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Post by northstarmom on Sept 19, 2017 10:07:21 GMT -5
Smartkat, your latest column is great! I especially liked the kicker. You set it up wonderfully. You are good enough to start earning money from your writing. Saying that as a former newspaper columnist.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2017 11:50:59 GMT -5
Smartkat, your latest column is great! I especially liked the kicker. You set it up wonderfully. You are good enough to start earning money from your writing. Saying that as a former newspaper columnist. Wow! Really?? That's the one thing that can thrill me as much - if not more - than meeting the man who could be "it." Seriously. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2017 12:46:27 GMT -5
epinexile.wordpress.comI just updated. It's kind of all over the place; I only edited once. But there is some discussion that has a bearing on SM, and times when you wonder if you should settle, or keep trying for what you really want.
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Post by obobfla on Sept 24, 2017 22:17:27 GMT -5
epinexile.wordpress.comI just updated. It's kind of all over the place; I only edited once. But there is some discussion that has a bearing on SM, and times when you wonder if you should settle, or keep trying for what you really want. Loved the post. Sorry about your mom. Wish I could move on myself, but right now I am trapped between a sick wife whose faith remains up in the air and a son frustrated with his situation. I am still trying to pack my parachute but not sure about the proper way to fold it. Right now, Limbo is a frustratingly awful place. When I read about how much of a support your ex is and how sad it is that he gave up the sexual part of his relationship, I think back to an ex-girlfriend. She broke up with me, and I was devastated at first. But then we talked and managed to remain friends. I was not offended when she said of our relationship, "Been there, done that, got the T-shirt." It fit both of our feelings like a good T-shirt. I know it's hard to watch a parent die. I lost both of mine. But my family was fortunate that both my father and mother had peaceful deaths. They went within three months of each other, passing away at their homes with most of their children around. I miss them, but their bodies were giving out on them. They deserved a break from their pain. I wish your mom could have as peaceful a passing as they did. |
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Post by workingonit on Oct 16, 2017 21:24:07 GMT -5
Your clear and articulate anger actually works as a great counter voice to my pattern of making excuses for my H and lapsing into dreams that will never be. You ARE helping. Thank you. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2017 21:41:15 GMT -5
Your clear and articulate anger actually works as a great counter voice to my pattern of making excuses for my H and lapsing into dreams that will never be. You ARE helping. Thank you. Thank you workingonit |
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Post by h on Oct 23, 2017 16:41:57 GMT -5
flashjohn what happened? Why are you deleted?
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Post by DryCreek on Oct 23, 2017 22:22:24 GMT -5
flashjohn what happened? Why are you deleted? Whaaaat??! Perhaps it happened accidentally in a moment of heated passion? Or he left his phone unlocked and his ex-wife found it? |
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Post by h on Oct 24, 2017 4:57:12 GMT -5
flashjohn what happened? Why are you deleted? Whaaaat??! Perhaps it happened accidentally in a moment of heated passion? Or he left his phone unlocked and his ex-wife found it? I just hope he's ok |
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Post by DryCreek on Oct 24, 2017 6:17:52 GMT -5
Whaaaat??! Perhaps it happened accidentally in a moment of heated passion? Or he left his phone unlocked and his ex-wife found it? I just hope he's ok Agreed. This is kinda out of the blue. Hopefully he'll resurface with a new account. |
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Post by ironhamster on Nov 16, 2017 15:01:42 GMT -5
I hope so, too. He does post on his blog. I miss him, here, though.
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Post by mirrororchid on Dec 29, 2022 5:41:57 GMT -5
Bumping this thread.
Some new users come here to get help with a religious sentiment and this blog cites scripture in its expression of frustration with sexless marriage.
It starts with an old ILIASM user, Flashjohn, angry, frustrated, confused, and upset; describing himself as "stuck" and gradually, over the course of four years, accepting that permanent deprivation is not okay. He stopped posting when he had his new life to live with his second marriage, not sexless.
NOTE: if you skip around, he uses the phrase "rejecting cheater". This means someone who cheats the spouse of an ordinary sexual relationship, not a refuser who has slept with someone else.
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Post by blunder8 on Jan 6, 2023 15:34:28 GMT -5
Thanks. In my quest to become a student of this subject this is an insightful, heartfelt journal.
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