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Post by Dan on Jun 16, 2016 12:36:24 GMT -5
There are lots of "quotable quotes" out there, and all manner of T-shirts and mugs and Pinterest-pins. Some are good, some are meaningful, some are inspirational; some are overly sentimental or trite or just plain dumb. Some may be more than one of those! But: I won't judge. Something I find a bit to sugary may make a difference to someone else. On a site with plenty of the "feel good" quotes, I came across one that is shockingly UN-sugary. In fact, a bit philosophical, and a POSSIBLY PERFECT thought for those of us making hard decisions about our marriage, family, and future lives: I just wanted to share this here, and get your reflections. - What are the bridges you are facing?
- You might know what is on THIS side of the bridge; do you know what is on the other side of the bridge?
- Is that knowledge comforting? Or lack of knowledge (of "Opposite Land") disconcerting?
- What bridges will you cross? Will you burn them after you cross? (Divorce seems like that, no?)
- What bridges are so scary that you will burn BEFORE you cross them?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 12:42:43 GMT -5
I hate burning any bridge....you never know if you might need to cross back over...
I have no idea what is on the other side... seems I never get a glimpse, just my fantasy of what might be....
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 13:37:06 GMT -5
Wow....now those are both something to think about.... |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 14:02:30 GMT -5
I'm a huge fan of aphorisms myself, and although it's true that some of them are trite or downright ridiculous, in general, I find them reminiscent of a Zen koan and I like to riddle them out. I find myself quoting silently when in a difficult situation - things like "kill 'em with kindness" or "the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." But, I am an INFP and we are known to think in metaphor so it comes naturally to me, however annoying it might be to some - it uplifts me. For this one, I'm with @roch649, I don't like to burn bridges. If/when I do divorce, I don't intend to burn the bridge with my husband. Actually, I have hopes that we might become even better friends than ever. So, you asked, and I'm saying - I don't like this one Dan.  In our collective situations, I rather prefer the fork in the road imagery. It's less definitive and less violent than burning bridges. You're just picking a different path. That's all. As for what's on the other side of the next bridge or what's beyond the next fork... I know it'll be a mix of shadow and light, positive and negative. It's just a matter of me getting to a place where I feel there is no turning back or of something pushing me down the next fork. (Still in a holding pattern waiting for that push while working my exit plan.) |
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Post by cagedtiger on Jun 16, 2016 14:03:41 GMT -5
I'm good friends now with several of my exes, but it took time and distance; I had no illusions about trying to be best friends right after breaking up, but let them decide later if they wanted to be friends, it was up to them.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 14:12:09 GMT -5
As Elle said, it's less about burning and more about turning....
Way long ago...my quote in my senior high yearbook was:
Two roads diverged in wood.
And I, I took the one less traveled.
Frost
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 14:20:06 GMT -5
heart melting - beautiful, roch649.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 14:27:16 GMT -5
heart melting - beautiful, roch649. With all the challenges, hard feelings, and sometimes anger that can be on this board sometimes, because of the situation we all face.... it's nice to read your positive words and your positive spirit...thanks Elle. |
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 16, 2016 14:32:06 GMT -5
As Elle said, it's less about burning and more about turning.... Way long ago...my quote in my senior high yearbook was: Two roads diverged in wood. And I, I took the one less traveled. Frost Exactly!! I started to journal about this poem before my divorce. I never finished it but I may post it. That's been my philosophy in life when I first heard it in high school. Great poem! |
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Post by obobfla on Jun 16, 2016 14:49:02 GMT -5
I also think it's not a matter of which bridges to cross but when you can cross them again. Sometimes you have wait until emotions subside with time and distance. Or as an ex-girlfriend of mine summed up our relationship "Been there, done that, got the T-shirt." It was a very nice T-shirt.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 16, 2016 15:17:32 GMT -5
Just found this one:  |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 16, 2016 15:33:21 GMT -5
For this post, a bridge is a way to cross safely above " gator infested waters" as safely as possible. (an Exit Plan) Sturdy,safe, well built, something that can be used again and again to a new beginning!  |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 15:34:45 GMT -5
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Post by angryspartan on Jun 16, 2016 15:56:55 GMT -5
You guys got me feeling inspirational.  |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2016 22:37:08 GMT -5
angryspartan, I have to agree with that one. When I keep my expectations of those around me low, I'm much happier. That is one key to my current positive mindset.
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