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Post by shamwow on Jul 27, 2017 11:51:31 GMT -5
By the way, I am pretty knowledgeable from a finance standpoint if I may say so myself (MBA does come in handy sometimes). If you've got a specific question on credit / financing / budgeting, feel free to ask via PM.
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Post by WindSister on Jul 28, 2017 13:44:59 GMT -5
"Operation Run Amuck" .. gotta love the way you spin things.
Sounds like you are definitely living it up! Sending good thoughts to BOC, too -- bold new step in a new chapter for her.
I love the idea of couch surfing and I really hope it's a great experience for you.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 28, 2017 15:09:02 GMT -5
"Operation Run Amuck" .. gotta love the way you spin things. Sounds like you are definitely living it up! Sending good thoughts to BOC, too -- bold new step in a new chapter for her. I love the idea of couch surfing and I really hope it's a great experience for you. Speaking of "spinning", have you ever rented a motorcycle? There are a ton of places I can think of going I'd rather rent two wheels versus four. Anyone else have that experience? Any pointers? |
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Post by unmatched on Jul 28, 2017 21:09:40 GMT -5
Go to India and rent an Enfield for a long trip, but it will scare the crap out of you. The Greek islands or Crete are pretty nice. Or there are some unbelievably awesome off road tours in Morocco if you are up for something a bit more adventurous. Or come to Oz - I know a couple of places you can rent a DRZ and I will take you off in the sand:   |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 29, 2017 0:14:17 GMT -5
I've hauled ass up and down the Texas beaches in my buddy's bike with a sidecar. Of course he was mixing whiskey and ambien at the time so it had some, uh, bonus excitement.
I am looking forward to running amuck globally but for the next 5 years will stick in my own backyard until my kids are flown the coop. There will be time for more international travel later, but I only get one crack with them...
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jul 29, 2017 1:06:30 GMT -5
I've hauled ass up and down the Texas beaches in my buddy's bike with a sidecar. Of course he was mixing whiskey and ambien at the time so it had some, uh, bonus excitement. I am looking forward to running amuck globally but for the next 5 years will stick in my own backyard until my kids are flown the coop. There will be time for more international travel later, but I only get one crack with them... This is my only regret about having kids. I just wanna get an E bike, a back pack and some skates and explore the globe. Youngest is 9. 7 years maybe? Probably more like 9 years then off i go! |
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Post by unmatched on Jul 29, 2017 5:31:45 GMT -5
I am going to cross the Simpson desert next week. Should be about a 7-8 day ride by the time we have got out there, crossed it and ridden back again. At least I hope so - I am going with my brother in law and my wife just told her sister we are separating. Fingers crossed he won't pull out!!!  |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 29, 2017 7:31:58 GMT -5
I've hauled ass up and down the Texas beaches in my buddy's bike with a sidecar. Of course he was mixing whiskey and ambien at the time so it had some, uh, bonus excitement. I am looking forward to running amuck globally but for the next 5 years will stick in my own backyard until my kids are flown the coop. There will be time for more international travel later, but I only get one crack with them... This is my only regret about having kids. I just wanna get an E bike, a back pack and some skates and explore the globe. Youngest is 9. 7 years maybe? Probably more like 9 years then off i go! But the flip side? Many weekends my daughter will hop on the back and we will hit the open road. When they are 9, they are still mostly work and running around. It is truly amazing to watch them transform into thier own authentic selves. Maddening at times, but also amazing. If I would not have had kids I would be absolutely free right now. But I also wouldn't have been able to take my kids to a concert last night and rock out with them. I've only got a few years left and I'm going to milk as much out of it as I can... Then I can do my own thing. |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 29, 2017 7:33:57 GMT -5
I am going to cross the Simpson desert next week. Should be about a 7-8 day ride by the time we have got out there, crossed it and ridden back again. At least I hope so - I am going with my brother in law and my wife just told her sister we are separating. Fingers crossed he won't pull out!!! Damn, brother, that look awesome! Envious as hell... And putting it on my to do list. |
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Post by orangepeel on Jul 29, 2017 14:31:18 GMT -5
Right, "kissed" is that what the old people are calling it these days? To be honest, it really was from kissing. Don't know if you ever caught my post about my tongue not being clipped, but oral over super long duration will be difficult for me without some surgery. Lickety split here and there? Hell yeah. 4 days straight of it? Not so much. Four days of kissing alone was enough to make my tongue sore for 4 days. I've only just found this thread! Congratulations and joy to you both. This is so uplifting! |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 29, 2017 17:16:54 GMT -5
To be honest, it really was from kissing. Don't know if you ever caught my post about my tongue not being clipped, but oral over super long duration will be difficult for me without some surgery. Lickety split here and there? Hell yeah. 4 days straight of it? Not so much. Four days of kissing alone was enough to make my tongue sore for 4 days. I've only just found this thread! Congratulations and joy to you both. This is so uplifting! Thanks brother. It's been a wild ride for both of us! |
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Post by McRoomMate on Jul 30, 2017 2:17:45 GMT -5
