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Post by Caris on Jul 8, 2016 9:54:25 GMT -5
bballgirl, thank you. It's hard enough trying to heal from decades of abuse on my own, but to then have some stranger accuse me of being someone like my own ex (and this guy does not even know me), is not only unhelpful but downright horrible and hurtful. I was willing to let his last character assassination of me go. I buried the hatchet, and did not even respond, but now he's done it again, I have responded because enough is enough. Hugs back.
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 8, 2016 11:01:18 GMT -5
Whew, Caris - quite an avatar! But I like the new you! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2016 11:20:46 GMT -5
Whew, Caris - quite an avatar! But I like the new you! The new one scares me |
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Post by petrushka on Jul 8, 2016 16:53:55 GMT -5
I don't even know how to respond to this unnecessary and unfair criticism of me. FWIW, I read those comments as criticism / introspection of his own actions, not yours. And that his own actions and self-critique might offer some parallel to explore in your own case. Indeed, that was relating to myself. Thank you kindly for reading, understanding, and pointing that out. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 9, 2016 20:32:21 GMT -5
I'm super late responding to this post, but I will anyway.
First, wow, three men have approached you. That's great. I felt happy for you when I read this, even though you're not ready yet.
Second, about them giving you their phone number, I interpret that favorably. It leaves the ball in your court, they have indicated their interest by offering their number, but if they haven't pressured you to give them your number they're respectful of your boundaries.
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Post by Caris on Jul 11, 2016 11:25:57 GMT -5
I'm super late responding to this post, but I will anyway. First, wow, three men have approached you. That's great. I felt happy for you when I read this, even though you're not ready yet. Second, about them giving you their phone number, I interpret that favorably. It leaves the ball in your court, they have indicated their interest by offering their number, but if they haven't pressured you to give them your number they're respectful of your boundaries. Helen, It wasn't romantic interest. I'd had a conversation/s with each one, and each said if I'd like to get together to talk about a mutual interest (one was to actually engage in a mutual interest...walking), then to contact them. They were not asking for a date, just to continue our conversation. That's never happened to me before. In my pre-marriage past men asked for dates, so I wasn't sure what this meant. I'm totally unprepared for this "new world." It makes me realize how cloistered I've been in the SM. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 11:29:18 GMT -5
I'm super late responding to this post, but I will anyway. First, wow, three men have approached you. That's great. I felt happy for you when I read this, even though you're not ready yet. Second, about them giving you their phone number, I interpret that favorably. It leaves the ball in your court, they have indicated their interest by offering their number, but if they haven't pressured you to give them your number they're respectful of your boundaries. Helen, It wasn't romantic interest. I'd had a conversation/s with each one, and each said if I'd like to get together to talk about a mutual interest (one was to actually engage in a mutual interest...walking), then to contact them. They were not asking for a date, just to continue our conversation. That's never happened to me before. In my pre-marriage past men asked for dates, so I wasn't sure what this meant. I'm totally unprepared for this "new world." It makes me realize how cloistered I've been in the SM. Car, I'd be really careful of these guys. I smell rats. |
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Post by Caris on Jul 11, 2016 11:31:38 GMT -5
Helen, It wasn't romantic interest. I'd had a conversation/s with each one, and each said if I'd like to get together to talk about a mutual interest (one was to actually engage in a mutual interest...walking), then to contact them. They were not asking for a date, just to continue our conversation. That's never happened to me before. In my pre-marriage past men asked for dates, so I wasn't sure what this meant. I'm totally unprepared for this "new world." It makes me realize how cloistered I've been in the SM. Car, I'd be really careful of these guys. I smell rats. Creel, you are starting to sound like a very protective brother or father. Lol 🙂 |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 11:41:04 GMT -5
Car, I'd be really careful of these guys. I smell rats. Creel, you are starting to sound like a very protective brother or father. Lol 🙂 At least I don't sound like a jealous lover. Just understand that lots of guys conceal romantic interest in normal innocuous subjects like walking, cycling, physics, or even business. This is particularly true when they're intimidated by a woman and feel more secure side dooring the issue. For the time being, just give them (612) 555-7399 when they ask you for a number. |
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Post by Caris on Jul 11, 2016 13:33:25 GMT -5
Creel, you are starting to sound like a very protective brother or father. Lol 🙂 At least I don't sound like a jealous lover. Just understand that lots of guys conceal romantic interest in normal innocuous subjects like walking, cycling, physics, or even business. This is particularly true when they're intimidated by a woman and feel more secure side dooring the issue. For the time being, just give them (612) 555-7399 when they ask you for a number. So if guys give me their contact info, they are rats. If they ask for mine, I should give them this number (whose # is it lol). This will undoubtedly ensure I not only remain celibate for life, but will never know any men in real. Should I start wearing a burqa too? 😉 |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 13:37:24 GMT -5
@creelunion It sounds about as innocuous as meeting a new man can be. What could happen that wouldn't make you smell rats?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 20:23:30 GMT -5
@helentishappy, I can't help but think these guys are just sweet on Caris. We've had this conversation, and she's just not ready for any of that monkey business. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2016 20:36:14 GMT -5
At least I don't sound like a jealous lover. Just understand that lots of guys conceal romantic interest in normal innocuous subjects like walking, cycling, physics, or even business. This is particularly true when they're intimidated by a woman and feel more secure side dooring the issue. For the time being, just give them (612) 555-7399 when they ask you for a number. So if guys give me their contact info, they are rats. If they ask for mine, I should give them this number (whose # is it lol). This will undoubtedly ensure I not only remain celibate for life, but will never know any men in real. Should I start wearing a burqa too? 😉 Car, that's a safe number. What's wrong with a life of celebacy? No burqa. If a guy gives you his phone number, that usually means he wants you to call him. If he wants you to call him, that frequently means he either finds you attractive, interesting, or otherwise likes you. If you spend time with a man like this, you run the risk of starting a relationship. If a relationship develops, you run the risk that he might ask you out on a date with ideas of romance swirling around in his devilish little mind. Can you imagine anything worse than all this? Let's just nip this thing in the bud right here and now!! Are you with me or not! |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 11, 2016 20:45:41 GMT -5
Ok has anyone called that number yet?
I'm dying to find out!
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Post by Caris on Jul 11, 2016 21:48:34 GMT -5
Ok has anyone called that number yet? I'm dying to find out! I think it's the neutering clinic. |
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