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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 7, 2016 11:28:06 GMT -5
I am tall, 5'8". My husband is the same height. When we were first married, we seemed find ways to fit together. Over the years things have become awkward. His body isn't comfortable with mine.
He had never been able to put his arm over my shoulder while sitting or standing because it's uncomfortable for both of us. Me, because I have to slouch down and him because he has to twist in an awkward position. The arm around the waist was preferred.
Hugging is awkward too. If he gives he a bear hug it is uncomfortable because my breasts and his pecs are at the same level. It's like bumpers hitting a wall. I can't lay my head on his shoulder unless I bend, sticking my butt out. I can imagine how odd it looks.
Spooning works better when he spoons me. If he spoons me. When I ache to feel body contact, I spoon him. I stay until he reaches around and gives me the three pats which mean "that's enough of that". [
Sex is different with every man. There is a position that works best with that particular lover. What do you do when that best position no longer works? Find a new one? I can honestly say that we tried. What worked for me didn't for him, and vice versa.
He isn't into foreplay or oral or kissing. He obviously believed I should get aroused by the mere presence of his amazing masculinity. Ok, it worked until I started going through menopause. I asked for what I needed to enjoy sex. (See "Devastating Statements") I did get two very nice sessions but he said I was too demanding and hard to please. He says that I'm a1%'er. I am someone that complains about that one tiny percentage of imperfection. I don't know why, but that statement cut deep. It made me doubt myself. Can I find pleasure with a man? Is there a man that can please me and meet my needs? I had to find out.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2016 14:01:53 GMT -5
Your H is acting like a jerk - who says those kinds of things? A 1%er? What the heck? Sex is about pleasing each other, taking joy in each other's bodies. He's just being cruel to get you to back off - if he hurts you badly enough, maybe you won't approach him anymore. And it's a GOOD thing to tell your lover what pleases you - ideally you both do that and then you remember what works so you can please each other again! I think a lot of men would love a partner as open as you are.
I'm the same height as you (same city, too!) and the best lover I ever had was two inches shorter than me. Yes, we had the same issues with the arm over the shoulder, head on the shoulder thing, etc, but I can honestly say it never slowed us down one bit when we were horizontal. And because we were so well matched sexually, I didn't give a rip that I was taller than he was (in the past it was something that had bothered me greatly). I could never keep from smirking if anyone commented on our height difference.
Oddly enough, my STBX used to do the same "patting" thing when I would spoon him! I hated it - it always felt like he was treating me like a dog - okay, good girl, that's enough now! Yet another thing I don't miss one bit.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 7, 2016 14:13:37 GMT -5
I have no problem with shorter men, but being in the arms of someone taller and stronger is a treat.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2016 15:59:35 GMT -5
I have no problem with shorter men, but being in the arms of someone taller and stronger is a treat. You mentioned that you had to find out if you could find pleasure with a man? Did you find out? Is it a treat or would it be a treat? Strike that last question your honor. I see it was answered on EP. New question: How do you feel about all that now? Is he toast? |
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Post by darktippedrose on Apr 7, 2016 16:21:20 GMT -5
I'm shorter than my husband. He's 5'11" and 5'2". I'm short and chubby and hes long and lanky. My husband isn't compatible with mine because he couldn't stand my white people skin and white people hair. I have too much body heat I like to have close contact in bed, he doesn't. He wants to sprawl sideways. He doesn't need or crave cuddling and embracing like I do.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2016 22:27:21 GMT -5
I'm shorter than my husband. He's 5'11" and 5'2". I'm short and chubby and hes long and lanky. My husband isn't compatible with mine because he couldn't stand my white people skin and white people hair. I have too much body heat I like to have close contact in bed, he doesn't. He wants to sprawl sideways. He doesn't need or crave cuddling and embracing like I do. That's tough. Hard to change your race. I see lots of folk trying, but the results are mixed. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2016 16:19:17 GMT -5
I have no problem with shorter men, but being in the arms of someone taller and stronger is a treat. LOL! I could say "me too," but since I'm about 5'2", I've never been with a man who was shorter than me. Ironically, I've always wished I was tall. |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 8, 2016 16:27:32 GMT -5
I don't mind being tall, but I always thought the petites had cuter clothes.
