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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2016 1:47:57 GMT -5
Sorry this will fail: Everyone jumped on this without consideration, like a life boat but be honest this wont work as a new EP hub or sexless marriage forum, There are cracks already here. People joined and immediately followed their friends because they want to stay in touch with their friends, its not about the stories because they didnt post any stories. Like high school, whos in or not, the clicks are there. I am sorry for being the ass to say this, and funnily seeing a few who blocked me, thats not a option here, This boards is like being stuck in a small room. So prove me wrong - please. As people love to say there 50 thousand people here. The best stories for me were the one one ones who came on once in desperation an left a message and where gone. Lets be honest we all know each others stories and unlike EP this is going to be like breaking into a little dsyfunctual small family wedding group.
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Post by Dan on Mar 26, 2016 10:15:38 GMT -5
Sorry, celt... I'm not willing to declare this "dead" yet. After all, we are less than 3 days old, already have 72 members, a few dozen threads, and over 150 posts/comments. I don't think we are trying to be an EP replacement. I too will miss the serendipity of random EP "experiences", but at least we'll have a [nominally] sexless marriage-focused forum. Not sure by what you mean about "blocking is not an option here"; it is. (Report posts from the "gear menu" in the upper right of each post; block members you don't want to interact with from the gear menu on their profile page.) I agree at the outset this will mostly be a "lifeboat" for those who jump from EP; I agree it will really only survive if we get new members trickling in. But that leads me not to declare "we're doomed to fail", but rather to ask "how do we get the word out"? To that end, we have to find some way to publicize this board. Here are some ways: - Mention it on Reddit/DeadBedrooms.
- And online articles or blogs that have comment sections: post a link here.
- Get this listed in the FreeForums/ProBoard directory
- Post links from appropriate RelateToThat forums to here.
- Consider buying Google Ad Words ads to get folks directed here.
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Post by Isabellas39 on Mar 26, 2016 10:16:21 GMT -5
Why are you so negative ? I know why I came here, and it has nothing to do with cliques ..
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2016 10:18:45 GMT -5
I think because EP is still going, most people are still posting there. I've struggled personally with wondering if I should kind of start over and do a brief recap here before posting any new issues. I think it's a little too early to tell if this will work or not, but I'm happy to at least have a chance to keep this group going.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2016 10:20:20 GMT -5
Why are you here then? I think you just enjoy stirring the pot.
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Post by JMX on Mar 26, 2016 13:09:46 GMT -5
Awe, Celt, just give it a chance! I want to keep reading your stuff. I can tell when you've been depressed and drinking - time stamp helps here.
Although, an astute observation about how it will be different and maybe like a small dysfunctional family, I think it definitely has not had enough time to get going at all. There's nothing wrong with different.
And - I do have to wonder - why are the ones that post once and never come back your favorite?
Celt, you are one of my favorites and I am glad to see you here!
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Post by ifoundmethere on Mar 26, 2016 13:41:36 GMT -5
Well, at least we can try to create something with value, a place for people to arrive?
I remember arriving at EP, I was totally lost, had no idea anyone else was living in a SM. I will forever grateful.
I've joined relateto that, opened an ILIASM and in a few days will start to field people that have arrived and anyone new that arrives over here. So far, apart from "us", not much sign of life. (Binarybill posted something...)
We need a little time to adjust, see what we can make with our lemons.
But I intend to hang around, seems like a good thing.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2016 14:15:22 GMT -5
Sorry you are not feeling good about this place. My experience here has been only positive
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2016 18:34:53 GMT -5
Why are you here then? I think you just enjoy stirring the pot. This! |
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Post by DryCreek on Mar 26, 2016 19:59:28 GMT -5
Celt, you're passing judgement too quickly. The stories will rebuild. We've been transplanted to a new town (refugee camp?), and we're just looking up everyone we used to know who moved here too.
Should we transplant a lot of the stories? Sure. Should we abandon reconnecting with the old crew just because the stories aren't here yet? I'm not sure the two things are related at all.
Given some time you may be proven right, but we're just priming the pump here.
Cheers,
DC
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Post by Rhapsodee on Mar 27, 2016 1:25:48 GMT -5
I like the comfort of familiar people here in ILIASM. On EP I had friends outside the group too. In fact my best friend has a normal marriage. It's nice to chat with someone who doesn't have the same issues. A friendship in which sex or sexlessness isn't the main topic of conversations. Maybe I won't be sexless in the other forum. I'll just be Dee.
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Post by TMD on Mar 27, 2016 11:24:18 GMT -5
I hated high school. I hate cliques. I'm not into popularity contests.
What I do value is being able share about an experience that most people don't get if they've never experienced it.
TBH, I don't form friendships easily. I have a deep seated inferiority complex. And quite a few (most, actually) of those who embraced me on EP aren't here. May never arrive here. And I'm still processing how I feel about that. ((So far I'm not feeling good about it. And yet, I'm fully confident in the communion to be had here with those who have arrived.))
I fervently, wholeheartedly disagree that this is high school. And I embrace the Celt.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 29, 2016 20:11:26 GMT -5
Sure it's a click. Just like High School when you go to a non-High School thing and see folks from your school.
There's a problem?
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Post by JMX on Mar 31, 2016 16:25:57 GMT -5
Did Celt leave? Did he delete himself?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2016 19:03:38 GMT -5
Did Celt leave? Did he delete himself? I hope not. He can be awkward at times....he likes to stir the shit and be contrarian....but I for one would miss him. It just wouldn't be the same without him. |
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