Post by xander on Feb 1, 2018 10:57:39 GMT -5
This is my first post here, and it saddens me greatly that it's come to this.
I've been with my partner for about 8 years and we have two kids age 6 and 3. Sex was amazing at first but has slowly dwindled to once every few months. At first I put this down to exhaustion and the stress of parenting, but now I'm worried if we'll ever get back to having a 'normal' sex life. It doesn't help that my partner had an abortion last year (wasn't difficult to figure out the day of conception) and her father passed away a month ago. I absolutely do not want to put her under any pressure right now for all those reasons.
But my god, It's not easy going without. I tried last night but she said she just wasn't in the right frame of mind. A discussion followed (our first on the subject) and she said she'd become "scared" of sex. I'm not sure what that means, but when she's ready I know we need to talk again. She also said she feels really bad about our lack of intimacy, so I know she's been thinking about it too.
So after that chat I found myself googling which led me here, and reading the forum has made me thoroughly depressed! Is there ANY hope?! I'd settle for one roll in the hay every couple of weeks.
Also, I've been on the other side of this. I had a 5 year relationship once where I totally lost interest. My girlfriend at that time put on a lot of weight (Just being honest, don't judge) and had all sorts of sexual hangups which were a huge turnoff. I remember her grabbing every opportunity to give me a BJ I didn't want, then bursting into tears half way through when I didn't cum. Really terrible situation and I should have called it quits on that one way sooner than I did.
I really hope we can turn this around because I love my current partner more than anything and our lives are great in every other way.
I've been with my partner for about 8 years and we have two kids age 6 and 3. Sex was amazing at first but has slowly dwindled to once every few months. At first I put this down to exhaustion and the stress of parenting, but now I'm worried if we'll ever get back to having a 'normal' sex life. It doesn't help that my partner had an abortion last year (wasn't difficult to figure out the day of conception) and her father passed away a month ago. I absolutely do not want to put her under any pressure right now for all those reasons.
But my god, It's not easy going without. I tried last night but she said she just wasn't in the right frame of mind. A discussion followed (our first on the subject) and she said she'd become "scared" of sex. I'm not sure what that means, but when she's ready I know we need to talk again. She also said she feels really bad about our lack of intimacy, so I know she's been thinking about it too.
So after that chat I found myself googling which led me here, and reading the forum has made me thoroughly depressed! Is there ANY hope?! I'd settle for one roll in the hay every couple of weeks.
Also, I've been on the other side of this. I had a 5 year relationship once where I totally lost interest. My girlfriend at that time put on a lot of weight (Just being honest, don't judge) and had all sorts of sexual hangups which were a huge turnoff. I remember her grabbing every opportunity to give me a BJ I didn't want, then bursting into tears half way through when I didn't cum. Really terrible situation and I should have called it quits on that one way sooner than I did.
I really hope we can turn this around because I love my current partner more than anything and our lives are great in every other way.