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 9, 2016 8:26:27 GMT -5
I'm short and fairly thin. I've been with women taller and shorter then me. The only difference I've seen is that if your partner WANTS to have intimate contact, it will work. The arm can go around the waist instead. Thin, heavy, tall or short. If the desire to fit is there, two people can make it work.
The best partner I've had was a little taller and a little heavier. (She would say fat but she'd be wrong. Curves ladies, men like them. If I wanted to see ribs I'd go to a BBQ house. I'm just saying....)
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 9, 2016 8:27:09 GMT -5
That's tough. Hard to change your race. I see lots of folk trying, but the results are mixed. Funny. |
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 9, 2016 8:28:30 GMT -5
I'm shorter than my husband. He's 5'11" and 5'2". I'm short and chubby and hes long and lanky. My husband isn't compatible with mine because he couldn't stand my white people skin and white people hair. I have too much body heat I like to have close contact in bed, he doesn't. He wants to sprawl sideways. He doesn't need or crave cuddling and embracing like I do. You say chubby, we say curvy. And apparently hot. Literally. You may think that's a bad thing. It's not. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2016 20:03:54 GMT -5
The best partner I've had was a little taller and a little heavier. (She would say fat but she'd be wrong. Curves ladies, men like them. If I wanted to see ribs I'd go to a BBQ house. I'm just saying....) That's nice to hear. I'm one of those short, curvy women. 5'2" and at my best, I have an hourglass figure. Not so fashionable nowadays. I should have been around when Marilyn Monroe was popular. Men who liked her body, would like mine. |
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Post by Chatter Fox on Apr 9, 2016 22:57:26 GMT -5
I'm short and fairly thin. I've been with women taller and shorter then me. The only difference I've seen is that if your partner WANTS to have intimate contact, it will work. The arm can go around the waist instead. Thin, heavy, tall or short. If the desire to fit is there, two people can make it work. The best partner I've had was a little taller and a little heavier. (She would say fat but she'd be wrong. Curves ladies, men like them. If I wanted to see ribs I'd go to a BBQ house. I'm just saying....) Agreed 100% on every part of this! I remember dating a girl way back in the day that was slightly petite. One thing that disappointed me was that our hands didn't mesh well together when we held hands. It was like mine were too big for hers. It was like we didn't fit. In retrospect, I put way too much emphasis on that "mismatch". In the end, it didn't matter. What was important was that she genuinely wanted to hold my hand too. ...and she very much gave me the vibe that she did, in fact, want to hold my hand. We could have worked around that hand size issue easily. My wife's hand fits mine, yet when I hold her hand, it feels almost lifeless... or uncomfortable at best. It feels like she's not really holding my hand back. Now granted, it wasn't always like that, but even during the good old days, there was a slight hint of hesitation or insincerity behind our hand holding. I noticed it back then, I had concerns about it, yet I turned a blind eye. |
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Post by Chatter Fox on Apr 9, 2016 23:01:23 GMT -5
The best partner I've had was a little taller and a little heavier. (She would say fat but she'd be wrong. Curves ladies, men like them. If I wanted to see ribs I'd go to a BBQ house. I'm just saying....) That's nice to hear. I'm one of those short, curvy women. 5'2" and at my best, I have an hourglass figure. Not so fashionable nowadays. I should have been around when Marilyn Monroe was popular. Men who liked her body, would like mine. Men still like that body type. The problem is that there is too much nonsense out there being thrown into women's faces these days. I'd take a real woman with curves any day over some stick figure. I would bet any money that I'm not the only one that feels that way. Own it, girl. Guys like it. Go get you some!  |
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 10, 2016 8:27:13 GMT -5
The best partner I've had was a little taller and a little heavier. (She would say fat but she'd be wrong. Curves ladies, men like them. If I wanted to see ribs I'd go to a BBQ house. I'm just saying....) That's nice to hear. I'm one of those short, curvy women. 5'2" and at my best, I have an hourglass figure. Not so fashionable nowadays. I should have been around when Marilyn Monroe was popular. Men who liked her body, would like mine. She is still considered one of the sexiest women who ever lived. I dont understand why some men want a women who looks like a guy. No hips no chest no curves. Just marry a guy, its legal now. No one cares. |
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