Your husband is a TEXTBOOK passive aggressive. I mean, when you look it up in the dictionary, his photo is there.
I've talked many times here how mine was too. In fact, it was Chai07, an old member of the EP board, who posted about PA and that single post was the thing that freed me from my marriage. I read three books on it, red countless articles, and talked to two shrinks. Long story short, they never, and probably can't, change.
Clinically their behavior is called "crazy making." Because it is!!!!!
Not every refuser is PA, but plenty are. Yours definitely is!!
Reading the book is interesting. I know his passive aggressive behavior is because he cannot control me. He tells me his opinion about something, I listen and acknowledge it but do what I want to do anyway. But how much fun would I be if I were a doormat?
Post by angryspartan on Jun 28, 2016 17:56:28 GMT -5
I hate to say it, but he views you as a child and he will decide what is best for you. I'm stating the obvious here, but he's not making mistakes, or screwing up due to not listening to you. He's doing this because he has 0 respect for you. You're not an equal to him.
lanie: Hello, new here.
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worksforme2: My apologies to you baz and your fellow Australians for sleepy Joe forgetting PM Morrisons name...he forgets names on a pretty regular basis. Ask Scott not to take it personal...
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baza: Scott is eminently forgettable so don't worry. Jimmy Carter did the same thing in the 70's with our PM of the time, Fraser.
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worksforme2: One more thing baz...for the immediate future be careful around anyone with a French accent....the frogs are a little miffed at the moment
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lanie: Hey...quick update. Unusually busty week or so. New job offer and interview. Things are still weird. We get along alright but I am just not understanding the no love part. My feelings/emotions are all over the place.
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