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Post by RumRunner on Apr 3, 2016 20:45:17 GMT -5
My partner sleeps as close to me as possible, gives me lots of kisses, lots of attention, follows me everywhere. May partner is also loyal, excited to see me and is dedicated to me always. My partner is not the one I am married to…. The partner I speak of is my little dog.
For the last 15 years there has been no sex at all. None. Before we got to this point, there had been signs, many signs leading up to this. Sex has always been gross, a dirty little deed that is required to bare children and we only had one child. To kiss with an open mouth is gross. Oral sex is gross. The only position she would ever consider was missionary, and even then she would ask if I thought it was going to rain that day in middle of trying to do something. I always felt so bad after we did do something because I knew that she didn't want to. I felt so guilty, that I apologized repeatedly to her. I felt like I had raped her, though she was my wife. Sex has always been a horrible struggle from the very beginning. I finally had enough, and stopped asking for sex, that's when the sex stopped all together. Before marriage, she said she was saving it until after marriage. She is still saving it, I guess now until after the funeral.
I have come to accept it and I know it will never change. I gave up trying to change it long ago.
If I had any advice to give to the young people out there.... I would say beware of anyone who says that they want to wait until after marriage to have sex... It's a trap!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2016 21:30:00 GMT -5
I agree 100%. "No sex until marriage," is bullshit.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2016 21:41:00 GMT -5
I figured you were going to say it's your dog. God's gift to mankind.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2016 22:02:11 GMT -5
I figured you were going to say it's your dog. God's gift to mankind. Thank goodness for dogs. Life would be just shades of grey without them, they give life color and meaning. I think they were my first secure attachment in life, the only beings with whom interaction was always pleasant and who didn't have an ulterior motive or a knife hidden ready to wound me at most opportunities. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2016 22:03:34 GMT -5
While I write this, my labby girl (black, but we're not racists around here) keeps inching closer to me and snorting a little. She's proud -- she'll never initiate -- but she makes it clear what she wants. And when she gets it, she leaves no doubt regarding how much she enjoys it.
If I stop to type some more, I get that petulent little "muh muh" and an aggravated puff.
I'm loved too.
I think.
Or maybe she's just using me for fun training, some scratching, and the evening pee pee doggie and nubby bone?
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 3, 2016 22:18:21 GMT -5
I figured you were going to say it's your dog. God's gift to mankind. Thank goodness for dogs. Life would be just shades of grey without them, they give life color and meaning. I think they were my first secure attachment in life, the only beings with whom interaction was always pleasant and who didn't have an ulterior motive or a knife hidden ready to wound me at most opportunities. If it wasn't for my little dog, I would be a lot more lonelier than I am. I know how much I am appreciated and loved, if something was to ever happen to him I would be heartbroken for sure! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2016 23:26:53 GMT -5
Hey, don't forget cats!
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Post by TheBumble on Apr 3, 2016 23:56:02 GMT -5
I also sleep with my little dog!!
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Post by lwoetin on Apr 4, 2016 0:03:11 GMT -5
I have come to accept it and I know it will never change. Have you come to accept your sexless marriage or that she will never again have sex with you? |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Apr 4, 2016 0:32:21 GMT -5
My partner sleeps as close to me as possible, gives me lots of kisses, lots of attention, follows me everywhere. May partner is also loyal, excited to see me and is dedicated to me always. My partner is not the one I am married to…. The partner I speak of is my little dog. For the last 15 years there has been no sex at all. None. Before we got to this point, there had been signs, many signs leading up to this. Sex has always been gross, a dirty little deed that is required to bare children and we only had one child. To kiss with an open mouth is gross. Oral sex is gross. The only position she would ever consider was missionary, and even then she would ask if I thought it was going to rain that day in middle of trying to do something. I always felt so bad after we did do something because I knew that she didn't want to. I felt so guilty, that I apologized repeatedly to her. I felt like I had raped her, though she was my wife. Sex has always been a horrible struggle from the very beginning. I finally had enough, and stopped asking for sex, that's when the sex stopped all together. Before marriage, she said she was saving it until after marriage. She is still saving it, I guess now until after the funeral. I have come to accept it and I know it will never change. I gave up trying to change it long ago. If I had any advice to give to the young people out there.... I would say beware of anyone who says that they want to wait until after marriage to have sex... It's a trap! I love my cats. The way they reach a paw up and tap me on the arm to get my attention always makes me smile. How can you resist such a request? |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2016 9:18:30 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear this. I finally moved out after almost 6 years of celibacy. Married 28 years. Wife always said she could not wait to be married to have sex. It was all a bunch of bullshit. If you want to stay, I certainly understand, but the other side is a lot better.
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Post by sand5280 on Apr 4, 2016 10:51:57 GMT -5
My partner is also loyal, excited to see me and is dedicated to me always. There are three of us in this relationship I have. On four legs is her dog, which at this point has almost become mine. A big silly black lab / pointer. Nine years old and never grew up, I love this dog, she is my pal. I also seem to have authority status, she listens to me and not her 'mom.' The day we met was second date with sweetie, and I have a clear memory of this. I came into her house all nervous, we discussed our plans, 30 seconds later I was on the floor with a rope playing tug-o-war. Been this way for over three years. I will admit right now, I walk in the house, I immediately want to know where is the dog. Those that mention cats, it's the same thing I'm sure. I anticipate the day when she informs me that I give more attention and affection to my puppo-dog. My hope is that I am in a calm mood. I really don't want to say “This dog did not lure me into a relationship, then once established, notify me that we would not be having sex.” I'd like to avoid this, it's mean and unnecessary. But somewhat true. |
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:09:08 GMT -5
I like cats too. Had them for years but not any more. They are more independent but they love to show affection too.  |
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:10:03 GMT -5
I also sleep with my little dog!! Couldn't ask for a better bed partner! Though my little dog likes to hog the bed.. lol |
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:13:29 GMT -5
I have come to accept it and I know it will never change. Have you come to accept your sexless marriage or that she will never again have sex with you? I have accepted yes, but that is not to say that I won't leave in the future. At least I am able to do my thing and she can do hers. |
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