Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 22, 2016 2:08:42 GMT -5
Not even a hot sex reset.
Warning. EO is rambling!
He tried to reset talk me again last night. I, very calmly and grown uply (yes that's a word in my head), was trying to discuss with him how different we are and how we both get frustrated because the other has different expectations within not just our relationship but in life too. That is not that I'm right and he's wrong, or vice versa, just that we're different.
He freaked at first and stormed off slamming doors. Then came back to tell me the weed will stop. On Friday when he runs out. He said we'll go for walks. We'll get bikes and go out together. He also said he's not trying anything I like though. He won't try anything he's never tried before.
Rather disappointing. He's absolutely is not going to eat anything vegetarian or vegan. Not even one meal. But he will try to eat less shit. Shit is his staple diet.
The sex didn't even come up.
He's in cloud cuckoo land.
So he expects me to be all happy and excited now that he is going to go to all this effort.
He says he loves me. I'm sure he does. But more in a "you always bail me out of the messes I make and don't give me too much hassle" kind of way. He doesn't want the kind of relationship I need. He makes some of the right noises to shut me up. Because that's what I've done the last 17 years (anniversary is 1 Oct. Will not be marking it!).
I told him too how hard I find it hard to talk to him because he either shouts me down, ignores me completely, or twists things to hang blame on me and tries to imply that wanting what I want isn't normal.
Thanks to finding you lot I know it is normal though.
So here we go on another reset trip. How many more of these will I put up with? The end of my tether is getting closer.
Warning. EO is rambling!
He tried to reset talk me again last night. I, very calmly and grown uply (yes that's a word in my head), was trying to discuss with him how different we are and how we both get frustrated because the other has different expectations within not just our relationship but in life too. That is not that I'm right and he's wrong, or vice versa, just that we're different.
He freaked at first and stormed off slamming doors. Then came back to tell me the weed will stop. On Friday when he runs out. He said we'll go for walks. We'll get bikes and go out together. He also said he's not trying anything I like though. He won't try anything he's never tried before.
Rather disappointing. He's absolutely is not going to eat anything vegetarian or vegan. Not even one meal. But he will try to eat less shit. Shit is his staple diet.
The sex didn't even come up.
He's in cloud cuckoo land.
So he expects me to be all happy and excited now that he is going to go to all this effort.
He says he loves me. I'm sure he does. But more in a "you always bail me out of the messes I make and don't give me too much hassle" kind of way. He doesn't want the kind of relationship I need. He makes some of the right noises to shut me up. Because that's what I've done the last 17 years (anniversary is 1 Oct. Will not be marking it!).
I told him too how hard I find it hard to talk to him because he either shouts me down, ignores me completely, or twists things to hang blame on me and tries to imply that wanting what I want isn't normal.
Thanks to finding you lot I know it is normal though.
So here we go on another reset trip. How many more of these will I put up with? The end of my tether is getting closer.
