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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 11, 2016 12:52:56 GMT -5
Our stories are very similar! I also had surgery on my left hand earlier this year. My husband, Numbnuts2, treated me in the same cold way that your husband is after the surgery. He even had his friend over the next day! It makes you realize how much they don't care. Starting to think our husbands are related! I forbid you women from using the same term of endearment for your husbands. It'll get confusing, and could result in husband swapping. Would it be OK if we refer to your husband as ButtPepsi? What was your menu specialty? Duck butt? How about that one? Along with a rehash of the story! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 14:42:20 GMT -5
duck butt? no, not mean enough!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 22:01:00 GMT -5
@anniec how about Dickwad?
But wait, what if our husbands are the same guy. Then the same nickname WOULD be appropriate!
Sorry to hear about your hand. I hope your recovery went smoothly.
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Post by obobfla on Jul 11, 2016 22:11:25 GMT -5
It's funny how you bring up him being a controller. Long ago, he accused me of being a control freak. I am, to an extent. I control our finances, how we run our household, etc. Our first therapist brought that up. He feels useless because I am self-sufficient. He feels emasculated, for instance, when I tell him there isn't room in the budget for new golf clubs or hockey skates or whatever his hobby-du-jour is. The last thing I want to do is deny him activities he loves, but A. he's denying me and B. I don't want to go into massive debt because of his wants. There has to be some give and take. Things like this really piss me off. He feels emasculated because you're competent? I hate this. HATE it. It reminds me of when a well-meaning friend suggested to me that maybe the name "SmartKat" would put off men who would be afraid of the "Smart" part. Fuck that up the ass with a splintery flagpole. I can't dumb down because some men might feel threatened. I want to meet a man who would appreciate me when I'm smart. I want to be my real self - and that includes sometimes making observations that cut through the bullshit of life and get right to the point. I've gotten good at being tactful and diplomatic. That is not the same thing as totally hiding what I'm capable of. I dream of a man who would actually LIKE it when I say something smart.... Smartkat, you are so sexy when you're angry! |
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Post by obobfla on Jul 11, 2016 22:12:39 GMT -5
duck butt? no, not mean enough! Dickless? I mean, he doesn't use it except to pee. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 22:26:04 GMT -5
Strickly dicklessly?
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Post by wewbwb on Jul 12, 2016 2:42:07 GMT -5
How about "too stupid to fuck"
Tsf
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2016 10:20:30 GMT -5
@anniec how about Dickwad? But wait, what if our husbands are the same guy. Then the same nickname WOULD be appropriate! Sorry to hear about your hand. I hope your recovery went smoothly. Dickwad! That will work!!! You moved to Chicago from NY and moved from Chicago to NY..hmm could be the same guy. He just flipped us around! Wishing you a speedy recovery! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2016 12:22:14 GMT -5
@anniec how about Dickwad? But wait, what if our husbands are the same guy. Then the same nickname WOULD be appropriate! Sorry to hear about your hand. I hope your recovery went smoothly. Dickwad! That will work!!! You moved to Chicago from NY and moved from Chicago to NY..hmm could be the same guy. He just flipped us around! Wishing you a speedy recovery! ummmm... that phrase, taken literally, refers to one thing that seems to be missing...
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Post by Caris on Jul 12, 2016 20:18:27 GMT -5
I'm glad the surgery is over, and your hand is healing, Andie. As for the rest...what can I say? It's just makes me feel sad because it's so familiar. It's just sad, and I'm sorry. 😔
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2016 22:11:49 GMT -5
Dickwad! That will work!!! You moved to Chicago from NY and moved from Chicago to NY..hmm could be the same guy. He just flipped us around! Wishing you a speedy recovery! ummmm... that phrase, taken literally, refers to one thing that seems to be missing...
You are right! That won't work. |
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Post by pfviento on Jul 12, 2016 22:19:29 GMT -5
Just shorten emasculated and call him Emas.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 15, 2016 10:55:45 GMT -5
Give us an update! How is your hand, and the rest of your situation?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2016 20:18:24 GMT -5
Give us an update! How is your hand, and the rest of your situation? Hey GC and my fellow SMers... I'm healing nicely, I get my stitches out next Wednesday so after that I'm sure I'll be released to go back to work soon after. This is a good thing because there are only so many reruns of The View I can handle. Currently I'm in Numbnuts's hometown visiting his family. This is the weekend of his annual golf game with his brothers. I'm actually grateful for the time we're spending here. My husband is a nicer person, to me and everyone else, when he's around his family. He loses a lot of stress and urban angst, or so it seems. I confessed, of sorts, to his sister that we haven't had sex in two years. She was shocked and said she'd pray for me. I am not religious at all, but appreciated the gesture. My sister-in-law then told me it's been four months for her and her husband. I wanted to say, I know a great forum if you need some support, but I kept my mouth shut. The last thing I need is B's nickname getting back to.him, hahaha! |
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Post by wewbwb on Jul 16, 2016 6:41:37 GMT -5
Give us an update! How is your hand, and the rest of your situation? Hey GC and my fellow SMers... I'm healing nicely, I get my stitches out next Wednesday so after that I'm sure I'll be released to go back to work soon after. This is a good thing because there are only so many reruns of The View I can handle. Currently I'm in Numbnuts's hometown visiting his family. This is the weekend of his annual golf game with his brothers. I'm actually grateful for the time we're spending here. My husband is a nicer person, to me and everyone else, when he's around his family. He loses a lot of stress and urban angst, or so it seems. I confessed, of sorts, to his sister that we haven't had sex in two years. She was shocked and said she'd pray for me. I am not religious at all, but appreciated the gesture. My sister-in-law then told me it's been four months for her and her husband. I wanted to say, I know a great forum if you need some support, but I kept my mouth shut. The last thing I need is B's nickname getting back to.him, hahaha! Sexual numbness aside, being mean to your partner is unacceptable. That is the one person that you should be most comfortable with. That bond is the stress relief. |
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