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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2016 13:08:10 GMT -5
So I am reconsidering the wisdom of both using Tinder and having a Facebook account.
1) Someone I was chatting with but who I soon found controlling and creepy found my Facebook profile and tried to friend me (without mentioning it before hand to see if I was interested, which I wouldn't be until I knew someone awhile). I just hope he's not into real-life stalking and not just online. I really don't like that they force you to log-in from Facebook, thus making your real first name visible. He must have found me just by searching my more uncommon first name and city (now deleted).
2) After (1) I decided to further lockdown my Facebook settings. Facebook is creepier than I originally realized and they make it way too hard to have a solely private profile. Way too time consuming. Keeping your info private could be like a second job. Friends can expose you thanks to tagging and you having no control over their actions. The search function is hard to hide absolutely everything from (comments, likes, your phone number if you gave it to facebook, and email address (you're forced to give at least one to Facebook).
Be careful out there.
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Post by adventura on Jul 7, 2016 13:15:23 GMT -5
Facebook is evil. I have to use it for promoting my small business but I keep my privacy settings locked down to friends only. Facebook likes to change these settings in the dead of night and not tell you about it even though they've been criticized in the media for doing this, so I check them once a month. Pain in the butt.
I stay off websites that force me to log in with Facebook. Usually there's an option to log in with email and password in the fine print, or at least a Google account, which isn't as invasive as Facebook. Tapatalk (which a lot of people on this forum use) being one example.
Hope your creepy guy creeps away never to return.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2016 15:56:50 GMT -5
Check and change your privacy settings regularly, ladies. On ALL social media. If you don't know someone, don't accept messages or friend requests from them. Facebook can be a great way to keep in touch with people, but Tinder, yeah...well, it's a hook up site, so expect creepers (I'm sad to say).
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Post by Caris on Jul 7, 2016 17:31:24 GMT -5
Helen, you reminded me to check my FB. One thing I noticed tonight is that even though I "like" male and female friend's posts, I do tend to like the men's posts who are handsome more.😉
My FB is locked down like Fort Knox. I haven't added new friends in a very long time, and I never log into other sites with FB. I don't trust it one bit.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2016 18:05:01 GMT -5
Somebody from EP was able to find me through LinkedIn, believe it or not. Now THAT was scary.
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Post by JMX on Jul 7, 2016 18:39:02 GMT -5
Hee hee: I'd find you:
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 7, 2016 19:06:26 GMT -5
Somebody from EP was able to find me through LinkedIn, believe it or not. Now THAT was scary. Now, I did apologize for that... The restraining order was entirely unnecessary. ;-) But seriously, yikes! I wouldn't have thought you'd shared anywhere near enough info to have been searchable. |
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Post by Caris on Jul 7, 2016 19:56:09 GMT -5
Somebody from EP was able to find me through LinkedIn, believe it or not. Now THAT was scary. Kat, do you use your SmartKat name or your real name on LinkedIn? If your real name, that really is scary. I wonder how they did that. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2016 20:04:37 GMT -5
Somebody from EP was able to find me through LinkedIn, believe it or not. Now THAT was scary. Kat, do you use your SmartKat name or your real name on LinkedIn? If your real name, that really is scary. I wonder how they did that. Well, the ONLY time I use my real name anywhere in the online world is for job-hunting purposes. I even use a different name on Fakebook (and it's not SmartKat, either.) But job-hunting....you sort of have to give a real name. The employer needs to know it when it's time to cut you a paycheck. And LinkedIn is supposed to be for work and job-hunting stuff. The way the guy did it was what they call social engineering. We were just having conversations, over a period of time...we liked each other...and even if you don't tell the person your real name, if you tell them things like your occupation, the town where you live, etc....if they are smart, and have good research skills, they could possibly find you. |
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Post by jim44444 on Jul 7, 2016 20:33:48 GMT -5
Somebody from EP was able to find me through LinkedIn, believe it or not. Now THAT was scary. It is pretty easy to "find" people especially when they provide small facts here and there over many posts. Of course that may be my data analysis nature working overtime. Sometimes the social media sites make the connections for us. I had 2 friends on EP who Linkedin presented as someone I might know. Another one popped up on Facebook as someone I might know. Now you are very unique example of how to get connected, at least for me. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2016 22:01:21 GMT -5
You found me, and that's a good thing.  |
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 7, 2016 22:58:50 GMT -5
The way the guy did it was what they call social engineering. We were just having conversations, over a period of time...we liked each other...and even if you don't tell the person your real name, if you tell them things like your occupation, the town where you live, etc....if they are smart, and have good research skills, they could possibly find you. Got it. AKA "data aggregation". I've heard stories of reports being produced from public sources, but the finished product was gagged as Top Secret. (Seems unlikely, but Classified is very plausible.) Google and Facebook are scary addicted to doing this about all of us. It makes more sense if you were chatting privately. Not like I've been stalking you (ahem), but I've read most of your public posts over the years and it didn't seem like you were loose with any info that would have been traceable. |
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Post by Caris on Jul 17, 2016 17:25:33 GMT -5
I generally don't do facebook but I signed up so I could access some page or such I can't remember exactly what it was. Being my normal paranoid self I used an alias and an email addresses no one has. I only have one organization as a friend no known people or relatives or other contacts. I lied or left blank every question. I haven't liked anything of anyone's that I actually know or who knows who I am. There are no pictures on there and I limited all options to friends only. The only true details are a mobile number and backup email address for recovery purposes. I have only ever accessed it from my phone which I stopped syncing with my computer a good while back. And you know what? This alias showed up in both my daughter and wife's facebook feed in the last month as a possible friend. Good this I wasn't actually using it for anything untoward. I thought I was being careful about who and how I contacted people apparently I'm not paranoid enough (adds extra layer of tinfoil to hat). Take great(er) care people. It's your phone number. FB takes all your contacts from your phone, and matches you up with those who have FB accounts. Just don't give a phone number. My main account has my number, unfortunately – it was prior to me knowing about this – my other account that I opened after EP closed does not, but I don't use it anyway. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 19, 2016 11:25:53 GMT -5
I don't do Facebook or Twitter and as I more interested in having a real and sustainable relationship with a woman I am not on Tinder.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2016 14:08:14 GMT -5
I don't do Facebook or Twitter and as I more interested in having a real and sustainable relationship with a woman I am not on Tinder. Tinder wouldnnt have been my first thought but a local friend suggested it and said people do actually look for more than hookups there. It is free and a way to meet alot of people fast, are what I found to be its positives (of course free can also be a negative, enabling more time-wasters than if they had to pay). It seems like online speed-dating to me. I chose to meet one man who I thought was my best option. After the creeper found me I deleted my account so I won't be meeting anyone else anytime soon. It was an interesting diversion but it just taught me that once again I'm not ready to date. I'll let this thing with the one guy I met run its course (to nowhere I'm 99% certain) and then I'm back out. Next time (assuming there is one, which there probably will be some werewolf week in the winter) I'll probably try something paid like Eharmony or Match as my sister urged when I mentioned trying Tinder. I could see her nose wrinkle 2000 miles away, ha ha. |
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