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Post by Mr. Positive on Dec 2, 2016 12:41:33 GMT -5
In this thread let's look back at the last time we had good sex and think about what helped us get there.
I'm not talking about him/her laying there like a sex doll so you can get off. I'm talking about when you both were really into each other wanting to try new things and find new limits and pleasures.
What made it work. Why do you think it worked? I'm hoping that we all can find a common solution to help.
I also know it's going to be very hard for many of us to even remember a time. A lot of frustrating times that just continued to divide our relationships with the people we love and chose to spend our lives with. Please hold back the negative stories for this thread and give any positive ideas so we can move it the right direction.
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Post by Isabellas39 on Dec 2, 2016 12:50:46 GMT -5
I'm not sure how this helps ....In any case, the last time would have been very early on in my marriage..It worked because he was a willing participant who wanted the same thing I did at the time...It doesn't work now now because he has no interest, and I ran out of patience ..I no longer have any interest in teaching a grown man how to please me, or where to touch me..If at his age he's forgotten then that's his issue.
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Post by Mr. Positive on Dec 2, 2016 12:51:18 GMT -5
Well, I'll start things off.
Lucky for me I started keeping notes a few months ago. After about 3 weeks (15 rejections) I decided not to write down the excuses and negative times because I'll just dwell on them. So I deleted them. We did have sex on 11/3 but it was boring and she wasn't into it at all so that doesn't count.
10/6-The kids spent the night at the parents house and we had date night. It included a couple of drinks, movie, and diner. (after thinking about the past I think alcohol helped 95% of the time.)
Several Moths before-She woke me up in the middle of the night. I can't remember what led her to do that.
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 2, 2016 12:56:41 GMT -5
Prior to marriage. The ex was my first and only boyfriend. I didn't know from anyone or anything else which was totally in favor of and to the advantage of his manipulative, controlling, cheating, porn addictive ass. But like all good things they come to an end. His gig was up after I found EP and eventually I decided to outsource.
And what did the universe give me after I was faithful for 21 naive years?
A very compatible lover and the best fuck of my life. 21 years of karma is working out sexually for me now.
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Post by beachguy on Dec 2, 2016 12:57:24 GMT -5
If it ever happened it was before the marriage. That was well over 30 years ago. Sorry, I can't add anything useful here
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Post by Mr. Positive on Dec 2, 2016 12:58:20 GMT -5
Hey, Isabellas39 you beat me to it.
Thanks for the response.
First off this is really strange for me. I'm new as of yesterday and up until then I was a true believer that women didn't really like it as much as guys. Wholly Sh!t this is cool. I am so glad I'm not alone.
I'm just curious, have you ever tried to pleasure yourself next to him after he came up with a pathetic excuse? I heard it works. I can't possibly think of a time when I wouldn't want to have sex. But if I somehow wasn't "in the mood" that would certainly work for me.
I've never tried it with my wife because I know for a fact she wouldn't talk to me for days.
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 2, 2016 13:00:26 GMT -5
I'm not sure how this helps ....In any case, the last time would have been very early on in my marriage..It worked because he was a willing participant who wanted the same thing I did at the time...It doesn't work now now because he has no interest, and I ran out of patience ..I no longer have any interest in teaching a grown man how to please me, or where to touch me..If at his age he's forgotten then that's his issue. "I no longer have any interest in teaching a grown man how to please me, or where to touch me..If at his age he's forgotten then that's his issue." Amen to that sister!!! |
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Post by Mr. Positive on Dec 2, 2016 13:01:30 GMT -5
bballgirl, I'm glad you finally found good times again.
beachguy, Sorry. At least we are in the right place. Hopefully we find something that works.
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Post by novembercomingfire on Dec 2, 2016 13:17:49 GMT -5
In this thread let's look back at the last time we had good sex and think about what helped us get there. I'm not talking about him/her laying there like a sex doll so you can get off. I'm talking about when you both were really into each other wanting to try new things and find new limits and pleasures. What made it work. Why do you think it worked? I'm hoping that we all can find a common solution to help. I also know it's going to be very hard for many of us to even remember a time. A lot of frustrating times that just continued to divide our relationships with the people we love and chose to spend our lives with. Please hold back the negative stories for this thread and give any positive ideas so we can move it the right direction. Tough call. Not sure I recall for certain, but maybe September 2003. Last real enthusiasm in any event. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2016 13:27:50 GMT -5
I know you want us to be positive and stick to things that can get us unstuck, but I have to explain my situation.
Last time we were intimate was 3 years ago and she really did not want to participate, in other words, she was just going through the motions. I bloody hate that and it has been that way since we had children, about 13 years.
Before that we were both really into each other, having lots of sex when we were trying to have kids, and also before that when we were just happy to be in each other's arms and 'make love', looking to please and satisfy each other and not look at it as just having sex. I don't know what changed (she says menopause has caused her to have zero sexual interest in me or any man). I have tried most everything(from expensive girts to Hawaiian vacations to thoughtful gestures) and I have given up thinking there is an answer for me, that she will change and somehow find any desire.
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Post by cagedtiger on Dec 2, 2016 14:49:10 GMT -5
August 2013. We were in San Diego on vacation, and i honestly think that was the most we've ever had sex in one week, much less a month or longer. Things started going downhill very, very quickly after we got back from that trip...
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Post by beachguy on Dec 2, 2016 15:14:36 GMT -5
Well, I'll start things off. Lucky for me I started keeping notes a few months ago. After about 3 weeks (15 rejections) I decided not to write down the excuses and negative times because I'll just dwell on them. So I deleted them. We did have sex on 11/3 but it was boring and she wasn't into it at all so that doesn't count. 10/6-The kids spent the night at the parents house and we had date night. It included a couple of drinks, movie, and diner. (after thinking about the past I think alcohol helped 95% of the time.) Several Moths before-She woke me up in the middle of the night. I can't remember what led her to do that. Looks like you're on a strict monthly plan... reset sex, nothing more or less. |
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Post by lwoetin on Dec 2, 2016 15:49:10 GMT -5
It's like taco Tuesday but it was on Friday or Saturday this summer. She was a big fan of GunsNRoses and she started watching videos because the band got back and began touring again. I guess she felt young again? Slash wore a T-shirt with the I'm Loving It sign formed with a woman's legs open. I am grateful to GnR for unleashing a shy gal.
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Post by warmways on Dec 2, 2016 15:58:08 GMT -5
Can we talk about sex from another relationship?
This is sad but in my marriage it was almost always terrible except when we were dating. I always had to coerce or talk him into it or he would stop halfway through with an excuse. I had awesome experience with other men I dated.
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Post by nancyb on Dec 2, 2016 16:08:06 GMT -5
I have nothing of value to add here. It was over 14 years ago and I can hardly remember that far back. Dismal.
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