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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 14, 2020 14:39:43 GMT -5
The one minute blow jobs dried up. Now how do you suppose I knew that half a world away?
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Post by isthisit on Aug 15, 2020 16:46:55 GMT -5
The one minute blow jobs dried up. I do love my wife, that is the agony of it. The sexlessness corrodes me from the inside though. In my weird stupidity I thought sex with escorts was better than an affair or leaving her. But nope, it was just as bad. And the memory of how good the sex with a quality escort waz also corrodes me. Did your wife not just spend £150 on a dodgy ‘do? Treat yourself to a reasonable trim and spend the change on an escort for that elusive BJ wifey has been promising yet declining. Life is short
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 15, 2020 18:20:18 GMT -5
The one minute blow jobs dried up. I do love my wife, that is the agony of it. The sexlessness corrodes me from the inside though. In my weird stupidity I thought sex with escorts was better than an affair or leaving her. But nope, it was just as bad. And the memory of how good the sex with a quality escort waz also corrodes me. Did your wife not just spend £150 on a dodgy ‘do? Treat yourself to a reasonable trim and spend the change on an escort for that elusive BJ wifey has been promising yet declining. Life is short Every time your W lavishes this kind of money caring for her big head you should spend the same caring for your little head.
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Post by jerri on Aug 15, 2020 21:54:11 GMT -5
The one minute blow jobs dried up. I do love my wife, that is the agony of it. The sexlessness corrodes me from the inside though. In my weird stupidity I thought sex with escorts was better than an affair or leaving her. But nope, it was just as bad. And the memory of how good the sex with a quality escort waz also corrodes me. Just a few lines, but what an impact they had on me. I don't want to give up hope either. I really don't know when I transitioned from knowing l would no longer have wet sheets on holidays. It just happened. Does she know it corrodes you from the inside?
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Post by lessingham on Aug 16, 2020 3:36:44 GMT -5
She is aware. I cannot work through her mind set. As far as I understand it, she thinks sex is no big deal. It is enjoyable but not necessary. Since she thinks this, she assumes the same for me so my views are exaggerated or attempts to guilt trip her into sex. When we try to establish a sex then she goes along with ideas for a while but again it fades away. As for vacation sex, always a train crash that hurt like hell. I say it is important to me, really important. She says we can have lots of sex. We go on holiday and then.... too tired, too hot, too much travelling, jet lag, funny food, strange bed, too many young girls in bikinis(she feels ugly near them) In the end I feel lied to, led up the garden path and unbelievably ugly. I once spent ages in the shower trying to scrub off the ugly
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 16, 2020 6:08:56 GMT -5
Lessingham,repeatedly you post the same things. Face it: sex I with you isn’t important to your wife. She promises then fails to follow through. But you choose to keep hoping and staying.
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 16, 2020 6:41:53 GMT -5
She is aware. I cannot work through her mind set. As far as I understand it, she thinks sex is no big deal. It is enjoyable but not necessary. Since she thinks this, she assumes the same for me so my views are exaggerated or attempts to guilt trip her into sex. When we try to establish a sex then she goes along with ideas for a while but again it fades away. As for vacation sex, always a train crash that hurt like hell. I say it is important to me, really important. She says we can have lots of sex. We go on holiday and then.... too tired, too hot, too much travelling, jet lag, funny food, strange bed, too many young girls in bikinis(she feels ugly near them) In the end I feel lied to, led up the garden path and unbelievably ugly. I once spent ages in the shower trying to scrub off the ugly This post somewhat mirrors the past I had with my X. Numerous times I initiated "talks" with her about how her attitude and actions were impacting the marriage and me. And she would acknowledge her shortcomings, but very little would come of it. A short reset and then back to a SM. And it's always so disappointing when one's spouse promises one thing and does another. I never felt ugly, I'm too narcistic for that I guess. But I did feel she no longer loved me or cared about my emotional well being, not like how I constantly tried to assure her happiness and fulfillment in the marriage. So just as your marriage is doing mine became gradually more and more one sided. Your marriage will consistently continue to head down this path. You should ask yourself "how can she possibly love you and treat you so disingenuously"? Don't be afraid of the answer, knowing the answer is really the one thing that might help you if you are ever to have a life where your are not just a meal ticket and an ATM. Even an ATM gets serviced on a regular basis.
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Post by jerri on Aug 16, 2020 7:08:59 GMT -5
She is aware. I cannot work through her mind set. As far as I understand it, she thinks sex is no big deal. It is enjoyable but not necessary. Since she thinks this, she assumes the same for me so my views are exaggerated or attempts to guilt trip her into sex. When we try to establish a sex then she goes along with ideas for a while but again it fades away. As for vacation sex, always a train crash that hurt like hell. I say it is important to me, really important. She says we can have lots of sex. We go on holiday and then.... too tired, too hot, too much travelling, jet lag, funny food, strange bed, too many young girls in bikinis(she feels ugly near them) In the end I feel lied to, led up the garden path and unbelievably ugly. I once spent ages in the shower trying to scrub off the ugly Sex therapist helped me with the self loathing pain. (((Tight 💜 hugs)))
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Post by baza on Aug 16, 2020 7:23:07 GMT -5
Brother lessingham , you note that - "In the end I feel lied to, led up the garden path". You feel like that because you are being lied to and led up the garden path.
