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Post by unmatched on May 22, 2017 22:22:13 GMT -5
I think if your sister says no to the Bud sign in your kitchen, maybe you should listen to her. Women are supposed to know this stuff, right? So long as you can still get your bike in there you will be fine  |
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Post by bballgirl on May 22, 2017 22:52:21 GMT -5
Congrats it's all coming together! I'm so happy for you!!
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Post by shamwow on May 23, 2017 6:26:29 GMT -5
Think a disco ball would be over the top? Suddenly I wouldn't be surprised to see a stripper pole in your bedroom, shamwow. Just cuz, you know, so your dates have something to do. Just in case. If I get the house I want I already have a room dedicated with Brazilian jiu jitsu mats |
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Post by shamwow on May 23, 2017 6:28:22 GMT -5
I think if your sister says no to the Bud sign in your kitchen, maybe you should listen to her. Women are supposed to know this stuff, right? So long as you can still get your bike in there you will be fine True. The place has a 3 car garage but the kitchen does seem like a more appropriate place for my motorcycle. Although I have been trying with a side car option so font think I can get it through the door. |
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Post by McRoomMate on May 23, 2017 7:09:44 GMT -5
CONGRATULATIONS ! ! !
Sounds like a plan and even better sounds like an IMPLEMENTED plan.
All good.
About the "Big House" YES - make it a "Fun House" if you can I have seen parents that set-up like a "Teen Ager" hang out in the attic or wherever and yes it does attract the Teen Agers / Young Adults and better safe at Dad's house than roaming out on the town. So very good idea you have going.
All the best and phenomenal update to read. Right On!!!
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Post by shamwow on May 23, 2017 13:02:57 GMT -5
Ok, I got the house I wanted and the countdown is pretty much finalized now:
T minus 27 - Current house closes (we cease to live together)
T minus 34 - Divorce finalized
T minus 39 - My new house is ready to move in
T minus 40 - Absolutely no fucking idea
So now I have a question. Any suggestions on what I should do on T-40? It will be my weekend to have the kids. Do I:
- Have a party
- Just chill with the kids
- Let them stay with mom while I unpack
- Get them to help me unpack (all of their things will be in storage)
It's a month and a half away, so I have time, but I need to start thinking about it (as well as my first night alone in my house).
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Post by lyn on May 23, 2017 13:26:43 GMT -5
Ok, I got the house I wanted and the countdown is pretty much finalized now: T minus 27 - Current house closes (we cease to live together) T minus 34 - Divorce finalized T minus 39 - My new house is ready to move in T minus 40 - Absolutely no fucking idea So now I have a question. Any suggestions on what I should do on T-40? It will be my weekend to have the kids. Do I: - Have a party - Just chill with the kids - Let them stay with mom while I unpack - Get them to help me unpack (all of their things will be in storage) It's a month and a half away, so I have time, but I need to start thinking about it (as well as my first night alone in my house). This so exciting! Your momentum with all of this is inspiring😊 If I were in your shoes - I'd have the kids there- order pizza - unpack - make it as fun as possible. You got this - Your new life- take it and have fun! |
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Post by bballgirl on May 23, 2017 13:49:29 GMT -5
Ok, I got the house I wanted and the countdown is pretty much finalized now: T minus 27 - Current house closes (we cease to live together) T minus 34 - Divorce finalized T minus 39 - My new house is ready to move in T minus 40 - Absolutely no fucking idea So now I have a question. Any suggestions on what I should do on T-40? It will be my weekend to have the kids. Do I: - Have a party - Just chill with the kids - Let them stay with mom while I unpack - Get them to help me unpack (all of their things will be in storage) It's a month and a half away, so I have time, but I need to start thinking about it (as well as my first night alone in my house). This so exciting! Your momentum with all of this is inspiring😊 If I were in your shoes - I'd have the kids there- order pizza - unpack - make it as fun as possible. You got this - Your new life- take it and have fun! I like lyn idea Order pizza stay in and let them enjoy the new place. I wouldn't go too crazy with the unpacking let it be more enjoyable for them. The following weekend you can make a bigger dent when the kids are with their mom. Just enjoy the time together. |
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Post by merrygoround on May 23, 2017 13:51:25 GMT -5
I was going to suggest similar. Have fun with it, order in, let the kids open a few boxes to start making their new bedrooms "their own" etc. You got this! x
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Post by hopingforachange on May 23, 2017 14:20:40 GMT -5
Unpack just enough for the weekend, order pizza, get hopped up on mountain dew and red bull and have a Nerf gun battle in the empty house with the boxes providing cover.
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Post by shamwow on May 23, 2017 15:01:04 GMT -5
Interesting comments. This is going to sound weird, but it is just dawning on me that there is nothing wrong with making this first time with them alone fun. As a matter of fact, getting our time in the house as a happy start will set the stage for many subsequent weekends. I want them to CRAVE coming to Dad's.
Until now, the conversations with the kids have been about trying to avoid causing them pain. If you guys have read any of my posts, that is so NOT me. I'm more about taking life and ripping as much from it as I can. And Christ, now that I'll be free? I'm excited as hell! And many of the things I've always wanted to do with the kids but have been shot down? Nobody there to shoot them down now.
I really like the idea of getting them to make their rooms THEIRS that first weekend. The good part is that with the way the visitation schedule works, I will have them two weekends in a row. So from that Thursday before I get the house until the next Monday morning I will have them. We can do a lot and have a lot of fun. Then we have the next weekend too (Thursday through Monday) to enjoy the fully unpacked house (I'll have 3 days with just me there to finish the unpacking).
Who would have though the visitation schedule would be my friend?
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Post by GeekGoddess on May 23, 2017 15:12:34 GMT -5
I'm so excited for you, Shammy - AND for the kids. I agree with letting the first times together be a mix of fun and them getting to "own" their new place with you. Take some neighborhood walks or the like, too. This will be a good summer together.
Save the "have a party" for a paramour, non-kid weekend.
You'll get used to your new schedule but it's NICE that accidentally get to have them two weekends in a row those first weeks.
Have a blast - you're a fun & amazing dad. You got this.
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2017 16:27:36 GMT -5
LOL at this thread! Really laughing, not just using the expression.
This kind of thing is one reason I still hang around here.
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Post by snowman12345 on May 23, 2017 17:47:42 GMT -5
T minus 9 days till move to a fabulous townhouse in a new city. Packed up the marital kitchen today and my overwhelming feeling is...I CAN'T FUCKING WAIT TO COOK IN MY NEW KITCHEN. What are you going to make for me? If you're going to keep me tied to the bed post you aught to feed me! |
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Post by hopingforachange on May 23, 2017 17:59:26 GMT -5
Forgot what I said. Now is the time to let you reset. You are free to be the Dad that you know you are, the Dad that had been pushed down and tucked inside away from your refuser. Breath, think and be your few self with your kids, she is not around to control you.
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