Reaching out

It's been said before that it becomes a matter of porn addiction, convenience, laziness, a selfish pride, or an introvert way of dealing with sexual problems.

I can't say that I understand at all how a man can turn down his naked wife laying beside him, with an eager, willing, ready attitude for years?

I do know that it is much easier to hit a button and have thousands of images, on a screen. No effort on your part, and the immediate pleasure is there and over with in a brief, almost relaxing part of your day.

Compare that to an entire day of yes dearing, only to have her choose computer games over you at the end of the day.

All men have hundreds of images in there head of naked women. When they get married, the overwhelming affect of a real woman overpowers all of that. Over time that goes away and needs to be rekindled on an even basis. That's not what were talking about here. You take a man who has had thousands of images in his head, a real woman no matter how attractive a super model she is, cannot compete with the onslaught of what is now available, hundreds per minute, per hour, leading to millions.

"If I were going to consider whacking off while next to a naked woman, I would do everything in my power to hide the fact. I'd be ashamed."

Let it out girl!

Maybe I've missed it.  

Her post gives me the impression that:  He sees her naked, gets turned on by THAT, then runs off and whacks himself into oblivion without even trying to hide it.  

Is this an apt description, litnerd?

@elle, is this your experience?

In most cases here I read about passive aggressive BS, promised corrections with no follow through, incessant video gaming to the exclusion of together time, incessant pornography accompanied by whacking off, but with some denial or shame.

But this reads like:  "Hmmm, Hot Naked Woman.  That Reminds me.  Wait here while I go beat myself silly!"  

"Pfew, glad that's done.  So, how was your day?"
 

Leaving a naked woman alone in bed to go and J.O. in the bathroom?? I hate to judge I really do, but I suspect perhaps he's gay.

I don't feel like that's it. He's always been kind of odd about nudity (I know from conversations with his sister that his attitude towards nudity is most likely due to the way his parents ran their home when he was young.), and I've embraced nudity more as an adult because of the restrictiveness of my own childhood. I enjoy seeing him nude, but he rarely is. Meanwhile, he actually asked me to wear pajamas when we were dating because casual nudity makes him uncomfortable.