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Post by jerri on Aug 17, 2020 3:54:14 GMT -5
Lessingham, ls it possible to buy a Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit with a wall mount for the shower or closet?!?! There are some that didn't rate well. Not that you need the training, but I got one for my FWB and he said he warms it in hot water then he said the sensation is like fellatio!A first time I used it on him I blindfolded him and he said it was the neatest sensation.
You wrote about a quality lady escort. Lou Paget's hand techniques with a mouth added are amazing for him! She interviewed thousands of people and got some of their best techniques, they really are amazing and they are all named!
there are also a few lubes out there that taste decent for fellatio or coconut oil. Some techniques are not that easy to learn, but are even fun to practice till perfect! Since that's your thing you may want to make a request!?!? Another thing, request her to hold hot tea in her mouth for a bit and then go down on you! It makes my friend hold his breath! Haha, he loves the different shift and temperature change. In the summer he likes mints in the mouth before fellatio because it gives of really cool sensation to the penis.
Another is to ask her for the grapefruit technique without the loud noises, lol. Don't look it up, let her do it to you first. It's a crazy sensation! One that you can do to yourself it's called edging. She would give you fellatio with Lube in her mouth and then when you are about to let loose, she grips the base and then holds for 20 seconds until the sensation goes away and then does it all over again. When you finally do orgasm it is extremely intense. One is called fire and ice. It's done with hot tea and cool tea. And not iced tea! Lol just make sure she does one of the other techniques while she warms her mouth. Lou Paget's books have detailed instructions. Also, men use certain tens units 4 pleasure milking. There are also tools for prostate milking. I can get you to information if you are remotely interested if not, I will delete this if it is not appropriate or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way.
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Post by lessingham on Aug 17, 2020 5:43:31 GMT -5
All great ideas. But it is a bit like the belling the cat parable. If she agreed to anything, then off we go. Since she agrees to none, the techniques are there in my mind ready for the day when. You are lucky to have a fwb, by the way. The flashlight souds fun, Amazon may need to deliver several, one for each bathroom!!!!
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Post by mirrororchid on Aug 17, 2020 6:51:46 GMT -5
Lessingham,repeatedly you post the same things. Face it: sex I with you isn’t important to your wife. She promises then fails to follow through. But you choose to keep hoping and staying. Lessingham has serious self-esteem issues. If I follow, he feels physically unattractive and his wife seems to feel it's her personal right to feed his insecurity. If the man is ever going to leave (or stay and visit escorts unapologetically), he needs to respect his own rights to a modicum of happiness. I've been asking what abuse his wife engages in so I (we) might supply some counterarguments he can accept as valid and brush off some of her judgy ego-demolition. If he's so worthless/bad/etc, what does that say about teh woman that married him? Her opinions must be completely suspect! Or she's wrong to make him feel so little of himself now. One of 'em has to be true.
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Post by mirrororchid on Aug 17, 2020 10:32:23 GMT -5
You wrote about a quality lady escort. Lou Paget's hand techniques with a mouth added are amazing for him! She interviewed thousands of people and got some of their best techniques, they really are amazing and they are all named! there are also a few lubes out there that taste decent for fellatio or coconut oil. Some techniques are not that easy to learn, but are even fun to practice till perfect! Since that's your thing you may want to make a request!?!? Another thing, request her to hold hot tea in her mouth for a bit and then go down on you! It makes my friend hold his breath! Haha, he loves the different shift and temperature change. In the summer he likes mints in the mouth before fellatio because it gives of really cool sensation to the penis. Another is to ask her for the grapefruit technique without the loud noises, lol. Don't look it up, let her do it to you first. It's a crazy sensation! One that you can do to yourself it's called edging. She would give you fellatio with Lube in her mouth and then when you are about to let loose, she grips the base and then holds for 20 seconds until the sensation goes away and then does it all over again. When you finally do orgasm it is extremely intense. One is called fire and ice. It's done with hot tea and cool tea. And not iced tea! Lol just make sure she does one of the other techniques while she warms her mouth. Lou Paget's books have detailed instructions. Also, men use certain tens units 4 pleasure milking. There are also tools for prostate milking. I can get you to information if you are remotely interested if not, I will delete this if it is not appropriate or makes you feel uncomfortable in any way. Good gracious, how had I not heard of her before? Lucked upon an e-book of hers. thanks2net.com/ebook/(eBook)%20How%20To%20Be%20A%20Great%20Lover%2001-01.pdfEven if a lady isn't up for all this stuff, it's not a bad thing to know your options.
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Post by Handy on Aug 17, 2020 14:03:19 GMT -5
Thanks for the e-book link. I downloaded the book.
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Post by jerri on Aug 17, 2020 16:03:56 GMT -5
That's the exact book! it is in two of her books. I can show you later where I found all of those techniques in books or on the internet. 💙
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