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Post by lonewalker on Nov 29, 2023 20:50:37 GMT -5
If I were single I wouldn't say I was "done" with dating, I would take advantage and enjoy a friends with benefits type arrangement, but sometimes you want more than just sex. Sex is a big part of a relationship imo but to my eye things have changed a lot and everything , including dating, has gotten so much more complicated, more messy.....Or maybe ive just been out of the loop so long i dont know anything anymore
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 29, 2023 22:10:54 GMT -5
Clearly I am not done with dating. After all, I am only 75. I have a date set for this Saturday . We will go out for a meal of fish, hush puppies and who knows what else and then back to my house to let our food settle before we get down to business. I hope to have PIV with my new partner this weekend, if I can hit the sweet spot in my penis with an injectiion of Tri Mix. If she is being honest I will be only the 2nd male to have found my way into her vigina. I will also introduce her to PIV and a vibrator in combination, something she has never done before. So no, not done with dating quite yet.
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Post by greatcoastal on Nov 30, 2023 8:55:49 GMT -5
GreatCoastal :"Could be? ( never thought about it that way?) Another testimony to men completely missing 'hints' and would prefer open communication!" She was flirting. That was open communication. That's the way most women show their interest. She also showed her interest and her availability by saying how much she liked dancing with you. I keep seeing you assume the worst instead of testing the waters. Your now late ex girlfriend was more obvious about her interest, but she also was a bit unbalanced, less unbalanced than your ex wife, but still unbalanced. Assume the worst? Hardly! The text I received: Happy Thanksgiving GC! I will text you when going out dancing. It was fun to dance with someone who knows what they are doing
Have a fabulous day (heart emoji) I replied by telling her my schedule for dancing for the next 4 days and that i was 'available'.Sheryl texts me back : Thanks for the info GC Can't make it Fri. But hopefully another time A week goes by -- I hear nothing! ( we live 2 miles from each other - she has a condo on the beach) And please remember, for more than a year now I feel very much used as a DPO - Dance Partner Only. What would you suggest? I could text her my dance/activities schedule for the next 4 days, or like Sheryl said " I'll text you when going out dancing". This is when I really don't like all this flirting and hints and would greatly appreciate more open communication. The flirting comes quite often when a woman is very happy that I'm making her look good in front of an envious crowd of other women ( and their friends and family) by knowing how to lead her on the dance floor- like having her dance instructor with her at a club.
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Post by northstarmom on Nov 30, 2023 11:18:14 GMT -5
GC: I agree you've opened the door very wide for her to respond by CLEARLY showing interest. She hasn't done that. So, I agree, she's not a prospect for you. I wonder if her flirtatious behavior before was to try to stake a claim on you that would discourage women who really are interested in you and would otherwise make themselves obviously available.
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Post by greatcoastal on Nov 30, 2023 14:13:24 GMT -5
GC: I agree you've opened the door very wide for her to respond by CLEARLY showing interest. She hasn't done that. So, I agree, she's not a prospect for you. I wonder if her flirtatious behavior before was to try to stake a claim on you that would discourage women who really are interested in you and would otherwise make themselves obviously available. Funny you should bring that up!! Guess what else happened that night? A group of ten new people walked in the door, all at once! 7 ladies and 3 men. Sheryl told me " I know these ladies from the gym! I've never seen them dressed this way? always in yoga clothes! My thoughts where" They look fine to me! Actually, finally, in my age range!! ( Maybe Sheryl, who's older than me, can be my wing girl and introduce me?) The group proceeded into the restaurant and stood on the edge of the dance floor ( taking up much precious dance space) and watched. No dancing, just standing and watching. I danced 2 songs with Sheryl in front of her friends, making her look good! I then danced with Liz, her and I have been DPO's for months! I'm still learning how to approach these other women. It's still a very awkward feeling, loaded with fear of rejection,after decades of being away from the " go show her your interested" scene,and carrying it out successfully from there. And recovering from the decades of SM!
