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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2016 17:29:06 GMT -5
I always take a trip on my birthday on my own without my wife. And I tell my wife that's my present from you. She doesn't question it as I would just bring up our sexless marriage and she avoid that subject at all costs
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Post by beachguy on Oct 14, 2016 18:13:38 GMT -5
I think for my next birthday, I'm going to ask for sex. This will be a big improvement over the coffee mug I got this year. 😒 I got a lucite salt & pepper shaker for XMAS one year. It was on sale for $9.99 on Amazon. I just checked the current price is $16.99. That same year I bought her a new iPhone and lots of other stuff. My kids looked at me and said, "Dad, are you sad that you only got a salt shaker for XMAS?" I said "No, the smiles on your faces is more than enough to make me happy for another year!" The next year I got a suitcase. She has a birthday coming up. Can't decide what to get her. Would being served divorce papers be too much? 😂 You could nicely gift wrap the divorce papers  I'm having a déjà Vu here... I think the idea of gift wrapped divorce papers came up on EP? |
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Post by becca on Oct 14, 2016 18:56:47 GMT -5
She has a birthday coming up. Can't decide what to get her. Would being served divorce papers be too much? 😂 Perhaps on a lucite tray? |
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Post by becca on Oct 14, 2016 19:04:21 GMT -5
During one of our many unproductive talks about intimacy, I mentioned to my wife that birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's Day, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, as well as long weekends and vacations were a perfect time to say "I Love You" through intimacy AND other acts of kindness. I thought I was truly stating the obvious, but since many of these "sentimental days" passed us by every year without any intimacy, I felt compelled to finally make my feelings known. Well, my legal roommate of 25 years was actually floored, or at least she pretended to be. She said I get "Anniversaries and Valentine's Day, but birthdays and Christmas? Do you expect to get laid on Easter too? You expect to get off on the holiest day of the year? That's selfish and sick!" Who ever said anything about Easter, not that there is anything wrong with that. SMH 😠Whoa! And what about your marriage covenant? Does she think what she is doing is holy even for a second?! Easter is about renewal. Great day for sex between a husband and a wife. |
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Post by beachguy on Oct 14, 2016 19:42:16 GMT -5
During one of our many unproductive talks about intimacy, I mentioned to my wife that birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's Day, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, as well as long weekends and vacations were a perfect time to say "I Love You" through intimacy AND other acts of kindness. I thought I was truly stating the obvious, but since many of these "sentimental days" passed us by every year without any intimacy, I felt compelled to finally make my feelings known. Well, my legal roommate of 25 years was actually floored, or at least she pretended to be. She said I get "Anniversaries and Valentine's Day, but birthdays and Christmas? Do you expect to get laid on Easter too? You expect to get off on the holiest day of the year? That's selfish and sick!" Who ever said anything about Easter, not that there is anything wrong with that. SMH 😠Whoa! And what about your marriage covenant? Does she think what she is doing is holy even for a second?! Easter is about renewal. Great day for sex between a husband and a wife. We all know some marriage vows are more equal than others.... |
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 14, 2016 20:45:10 GMT -5
During one of our many unproductive talks about intimacy, I mentioned to my wife that birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's Day, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, as well as long weekends and vacations were a perfect time to say "I Love You" through intimacy AND other acts of kindness. I thought I was truly stating the obvious, but since many of these "sentimental days" passed us by every year without any intimacy, I felt compelled to finally make my feelings known. Well, my legal roommate of 25 years was actually floored, or at least she pretended to be. She said I get "Anniversaries and Valentine's Day, but birthdays and Christmas? Do you expect to get laid on Easter too? You expect to get off on the holiest day of the year? That's selfish and sick!" Who ever said anything about Easter, not that there is anything wrong with that. SMH 😠Whoa! And what about your marriage covenant? Does she think what she is doing is holy even for a second?! Easter is about renewal. Great day for sex between a husband and a wife. Easter is also about, the rise, coming back to life, second chances, new beginnings, and miracles! All foreign to a refuser. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 14, 2016 20:59:54 GMT -5
I just came back from a peaceful time at the Atlantic, glowing in full moonlight, with the lifeguard tower all to myself. A comfort came over me, being alone on my birthday. Remembering all the past birthdays of tolerating the fake game of " celebrating" with my detached, self absorbed spouse. Going from , wondering, is there a slight glimmer of hope that there will be sex on my birthday, if I do everything right, the stars are in alignment, and she deems me worthy of a tolerable evening? Years later it's down to knowing maybe we can say a few sentences, enjoy the food, and the kids will at least know that we went out together, for Dads birthday. Leading to the present. Knowing the divorce has started, no turning back, and no stress of faking happiness, while the refuser just coasts along with life!
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Post by Dan on Oct 17, 2016 10:05:20 GMT -5
During one of our many unproductive talks about intimacy, I mentioned to my wife that birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's Day, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, as well as long weekends and vacations were a perfect time to say "I Love You" through intimacy AND other acts of kindness. I thought I was truly stating the obvious, but since many of these "sentimental days" passed us by every year without any intimacy, I felt compelled to finally make my feelings known. Well, my legal roommate of 25 years was actually floored, or at least she pretended to be. She said I get "Anniversaries and Valentine's Day, but birthdays and Christmas? Do you expect to get laid on Easter too? You expect to get off on the holiest day of the year? That's selfish and sick!" Who ever said anything about Easter, not that there is anything wrong with that. SMH 😠This -- to me -- firmly indicates that she sees sex as dirty/unholy/unwholesome... possibly even a sin. That sounds like an irreconcilable difference of views about sex. |
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Post by beachguy on Oct 17, 2016 10:35:31 GMT -5
During one of our many unproductive talks about intimacy, I mentioned to my wife that birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's Day, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, as well as long weekends and vacations were a perfect time to say "I Love You" through intimacy AND other acts of kindness. I thought I was truly stating the obvious, but since many of these "sentimental days" passed us by every year without any intimacy, I felt compelled to finally make my feelings known. Well, my legal roommate of 25 years was actually floored, or at least she pretended to be. She said I get "Anniversaries and Valentine's Day, but birthdays and Christmas? Do you expect to get laid on Easter too? You expect to get off on the holiest day of the year? That's selfish and sick!" Who ever said anything about Easter, not that there is anything wrong with that. SMH 😠This -- to me -- firmly indicates that she sees sex as dirty/unholy/unwholesome... possibly even a sin. That sounds like an irreconcilable difference of views about sex. When you're down to negotiating frequency in the context of 2 or 4 times a year, your future is quite certain unless effective change is made. |
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Post by charmedheart on Oct 18, 2016 9:00:13 GMT -5
I went out of town for 3 weeks! I did exactly what I wanted to do without giving it a second thought!
I surrounded myself with his absence!!!
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