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Post by ironhamster on Jan 16, 2020 23:13:59 GMT -5
Thank you, ironhamster. I agree that open marriage or DADT are viable solutions for some and perhaps could be for me. I've tiptoed around the subject, but haven't gotten 100% frank or total clearance yet. Or maybe I have gotten clearance and I don't know it. DH occasionally dangles a reset, but I don't want it any more. Does that make me a counterrefuser if I don't push for a reset but pursue don't ask don't tell? Oh well, guess I should forgive myself, right? Yes. That is counter-refusal. And, yes, you should forgive yourself.
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Post by grower on Jan 17, 2020 9:07:04 GMT -5
Maybe I am just old school, but I just can't wrap my head around having to deal with the complications, guilt ect, of outsourcing. I'm a one woman man and desire a lover, and not a fuck buddy or sex worker. While I am open to whatever sexual adventures my lover is into, one on one action (not a swinger)I don't think my soul is ready for outsourcing. I am hot on the trail of that big D after 20 years and with that now out in the open I think my best direction is to widen my social networks and maybe I will find someone. Would like a whole life partner, but maybe that old school philosophy has gone the way of land line phones. I have now reached the point where I am the one saying "I remember when......" Fuck, once apon a time 40 was going to be old and now 2 months to 60. At least I feel good and everything is in working order. And at least old Rosey Palm never refuses. Glass half full
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 17, 2020 9:36:24 GMT -5
Dear grower, one way of looking at ,2 months to 60,"as you move into a 55 and over community You are now one of the youngest men available on the market! And 'the market' is now in your favor . The ratio of available men vs women. You could look into 'practice dating'.
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Post by grower on Jan 17, 2020 10:12:40 GMT -5
Dear grower , one way of looking at ,2 months to 60,"as you move into a 55 and over community You are now one of the youngest men available on the market! And 'the market' is now in your favor . The ratio of available men vs women. You could look into 'practice dating'. Thanks Bro, lets be optimistic. Practice dating, so just heavy petting, maybe oral. Practice make pervert
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 17, 2020 10:26:14 GMT -5
Dear grower , one way of looking at ,2 months to 60,"as you move into a 55 and over community You are now one of the youngest men available on the market! And 'the market' is now in your favor . The ratio of available men vs women. You could look into 'practice dating'. Thanks Bro, lets be optimistic. Practice dating, so just heavy petting, maybe oral. Practice make pervert This is what I mean by " a practice date". iliasm.org/thread/2776/out-on-practice-date-meAlso, finding a woman who has ,also endured and gone through a SM, can give you a fresh new start with someone who understands the concept of giving and receiving. Not just taking, taking, taking. I can imagine a 55 and over community is loaded with such wonderful people. It's part of taking the risk ,and moving forward. (i'm 56 and my woman is 50) There is a HUGE community here in Florida known as "the Villages" .55 and over. The highest no. of STD's in the good ol' USA! That would make a funny license plate holder/ cover! LOL!
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Post by solodriver on Jan 17, 2020 21:07:23 GMT -5
Dear grower , one way of looking at ,2 months to 60,"as you move into a 55 and over community You are now one of the youngest men available on the market! And 'the market' is now in your favor . The ratio of available men vs women. You could look into 'practice dating'. Those are the kinds of thoughts that are keeping me going daily.
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Post by grower on Jan 21, 2020 9:08:49 GMT -5
Villages are just down the road from me, lots of wild rumors. The amount of building is unreal, considering the amount of turnover the houses must have with the age of the residents. You can just have a golf cart and get by. My Spanish is very good so I am thinking some extended trips to central and south America after the D. At least a solo sexless vacation would not be as sad as a sexless vacation with the W. Had way to many of those. Might even get lucky or get up the nerve to outsource. Peace
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