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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2017 15:38:57 GMT -5
Ok, just so you guys can see faces, here is a pic of ballofconfusion and ol' Shammy at the U2 concert Friday (posted with my lady's permission, of course). It felt really good being the couple at the concert hugging, kissing, and rocking back and forth to the music. For years I've hated seeing those couples (why in the fuck can't that be me?!?!?!?!?!). At the concert, we saw lots of "walking dead" couples and agreed it was amazing for the first time in our lives to be on the other side of that particular fence. Sometimes the grass really is greener on the other side. And yes, I'm almost a foot taller than her (she was wearing 3 inch heels in that picture). She's my little squirt and I love wrapping my condor arms around her. Both of you look great Shammyboy!! After my divorce is final, I plan to post a pic of me and my beautiful Kimmie! |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2017 15:51:04 GMT -5
Oh to heck with it, I am going to post a picture of us. This was at a wedding on 9/9/17. Please don't quote me because it will repost the pic. But this is my beautiful Kimmie & I. I think she is absolutely Gorgeous!  Ok, I fixed the picture. |
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Post by LITW on Sept 25, 2017 16:58:55 GMT -5
That is a GREAT pic of both of you, you look so happy! Please forgive me for being jealous of you going to a U2 concert though .... they are one of my favorite bands. I hope you had a great time. Guess you can't sing "still haven't found what I'm looking for" anymore  |
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Sept 25, 2017 18:41:09 GMT -5
Such good looking people. Wouldnt have anything to do with the fact that your getting some now, would it?
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Post by shamwow on Sept 25, 2017 22:06:34 GMT -5
Oh to heck with it, I am going to post a picture of us. This was at a wedding on 9/9/17. Please don't quote me because it will repost the pic. But this is my beautiful Kimmie & I. I will leave it up for a day or so. I don't know why it is sideways, do you shamwow? I think she is absolutely Gorgeous! View AttachmentDamn straight John! You and your lady look great! Although next time you guys go horizontal like that perhaps you should get a room.... But seriously the two of you look great... And happy. |
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Post by shamwow on Sept 25, 2017 22:08:24 GMT -5
That is a GREAT pic of both of you, you look so happy! Please forgive me for being jealous of you going to a U2 concert though .... they are one of my favorite bands. I hope you had a great time. Guess you can't sing "still haven't found what I'm looking for" anymore Actually? As that song was playing I softly sang into her ear "I still HAVE found what I'm looking for" |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 25, 2017 22:09:11 GMT -5
Both of you couples look amazing- it's the sparkle in the eyes: true joy.
Yay for each of you!
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Post by shamwow on Sept 25, 2017 22:10:20 GMT -5
Such good looking people. Wouldnt have anything to do with the fact that your getting some now, would it? It's a bit beyond just getting some at this point. But with that said...it does feel amazing to be with someone who craves being with you as much as you with them. |
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Post by merrygoround on Sept 25, 2017 23:49:32 GMT -5
flashjohn and your lovely Kimmie - again, shining with happiness! Lovely couple xx
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 26, 2017 6:26:02 GMT -5
Shammy/Ball. Flash John/Kimmie you are such radiantly happy and beautiful people! Glad you found each other!
Curious about whether you thought you were good looking when you were in the throes of your sm. I know I felt I was hideously ugly. My why chasing included looking for physical reasons in myself that must be repulsive to my husband. 29 years ago, after our last child was born, I settled on a vertical c section scar. Of course I also assumed my face must be unbearably homely. Even when I dieted, exercised and at 50 had to avoid catcalls I still was sure there was something wrong with my looks.
Amazing how much leaving my sm did for my happiness and confidence even before I found a partner
Anyway, at 66 and 65 my post sm lover and I post lots of happy selfies. We love the way each other looking oks and we are happy.
I bet there are people still in sm marriages who feel homely. I bet what's ugly is not their looks, but their marriage.
