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Post by lwoetin on Sept 4, 2016 6:10:58 GMT -5
You could do it solo but it would be easier with help from mom. But you should find out if she will provide it or not. I think it is OK to ask and not let pride get in the way. I was visiting my parents over the summer and see how fragile my dad's health is. they are in CA and I am in NC, so on opposite coasts. I think about moving closer but so many issues. I would ask parents if we can move in temporarily too, if we choose to move and can't find/afford a place (they are in San Francisco area). They would love to have the kids over. Good luck with sorting out your housing situation. Life is such a struggle but try to stay positive. I like to run and think too.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2016 6:21:34 GMT -5
In the cold light of morning, and with no hangover thankfully, i think I'll ask for another 6 months on the lease. I will have the option to extend or release myself from it then and it will give me that bit more time to get organised. I'm gonna get me a plan on action. I have avoided seriously looking at the legal side so maybe this is what needs to happen now. It'll be ok won't it? I hate to sound like a corporate jerkoff, but an exit plan is an exit PLAN. Don't say maybe you need to pursue a vague goal. You will do something specific by a certain time. You will contact one lawyer by Friday. This gives you a week to research and get referrals. Can you do this? |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2016 6:24:06 GMT -5
Had a daaaaahling run and yoga sesh. My head and my body feel bloody fabulous. Just tried to have some gentle chats with him about the state of our relationship. Very basic stuff about food and cooking actually, and a little about interests. He has decided that silence in answer to my questions, comments, and any attempts to open any kind of relationship or future type discussion is his best option. Fucks sake. He literally acts like I didn't say anything. Durr. You think he's beginning to realise the end is nigh? No, he thinks he still has you under his control. That's good, because he doesn't, right? Don't even hint about leaving until you've talked to a lawyer by Friday. |
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Post by baza on Sept 4, 2016 6:40:01 GMT -5
He may be catching a clue.
For your sake I hope he isn't, but he might be.
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It would be in your best interests to shine him on, encourage him to think there is no threat to the status quo.
No good can come from him knowing that you want to end the circus, particularly given the history.
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I believe that yours, needs to be a clandestine strategy.
For your own safety as much as anything else.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 4, 2016 7:51:54 GMT -5
Had a daaaaahling run and yoga sesh. My head and my body feel bloody fabulous. Just tried to have some gentle chats with him about the state of our relationship. Very basic stuff about food and cooking actually, and a little about interests. He has decided that silence in answer to my questions, comments, and any attempts to open any kind of relationship or future type discussion is his best option. Fucks sake. He literally acts like I didn't say anything. Durr. You think he's beginning to realise the end is nigh? No, he thinks he still has you under his control. That's good, because he doesn't, right? Don't even hint about leaving until you've talked to a lawyer by Friday. He he he. Ok. I reckon I can do that  x |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 4, 2016 7:54:35 GMT -5
Had a daaaaahling run and yoga sesh. My head and my body feel bloody fabulous. Just tried to have some gentle chats with him about the state of our relationship. Very basic stuff about food and cooking actually, and a little about interests. He has decided that silence in answer to my questions, comments, and any attempts to open any kind of relationship or future type discussion is his best option. Fucks sake. He literally acts like I didn't say anything. Durr. You think he's beginning to realise the end is nigh? My roommate has been doing a lot of that as of late, and i think it's for the want reason. Realizing it's ending. So better to stay silent and keep the head in the sand than to say anything and risk facing that reality. It's just silly isn't it. Not happy together but unwilling to be apart. Silly sexless self absorbed selfish sausages. You like that bballgirl he he. Or is it JMX with the alliteration? Je ne sais pas! |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 4, 2016 8:33:41 GMT -5
My roommate has been doing a lot of that as of late, and i think it's for the want reason. Realizing it's ending. So better to stay silent and keep the head in the sand than to say anything and risk facing that reality. It's just silly isn't it. Not happy together but unwilling to be apart. Silly sexless self absorbed selfish sausages. You like that bballgirl he he. Or is it JMX with the alliteration? Je ne sais pas! Hahaha!! It's me! I love it!! |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 4, 2016 21:06:56 GMT -5
I am screaming so loud, on the inside, my ears are hurting.
I hate that I wont get out of this relationship. I dont blame her anymore. It has been 17 years ans he has not changed. I cant expect that she will.
She gets all the sex she wants........
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