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Post by tiredoftears on Sept 5, 2019 23:31:07 GMT -5
If you were very close to someone, and you’re now going to be spending a lot less time together, would you eventually forget them? And if so, how long would it take? I’m being purposefully vague. It depends. I've been close to lots of people and cut off ties. I never FORGET the people, but I stop thinking about them very often. It depends on the situation.
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Post by tiredoftears on Sept 2, 2019 13:11:29 GMT -5
I used to meet up with strange men on Craigslist. Yes, many men lie about the size of their penis, or send fake photos. There was more than I occasion, that the Craigslist-er that I met up with had lied about his size, and I literally looked at it, and told him nevermind. I do not care how that made them feel either.
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Post by tiredoftears on Aug 20, 2019 16:37:24 GMT -5
Does any one know of any for women? I'm gonna ask my doctor. After all this time, if he wanted something to change, he'd have done it by now. Maybe I can just lower my libido, and not think about it as much. Idk. Any thoughts? Chemical castration for women? Don't do it. I was on an SSRI for a little bit and I still wanted sex but my dick wouldn't work and touching myself felt like I was touching my arm. Yeah.... But my situation is weird. He'd rather I go elsewhere, and for about a year, I did... But it wasn't enough, and wasn't "right". For one. I feel like if I am in a relationship, sex should be convenient. I shouldn't have to make a plan days to a week ahead of time with a friend to have sex. It just started to feel burdensome. Nothing being spur of the moment, and I honestly still want sex daily, and was only scheduling it once a month, since I don't have a driver's license, it made it a lot more difficult. If I could just get up and go meet them myself, at least some of the times, things would be easier. I felt guilty asking people to come get me, take me to a motel, take me back home, or even just to always have to come to my house. It just felt like an awkward situation, to me. Maybe, once I am finally able to get a copy of my birth certificate, and then can get a driver's license, it will make outsourcing easier. Another issue I had with it was.... I had multiple partners. Over my lifetime, I have had HUNDREDS of sexual partners. It was not a big deal. I wasn't worried about anyone else's life much, except my own. Now I have a kid, and even though I have been very careful over the last year with the five different people I have had sex with, I kept worrying maybe being careful wasn't enough. Then, I had a physical a few months ago... I had my blood taken for several tests and they called me back to talk about my results. All I could think was I was gonna have HIV or something. I was terrified waiting the two weeks to find out. It turned out I was not immune to measles - so I needed a booster, I had vitamin D levels at a 12, when they shouldn't be below 30, and I have fatty deposits in my liver, which should improve upon losing weight, but I have to go back for repeat testing in a few months to ensure the supplements are working, and to see if my liver seems to be improving, and hopefully both things are better. I think living with that fear of wondering if, even though I've been very careful, if something was wrong with me because I decided to outsource to fulfill my sexual desires, just really fucked with my head. I mean, I have had sex with a lot of people in my lifetime, well over two hundred, and.... I don't want my luck to have run out. I won't take that risk. I gotta do right by my kid and put their life first... Kinda. PLUS... I can barely masturbate anymore. I feel a deep sense of shame and disgust about it now. I don't know why. The last several months when I've masturbated, I've sometimes cried afterwards. I feel pathetic, having these needs that my partner refuses to be a part of. It makes me feel... Pathetic. I mean, that really is the best word for it. Just SOOOOOO fucking pathetic. I feel so alone, and hurt, and it's just not working for me. I don't know what to do about it. Just give up on pleasure? I mean..... It's depressing. I'm going to talk to my doctor about it, and see what she recommends. I just.... I don't know. Want something. Maybe I'll try outsourcing again in the future, but I just can't continue it right now.
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Post by tiredoftears on Aug 20, 2019 16:20:53 GMT -5
Wonder if that could lower my libido...
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Post by tiredoftears on Aug 20, 2019 16:14:48 GMT -5
Ah, sadkat, yes I know that song. It actually hit #1 for a good while. I’m surprised her name didn’t stick in my head. And I agree there’s value to self-esteem in looking good. Manicures, hair, outfit, shoes... surely, lingerie. But, of course, having someone who appreciates it makes all the difference in how powerful it is. Though personally I feel better in a sharp suit vs. lingerie, so I suppose it depends on the person! ;-) So... Uh... Sounds like you've tried lingerie by making that comparison.... Any photos? 😉
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Post by tiredoftears on Aug 20, 2019 15:44:14 GMT -5
Does any one know of any for women? I'm gonna ask my doctor. After all this time, if he wanted something to change, he'd have done it by now. Maybe I can just lower my libido, and not think about it as much. Idk. Any thoughts? Chemical castration for women?