shamwow "Operation Run Amuck" - Love it. Not be be grandiose or anything but there is a really good story here. This could be a book or a movie. It is already an inspiring and even entertaining read of a BLOG. Good stuff!!! Screen Play in the works for "Independent" Low budget film called "Operation Run Amuck" I really look forward to the next chapters.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 30, 2017 7:58:38 GMT -5
Well, when I first started this thread I had no idea I'd still be writing on page 21 of it. The original idea was that I hadn't seen anyone really go step by step through their exit. There have been a lot of little land mines I've stepped on through the process (kids, loneliness, money, alcohol, moving, meeting someone new, even problems in the bedroom). With all of the stories here I hadn't seen anyone take this step by step. It just kind of grew from there. Admin, is it possible to view any of my original posts from back in December / January? This story started when everyone already knew about the divorce and I was simply exiting. I would kind of like to do a smaller thread where I repost some of my earlier posts. Kind of a prequel. I think it might be good for people to know that when I got here, I was starting to get my shit together, but was still mainly a drunk, rejected, porn addicted man who had been completely brainwashed into thinking he was unfuckable by a wife. This from the same wife whose "medical issue" was a load of crap. The textbook example of bait and switch. Hook, line, and sinker for twenty fucking years.... Half my life. It depresses me to just think of that. As far as turning this into a movie, OMG no. I've got just enough balls to post this stuff on a forum semi-anonymously. Putting it on the big screen? Dear God, no! But if my story can help a single person out there to see how shitty things can start and that there is hope, it is then I'm happy beyond words to have put all this out... Including the humiliating parts. I don't know how many details from operation run amuck I should post. In some ways it feels like I'm spiking the football. I'm out, and life is awesome, right? That isn't the case for everyone, and I don't want to be a dick. But even as I enter a better phase of my life, this SM still hovers over me like a shadow. Last night I was in my house. I was alone. I was bored.. And Shammy hasn't been bored in years. And I won't see my kids for another 6 days. It hurt. I wanted a drink SO BAD. My lady talked with me and we watched each other over Skype as we slept through the night. This shit still hurts, and I am lucky beyond words to have someone who understands to go through this with. So I guess my question to all of you is this: Has this thread served its purpose? Would continuing just be "excessive celebration"? Or should I continue to write here, chronicling my struggles and triumphs (hopefully more triumphs)? |
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 30, 2017 8:35:51 GMT -5
It's a wonderful thread that shows the unpredictable ups and downs and puzzlements and fears as well as delightful surprises that happen when extricating oneself from one's sm. I hope you will post snippets of your earlier stories . Those would inform and inspire there especially those feeling hopeless, terrified and stuck.
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jul 30, 2017 11:35:44 GMT -5
Well, when I first started this thread I had no idea I'd still be writing on page 21 of it. The original idea was that I hadn't seen anyone really go step by step through their exit. There have been a lot of little land mines I've stepped on through the process (kids, loneliness, money, alcohol, moving, meeting someone new, even problems in the bedroom). With all of the stories here I hadn't seen anyone take this step by step. It just kind of grew from there. Admin, is it possible to view any of my original posts from back in December / January? This story started when everyone already knew about the divorce and I was simply exiting. I would kind of like to do a smaller thread where I repost some of my earlier posts. Kind of a prequel. I think it might be good for people to know that when I got here, I was starting to get my shit together, but was still mainly a drunk, rejected, porn addicted man who had been completely brainwashed into thinking he was unfuckable by a wife. This from the same wife whose "medical issue" was a load of crap. The textbook example of bait and switch. Hook, line, and sinker for twenty fucking years.... Half my life. It depresses me to just think of that. As far as turning this into a movie, OMG no. I've got just enough balls to post this stuff on a forum semi-anonymously. Putting it on the big screen? Dear God, no! But if my story can help a single person out there to see how shitty things can start and that there is hope, it is then I'm happy beyond words to have put all this out... Including the humiliating parts. I don't know how many details from operation run amuck I should post. In some ways it feels like I'm spiking the football. I'm out, and life is awesome, right? That isn't the case for everyone, and I don't want to be a dick. But even as I enter a better phase of my life, this SM still hovers over me like a shadow. Last night I was in my house. I was alone. I was bored.. And Shammy hasn't been bored in years. And I won't see my kids for another 6 days. It hurt. I wanted a drink SO BAD. My lady talked with me and we watched each other over Skype as we slept through the night. This shit still hurts, and I am lucky beyond words to have someone who understands to go through this with. So I guess my question to all of you is this: Has this thread served its purpose? Would continuing just be "excessive celebration"? Or should I continue to write here, chronicling my struggles and triumphs (hopefully more triumphs)? Personally, i look forward to your posts on this thread. I waited for your account of your weekend with your lady with excitement enough that it reminded me of what that must feel like, that ineffable bliss. I think your continued posts might be excessive celebration. And so fucking what? You have to feel like you deserve this, and your story is inspirational to those of us just finding our way out. Or at least to me anyway. I think you are entitled to excessive celebration! I wish you nothing but more triumphs on your journey. And thank you for writing. |
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