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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2016 1:55:19 GMT -5
An encounter with an attorney will do more to solve your sexless marriage problem.
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Post by darktippedrose on Aug 5, 2016 2:05:43 GMT -5
My only other LTr ended partly because my gf wanted to have a separate, independent relationship with another woman....she said it did not concern me, was a separate part of her life.... Can I just once have a relationship with a woman who loves men and sex!!?? Both together??!! I have never had that in my life..... my husband has said something similar to me what he does outside the house doesn't concen me and isn't my businesss |
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Post by darktippedrose on Aug 5, 2016 2:26:18 GMT -5
I'm heteroflexible but I still think its cheating. its just a big no no. I understand that plenty of women do have it jsut to get oral sex because their male partners think its disgusting or whatever. still cheating.
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Post by sufferinhubby on Aug 5, 2016 10:13:25 GMT -5
my thoughts are that cheating is cheating regardless of the sex of your partner. so if i was going to cheat it would certainly be with a woman. i think married men seeking each other out is something else besides husbands trapped in a sexless marriage. it's just married men who have curiosities or inclinations towards gay sex. well, that's my thoughts on it anyway.
the thing i miss most in my SM is caressing the soft feminine curves of a woman's body. God i miss that! but maybe i'm getting off-topic.
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Post by DryCreek on Aug 5, 2016 10:24:15 GMT -5
my husband has said something similar to me what he does outside the house doesn't concen me and isn't my businesss You better believe he'd disagree if you tried that line on him. He's a man of double standards, for sure. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 6, 2016 22:19:51 GMT -5
Bruce (not his real name), my best friend who is bi-sexual and was in an open relationship with a woman, and I were out drinking one evening. It had been about 3 months since I had had sex(I am straight). He started talking about taking care of my problem with a blow job. I laughed, but he was serious and it was the first time he hit on me (it did not ruin our friendship and it was the only time it happened). He argued that he loved both the female anatomy and the male penis, and he thought this was normal and didn't I think the same way? I said "No, I don't think the penis is particularly attractive", (even though mine is the most beautiful one on the planet! Just kidding!) he then asked "if you stuck your penis in one of the 'glory holes' and got a great blow job would it matter if it was by a male of a female? I replied "of course it matters". I did try to explain that sex to me requires intimacy, and I am only attracted to women. Even if I knew the blow job was by a woman I still would not do it, because it does not mean anything. I am not repulsed by men kissing or gay sex, I just don't understand it because I am not wired that way. Sorry I did not address the cheating issue in the story, but I do feel it is cheating if it is with either sex. But not everyone feels that way.
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Post by darktippedrose on Aug 7, 2016 17:13:21 GMT -5
my husband has said something similar to me what he does outside the house doesn't concen me and isn't my businesss You better believe he'd disagree if you tried that line on him. He's a man of double standards, for sure. everyone's got quirks and double standards. I know I do. (I'm against female circumcision but not male?) but he most definitely more than is healthy sometimes I think he lies until he believes his own lies |
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Post by jim44444 on Aug 9, 2016 7:10:47 GMT -5
After wife and I agreed that I could seek out others for sex, I joined a dating/sex site. I found out some very interesting things there. Mainly I found that there are many men seeking other men for sex. . . . My thoughts are that the main issue is the lack of respect in the relationships of these other men. They have not been honest to their wives about their desires or actions. In your case you have been given a 'hall pass' but I would suggest that you make sure your wife understands that others would include men if you decide to go that route. It may turn her on or it may gross her out but you would remain honest. As @phinheasgage points out the issue of safety is paramount. If these other guys (gals) lie to the spouses about their sex lives then they will lie to you about any diseases they may have. Hell, they are even lying to themselves, professing to be straight but looking for homosexual experiences. I am also somewhat puzzled by the responses to this thread. So many here are using the term 'cheating' as if the natural expression of individual sexuality is evil or morally corrupt. Is it the actual sex act with another that is 'cheating' or is it the lack of communication that is the 'cheating'? Maybe I am just wired differently but I would be more upset if my wife lied about having sex with someone else then the actual act. If she wants to fuck someone else then we can negotiate what that means and how it will change our relationship, if any. The monogamy bullshit is the outgrowth of the narcissistic desire by corrupt pseudo-religious leaders to control the people. |
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Post by deleted on Aug 9, 2016 8:39:49 GMT -5
Is it possible that these people are very desperate like people incarcerated in prison or like being on a ship at sea? Desperation will make man do things he might not otherwise do.
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Post by cagedtiger on Aug 9, 2016 9:53:45 GMT -5
Is it possible that these people are very desperate like people incarcerated in prison or like being on a ship at sea? Desperation will make man do things he might not otherwise do. For the record, the only ones engaging in homosexual activities underway on a ship are those who were already homosexual to begin with. Or Marines.  |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Aug 9, 2016 12:34:44 GMT -5
Is it possible that these people are very desperate like people incarcerated in prison or like being on a ship at sea? Desperation will make man do things he might not otherwise do. For the record, the only ones engaging in homosexual activities underway on a ship are those who were already homosexual to begin with. Or Marines. That is so NOT funny. I'm going to step up and defend Marines and all armed forces. The Marine I personally know isn't gay or bi. Neither is my son. |
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Post by cagedtiger on Aug 9, 2016 12:38:12 GMT -5
For the record, the only ones engaging in homosexual activities underway on a ship are those who were already homosexual to begin with. Or Marines. That is so NOT funny. I'm going to step up and defend Marines and all armed forces. The Marine I personally know isn't gay or bi. Neither is my son. Sorry. I was Navy for almost 10 years, and most of my closest friends are/ were Marines. I just can't help giving our little brothers in arms a little bit of ribbing any chance I can. It was meant in good fun. |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Aug 9, 2016 12:44:41 GMT -5
That is so NOT funny. I'm going to step up and defend Marines and all armed forces. The Marine I personally know isn't gay or bi. Neither is my son. Sorry. I was Navy for almost 10 years, and most of my closest friends are/ were Marines. I just can't help giving our little brothers in arms a little bit of ribbing any chance I can. It was meant in good fun. Seriously? You should know better than that. There are plenty of other ways to poke at the other branches of the military without bringing up race, religion, gender or sexuality. I hope you understand what I'm saying. |
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Post by deleted on Aug 10, 2016 14:08:02 GMT -5
All of my friends in the military rib each other like this. You get used to it after a while. I respect all of their sacrifices and service.
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Post by cagedtiger on Aug 10, 2016 14:21:12 GMT -5
All of my friends in the military rib each other like this. You get used to it after a while. I respect all of their sacrifices and service. I explained offline. A matter of subtleties of communication getting lost in translation in online forum. All is well.  |
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