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Post by tamara68 on Jun 5, 2017 4:51:37 GMT -5
I have no experiences with cults, although one could say that my husband created his own cult.
My stbx was initially raised without religion until his mother decided that she wanted to bring religion back in their lives. My stbx and his sister were baptised instantly even though they didn't have a clue yet what it was all about. Stbx was 10 years old at the time. His OCD was becoming more clear and religion struck at the moment that he was very vulnerable. And so God and the bible became part of his obsessions. He was afraid something bad would happen to him or his family and that God wanted / ordered him to do certain things. Like reading the bible every day. His parents never knew of his fears. Later when we were living together his fears and obsessions evolved into religious madness. Thinking that all kinds of bad things were punishments by God, or thinking God wanted him to do certain things. And that strange things that happened were a sign of God. It was awful. For him in the first place because his fears were really bad. But for me it was extremely hard as well. It took a long time until he managed to convince himself that if God existed, he must be good and therefore it was highly unlikely that God wanted him to suffer. After that religion was not noticeable in our lives until I wanted to leave him. At that moment God and the bible were perfect as a tool to make him look good and me bad (possessed by the devil).
I don't think religion in itself was the problem, but it was surely something that in his condition caused extra problems.
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Post by unmatched on Jun 5, 2017 19:35:52 GMT -5
I have no experiences with cults, although one could say that my husband created his own cult. My stbx was initially raised without religion until his mother decided that she wanted to bring religion back in their lives. My stbx and his sister were baptised instantly even though they didn't have a clue yet what it was all about. Stbx was 10 years old at the time. His OCD was becoming more clear and religion struck at the moment that he was very vulnerable. And so God and the bible became part of his obsessions. He was afraid something bad would happen to him or his family and that God wanted / ordered him to do certain things. Like reading the bible every day. His parents never knew of his fears. Later when we were living together his fears and obsessions evolved into religious madness. Thinking that all kinds of bad things were punishments by God, or thinking God wanted him to do certain things. And that strange things that happened were a sign of God. It was awful. For him in the first place because his fears were really bad. But for me it was extremely hard as well. It took a long time until he managed to convince himself that if God existed, he must be good and therefore it was highly unlikely that God wanted him to suffer. After that religion was not noticeable in our lives until I wanted to leave him. At that moment God and the bible were perfect as a tool to make him look good and me bad (possessed by the devil). I don't think religion in itself was the problem, but it was surely something that in his condition caused extra problems. I have to admit - I have always been curious. How did you managed to get hooked up with this guy in the first place? |
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Post by tamara68 on Jun 6, 2017 0:15:15 GMT -5
[quote author=" unmatched" [/quote]I have to admit - I have always been curious. How did you managed to get hooked up with this guy in the first place?[/quote] Incredible, right? I have met him at high school. He was my first boyfriend. I was flattered that he was interested in me and I thought I couldn't get any better. I enjoyed talking with him. He was intelligent. I ignored the red flags of his controlling behavior. And he didn't tell me about his fears until we were living together. |
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Post by litnerd on Jun 7, 2017 13:31:11 GMT -5
I was raised in what I'd consider a very cult-like version of Christianity. Very fundamentalist, very stifling. I had to unpack a lot of shame and guilt about my sexuality when I started having sex (I was almost 23), and it took years of deconstructing the brainwashing I endured as a child/young adult to finally embrace my sexuality and "unnaturally" high libido. Of course, I did all this only to find myself in a SM. *insert eyeroll* So no, I don't think being raised in a cult is an acceptable excuse, but I do think that it can affect one's openness towards and view of sex/sexuality. It's certainly been a factor in my past relationships.
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Post by doneanddone on Jun 8, 2017 14:45:17 GMT -5
Going back to this post a few weeks back I really am starting to wonder if my wife was raised in a cult like environment. She is from Florida, the land of oranges and Mickey Mouse. Her mother and father raised her with a chastity belt until she hit college which is when I didn't know her but found out later in our relationship that she liked to do drugs and anal sex bare back. I got to watch the vhs tape of her and her previous boyfriend from college.....long story....I think it's in my first post somewhere on here. She has this real freakish relationship with her mother and father where they treat her like she is still there little teenage girl who is supposed to mind her manners and act like the perfect daughter they never saw grow up. And the shitty part is she does that. She acts like a child around her parents. She whines like a teenager would if you told them to go to their room. She snaps back with an attitude like a child who doesn't know any better. And when she does all this around them they fall right in line and act as if they were the parents of the late 80's early 90's (yes, i am older). My in-laws are part of the problem my wife is so fucked in the head which is also probably part of the reason why she isn't fucking me.
Anyways. Fast forward about 15-16 years. We've been married for 10 and have one child. Last 4 or 5...well shit I might as well call it....since our daughter was born 6 years ago....maybe maybe 5 meaningful sexual encounters with my wife. She's never given me a blow job, she won't even hint at foreplay and I honestly cannot remember the last time I saw her full body naked and unclothed. She claims she is uncomfortable with her body but yet she isn't uncomfortable enough to shut the fucking bathroom door when she goes. I don't know about other men but I cannot stand to hear a women pee. Sorry ladies. I don't mean to offend any women out here. I promise you I don't. I hear myself pee, I've heard myself pee my entire life. I don't want to hear ANYONE else pee let alone my wife. It's just a quirk I have. The sound of pee is not at all alluring or attractive. So yeah, I think my wife may have been raised in a cult or cult like environment.
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