Motivational Memes

I know, me too! This, out of everything, was the hardest for me to grapple with, to even contemplate. I felt trapped between what I wanted out of life vs. All the people that would be affected by me leaving. I have a large family, 4 grown girls, 10 grandchildren and innumerable extended family, and I thought long and hard about how this would affect everyone.......not me.

I didn't think about how transparently caustic my marriage was to all of them. It wasn't until afterwards that I found out how much my marriage had such a negative impact on all these lives. I thought long and hard about the affect on people who were quietly worried about the affect it was having on me. How they were avoiding my ex and and I because of the caustic turmoil she caused, and the embarrassment they had just watching what it was doing to me.....friends and family alike. Even my girls dreaded having us over, and wanted to avoid exposing their kids, my grandchildren, to such a negative, dysfunctional relationship. 

I would say my case was an extreme, but it certainly opened my eyes to how much putting me first was something everyone else that really loved me had been wishing for me for a long, long time. Did My leaving affect all of those people I worried about. You bet!! And that was a great thing, for all of us.

I've never been there...
Just saying....

I keep telling you, come to the Carolinas...