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Post by WindSister on Sept 26, 2017 7:48:56 GMT -5
flashjohn - You two obviously belong together. I know in my SM we did NOT look good together. When someone took a picture of me and my ex, he was kinda pulling away -- I pointed it out once but he said I was "delusional." Um, no - I was spot freaking on. My man now always leans into me - pulls me close. There's just something to be said for that. I think happy looking couples are actually happy. You can't fake the kind of happy that radiates in your heart and comes out in your eyes and smile.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 26, 2017 9:14:56 GMT -5
flashjohn - You two obviously belong together. I know in my SM we did NOT look good together. When someone took a picture of me and my ex, he was kinda pulling away -- I pointed it out once but he said I was "delusional." Um, no - I was spot freaking on. My man now always leans into me - pulls me close. There's just something to be said for that. I think happy looking couples are actually happy. You can't fake the kind of happy that radiates in your heart and comes out in your eyes and smile. Thank you! I never looked this happy in my 28 years of prison. And yes, Kimmie leans into me every time we hug. Her Ex always told her she was not affectionate enough. Now she has to be touching me all the time. She doesn't even think about it, she just has her hand on me wherever we are. |
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Post by shamwow on Sept 26, 2017 16:28:17 GMT -5
Shammy/Ball. Flash John/Kimmie you are such radiantly happy and beautiful people! Glad you found each other! Curious about whether you thought you were good looking when you were in the throes of your sm. I know I felt I was hideously ugly. My why chasing included looking for physical reasons in myself that must be repulsive to my husband. 29 years ago, after our last child was born, I settled on a vertical c section scar. Of course I also assumed my face must be unbearably homely. Even when I dieted, exercised and at 50 had to avoid catcalls I still was sure there was something wrong with my looks. Amazing how much leaving my sm did for my happiness and confidence even before I found a partner Anyway, at 66 and 65 my post sm lover and I post lots of happy selfies. We love the way each other looking oks and we are happy. I bet there are people still in sm marriages who feel homely. I bet what's ugly is not their looks, but their marriage. I will speak for myself and for my lady here. When I was in my SM, I didn't exactly think I was homely, but I sure as hell had body image issues. - My balding head - When I put on a little weight I have a bubble butt - I've never had "muscles" even when working out - At one point, I had a super-sexy triple chin Other body image issues were less obvious for an outsider: - My tongue was never clipped so I never considered myself a good kisser (and, of course, other uses of the tongue) - As like every guy, I wondered about the length and girth of my ding dong. During my SM, all of these became just more "why" chasing, and as I explored each one, I became more and more convinced that these were the reasons I was unfuckable. Each one brought me further into depression. Now I know I'm not a movie star, but I'm also not as bad as I had torn myself down to. ballofconfusion has shown me that I am attractive...at least to her, and that's all I care about. There are times I find myself having trouble believing her, but she is persistent, and over time, the negative views of myself have started to recede. For example, I used to wear a baseball cap everywhere to hide my balding head. Now, I find myself wearing one where appropriate (i.e. baseball practice). I'm getting more comfortable in my own skin now that I realize it wasn't me that had the problem. That was a big deal and will probably take a while to work through. I won't speak for my lady, but she also has body image issues despite my protestations. I know she is beautiful, but I also understand how much easier it is to say that to someone else instead of being able to look in the mirror and say it to yourself...especially after living in the SM shithole for decades. But like me, she is making tremendous progress in understanding that it was her STBX who had the problem, not her. I hope that answers the question. |
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Post by shamwow on Sept 26, 2017 16:30:49 GMT -5
flashjohn - You two obviously belong together. I know in my SM we did NOT look good together. When someone took a picture of me and my ex, he was kinda pulling away -- I pointed it out once but he said I was "delusional." Um, no - I was spot freaking on. My man now always leans into me - pulls me close. There's just something to be said for that. I think happy looking couples are actually happy. You can't fake the kind of happy that radiates in your heart and comes out in your eyes and smile. Funny you say that. I remember at one point looking at photos and you could literally see when the daylight began to open between my ex-wife and I. It pretty much started as soon as the words "I do" were uttered, although on occasion it closed. Over time, the distance between us began to show on our faces as well. The smiles became plastered on and there was no sparkle in either of our eyes. |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 26, 2017 17:13:44 GMT -5
flashjohnBeautiful couple! So happy for you both!!
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