Stigmatised By Divorce ??

You know, I don't know. I guess I am simply not private. I GET that others are, I just am not. Because of this, when things come up about others, sure - they're talked about, but I have never heard a discussion about it that was judgmental. Maybe questioning, but never judgmental. I think sometimes people seek to understand, not to judge. TBH - I think you may have done more harm by blocking her than being up front. Just a thought. To me, it implies you have something to hide. I don't think it's worthy of privacy. Sometimes, it just doesn't work out. Whatevs. Busy-bodies will be on to the next thing soon enough. There's like an event a week and we all have short attention spans

Wait till your children's friends parents don't want your kids associating with theirs anymore. That's part of the stigma, along with loosing a fair amount of couples friendships. People would rather not have to choose a side or get involved at all, much easier to drop you all together. You may get a surprise visit when a year later they are getting divorced and want your sympathy, and advice.

Some people on here have lost there jobs over it.

It appears that my comment that precipitated this thread was totally misconstrued. I did *NOT* suggest that divorce, in general, is stigmatized or not. Maybe it is, but it was not the point of my comment. What I *DID* suggest is that while there is no cultural expectation of sex in a marriage there is a huge demand for fidelity; that there is a huge imbalance of expectations that are culturally driven.

As an example, I suggested that there is a huge stigma placed on divorcing "just for sex" (i.e. because of a LT SM), while there is no stigma at all in divorcing a spouse that "Cheats", and further, that no one ever askes the cheated on spouse when was the last time they bothered to fuck their cheater.

As an example, when a divorce is precipitated by straying, the strayed upon spouse usually shouts to the world that their spouse cheated and that lead to the divorce. We all surely know people that divorced and we know why - s/he cheated. The children know- they are told too.

In our cases, the usual advice here is to mumble something like "we grew apart". We, in general, are very reluctant to get into the WHY for the (SM) divorce. It is suggested that it is not something the kids should know, and etc. Not something other people (with a few specific exceptions) should know. That is clear evidence of my assertion.

Exactly!! You go girl!!
I say the same thing!
People assume that spouses cheat because they have a wandering eye and never think being sex starved for years is imaginable and it's not to most because they have average frequent enough sex.

It is the harder path and that is why I still say I'm sorry to people. Even when it is absolutely the best, or even the only, choice, it is hard as hell. It also comes with a mourning period. I didn't mourn the loss of my ex. I mourned the loss of what could have been, what was promised when we got together, the loss of my dream of what marriage was supposed to be. It was a hard time. I'd do it all over again as it was the best choice, but I still feel badly for people that must go through it. 

Recently, during a Christmas party,  a woman was telling me that she is going through a divorce, my sister chimes and makes a joke about "all men are lying cheating pigs" .  I waited till the woman  walked away and said to my sister "I'd like to hear his side". It stopped my sister cold.
Apparently, she forgot that there are three sides to every story.