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Post by tiredoftears on Aug 11, 2019 13:09:32 GMT -5
Quick peck at bedtime, quick Peck when he leaves for work. That's it.
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Post by tiredoftears on Apr 14, 2019 3:55:30 GMT -5
An HOUR??? Damn. My man lasts about two minutes.... TOPS. Like he's TRYING to hurry and get it over with. And that is a RARE occasion. Again, so glad I get to have sex with other people. My girlfriend's husband is void of passion, gets about 60% hard, and is also a two pump chump. The only time he has any sexual interest is when she gets home from seeing me. It's kind of gross, really. Lol. That actually sounds a lot like him.
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Post by tiredoftears on Apr 12, 2019 23:59:21 GMT -5
My hubby and I had sex tonight. No not great he couldn't even get off after an hour of oral, vaginal, and anal sex. He didn't even bother to say anything he just pulled out and went to the bathroom. Are you fucking kidding me. I don't ever and I mean ever want ANYONE to see me naked again EVER!!! This just desamated any tiny sliver of self esteem I had left. I am just shattered and there is nothing left of a woman anymore just an empty shell. An HOUR??? Damn. My man lasts about two minutes.... TOPS. Like he's TRYING to hurry and get it over with. And that is a RARE occasion. Again, so glad I get to have sex with other people.
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Post by tiredoftears on Feb 2, 2019 4:55:28 GMT -5
I think I'm just still hurt about the last three Valentine's Days. And just because now I have the option of fucking other people, doesn't fix it. It hurts less, but it still hurts. The solution became "I'll just fuck other people." But I still was never told what the problem was in the first place. So it's like, no closure. The weird thing is, I have been fine with it this whole last year, completely felt like "ok, things are 'fixed' now". But with Valentine's Day approaching, it feels different. The shame has returned. Maybe I'm just hung up on unnecessary details. We do still get along great, never fight or argue. But.... IDK. I just am starting to feel crappy again. Maybe it's because I haven't had sex since the beginning of December. IDK. As soon as I'm over this cold, I'm scheduling another play date.
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Post by tiredoftears on Feb 1, 2019 19:22:48 GMT -5
He hasn't brought it up, and neither have I. The last three years, I asked for sex and chocolate, only to receive the latter. IF he brings up Valentine's Day, I plan on telling him we no longer celebrate it, because we aren't romantically involved. Maybe I'll spend the night with a fuck buddy. Crapity crap crap crap. I am so sorry to hear things have degraded again, but hopefully the outsourcing is good. Oh, maybe I wrote that wrong. No, we are still getting along great.
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Post by tiredoftears on Feb 1, 2019 4:57:42 GMT -5
He hasn't brought it up, and neither have I. The last three years, I asked for sex and chocolate, only to receive the latter. IF he brings up Valentine's Day, I plan on telling him we no longer celebrate it, because we aren't romantically involved. Maybe I'll spend the night with a fuck buddy.
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Post by tiredoftears on Nov 29, 2018 16:55:37 GMT -5
Tell him you need sex and just start fucking some one else, but stay in your relationship. He might agree to that. Because he sounds very nice, other than no sex.
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Post by tiredoftears on Nov 29, 2018 16:54:40 GMT -5
Thank you for this site. I have been faithfully married to my husband for 25 years. The past 10 have been sexless. Early in our marriage sex was fun and regular. Now, he has absolutely no interest in sex. Zero interest. On our 25th wedding anniversary we traveled to Paris for a week. On the final day of the trip, after having no sex the entire time, I told him I was leaving our marriage. He begged and pleaded for me to stay. He went to the doctor when we got home and came up with a “plan” to reduce stress, exercise, etc. He has no medical problems. It’s now 6 months later and nothing has changed. Still no sex - ever. He is a wonderful man. He hugs me, holds my hand, brings me coffee in bed every single morning, callls me and texts me all throughout his day, and we even still have a date night out every week. We’ve never even slept in separate bedrooms. I just can’t live without sexual intimacy. I just don’t know what to do ..... As a side note - Five years ago, when we began talking about the problem, he tried Viagra and hated it as it felt unnatural to him. He stopped taking it within 3 months. I have a question. Could he be on the autism spectrum?
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Post by tiredoftears on Oct 24, 2018 2:47:17 GMT -5
Just throwing it out there, since my name was brought up....
I got laid twice last week.
Yay for outsourcing! And yay for a partner that wants to fuck me after I outsource! Lol.
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