. She called the W out on a few things and it was absolutely hallarious Overall we left happier with each other then when we went in. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jun 17, 2017 15:59:21 GMT -5
Sounds positive! So, when is your next session and were you given any homework? We go back Tuesday and we didn't have any homework. The first session was mainly our back story and getting comfortable talking with her. The therapist had no reservations on calling us out in things. She called the W out on a few things and it was absolutely hallarious Overall we left happier with each other then when we went in. HFC I wish you all the best with this. I know you will be just fine, whatever happens along this journey. The outcome will be the outcome. Whichever way it swings. You know you have a safe place here man xxxxx |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2017 16:10:33 GMT -5
good luck. Did shit for us
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jun 17, 2017 16:14:34 GMT -5
Best of luck with this. Didn't bother as it was just too late for us.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2017 16:16:07 GMT -5
This is an open question -can therapy ever work if you have to drag your spouse there and you know they really didn't want to be there. Verses a spouse who gets the marriage is in trouble and is willing to try therapy?
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 17, 2017 16:23:04 GMT -5
Therapy only works if a person uses it. Therapists aren't magicians. If a person goes to therapy and says nothing or talks only about trivia, no change or insight will happen.
If you accompany such a partner to to therapy and you work there, you may change and develop insight. You may realize that your spouse will never be the passionate partner you want. You then may live your life accordingly.
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