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Post by litnerd on Jul 14, 2016 18:31:08 GMT -5
I'm the one who primarily uses tech in my relationship. My husband complains sometimes, but I'm a SAHM of very young children. Most weeks, my only adult interaction is texting my friends or spending time on social media. He's just as attached to his phone as I am, but he uses his to read or play games (and watch porn) instead of communication. His screen of choice is the tv. He has to have it on at all times, and is put out if I (God forbid) try to initiate a conversation with him while he's watching something.
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Post by Dan on Jul 14, 2016 19:43:26 GMT -5
I also just spent 2 minutes looking at that photo trying to figure out which one is supposed to be the tech obsessed refuser. But I really can't tell. My situation may be the explanation behind the cover. In my case, the SM had developed a pretty wide valley between us. The rift started long before smartphones. But various tech -- mostly smartphone use -- has seeped in to the valley and widened it a skosh. We used to sit and watch TV -- barely talking -- and now we talk less if she is on Facebook, or I'm on Words With Friends or ILIASM.org. There have even been times when we are in bed, not talking/touching, but she sends me a WWF play... So tech is not the principle saboteur of my love life. More like "another nail in the coffin". Anyway, if THAT is the meaning of the article, the cover would have been better if they were each paying attention to their own personal tech; would that be Menage a Quatre? ------- The one way tech HAS contributed to my SM is not the smartphones and tablets per se... it is that the Internet has allowed me to find other sexual outlets, and friends with whom I feel I am MUCH more compatible than with my wife! |
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Post by iceman on Jul 15, 2016 7:35:45 GMT -5
My wife's current 'lover' is streaming Netflix until all hours of the morning. Anything that will allow her to avoid coming to bed. Before Netflix it was the game Evony. That's a very pernicious game. There are support groups for Evony addiction and for their families.
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Post by Dan on Jul 15, 2016 10:02:12 GMT -5
Anyway, if THAT is the meaning of the article, the cover would have been better if they were each paying attention to their own personal tech; would that be Menage a Quatre? Or what about calling it "mutual techturbation"  |
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Post by sufferinhubby on Jul 15, 2016 10:08:19 GMT -5
It's not tech that killed our sex life. I'm with the camp that says it actually helps. When I am alone in my bed at night I can use it to distract myself. What did refused spouses do before it?
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 15, 2016 10:31:41 GMT -5
Tech gives men and boys millions of images,of porn little second or two snips, in minutes. All to be taken anywhere on a little portable screen. Someone posted an article about high tech sexual robots replacing humans.
I see that as a slippery slope to a crashing downfall if you are going to pursue having a relationship with another person. Moderation used to be doable, today's tech. Is making that harder and harder.
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 15, 2016 10:37:54 GMT -5
It's not tech that killed our sex life. I'm with the camp that says it actually helps. When I am alone in my bed at night I can use it to distract myself. What did refused spouses do before it? Exactly my bedroom was dead way before the Internet was invented. We were not sexually compatible on the simplest most primal levels. He used porn and tech to satisfy his intimacy averse ass. I finally after suffering many years found EP and technology saved my life. Technology also helped me find my AP. Technology helped me meet people and make close friends online too. I'm in the technology helps camp too. |
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