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 28, 2024 19:13:17 GMT -5
I am done with online dating. Both my subscriptions end this week. (POF, OurTime) But I got a like on OurTime today and opened the window. My liker was something less than attractive, but there mixed in with recommendations for me was a woman I recognised. Her new intro to her profile was a complaint that she was so disappointed in the men at the site. She actually lives close to me so I had messaged her about a month ago. Her reply was very vague so I ask if she found my profile of interest? She replied she was "just looking". So I replied if she had no interest I would not bother her again. And she never replied. And today it seems she is disappointed that males are not meeting her(likely unrealistic) expectations. Sounds more like Karma to me. As for me, it is back to pursueing live game.
UPDATE: Since dropping my membership from Our Time I have been getting 3 times the attention from the site that I was receiving. But the quality of the attention is no better than it was as an active member. Vertually all the women are far away and few are actually in my age demographic. They ask if I would recommend their site and offered a rating scale. I gave them a zero and said no to the recommendation.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 29, 2024 8:34:39 GMT -5
I am done with online dating. Both my subscriptions end this week. (POF, OurTime) But I got a like on OurTime today and opened the window. My liker was something less than attractive, but there mixed in with recommendations for me was a woman I recognised. Her new intro to her profile was a complaint that she was so disappointed in the men at the site. She actually lives close to me so I had messaged her about a month ago. Her reply was very vague so I ask if she found my profile of interest? She replied she was "just looking". So I replied if she had no interest I would not bother her again. And she never replied. And today it seems she is disappointed that males are not meeting her(likely unrealistic) expectations. Sounds more like Karma to me. As for me, it is back to pursueing live game. At least you discovered a few women in the dating field who live close by. Sadly they're just looking, and hit the wall, blaming everyone else!
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 29, 2024 9:37:10 GMT -5
If I were single I wouldn't say I was "done" with dating, I would take advantage and enjoy a friends with benefits type arrangement, but sometimes you want more than just sex. Sex is a big part of a relationship imo but to my eye things have changed a lot and everything , including dating, has gotten so much more complicated, more messy.....Or maybe ive just been out of the loop so long i dont know anything anymore Good luck on that FWB. My experience is that to have a FWB arrangement one usually needs to be below the age of 60. After that it seems the majority of women have little interest in intimacy. They are more interested in traveling with girlfriends on a really big boat in the middle of an empty ocean. BTDT., not for me. In the last 10 yrs.I have been fortunate to have a few women bless me with their favors, but only one relationship could have been described as a FWB. The others were just dates that ended with sex. I'm not complaining. But senor men who seek a FWB had best plan on a long expedition into the jungle. Just one man's experience.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 30, 2024 6:58:34 GMT -5
"Success is going from failure to failure without loosing your dream"- Winston Churchill lets tweak that-
"Dating is going from failure to failure without loosing your dream" However, it doesn't sound like you're the failure, instead it's these people who advertise themselves and then don't deliver! ( a learning experience for the one dealing with the manipulation)
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Post by worksforme2 on Mar 30, 2024 12:30:37 GMT -5
GC: I agree you've opened the door very wide for her to respond by CLEARLY showing interest. She hasn't done that. So, I agree, she's not a prospect for you. I wonder if her flirtatious behavior before was to try to stake a claim on you that would discourage women who really are interested in you and would otherwise make themselves obviously available. And this is one of the parts about women I do not understand. Why engage in flirtatious behavior if she isn't really interested Why stake a claim that you aren't going to work? It does seem to be a prevalent behavior for women in my age demographic on dating sites. I got a fair number of "likes" from women, but rarely does my follow up in returning a "like" or sending a message result in the woman engaging in meaningful conversation. I would just as soon not get a "like". I suppose it is just vanity on the part of the woman , seeking validation she is still attractive.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 30, 2024 16:40:01 GMT -5
GC: I agree you've opened the door very wide for her to respond by CLEARLY showing interest. She hasn't done that. So, I agree, she's not a prospect for you. I wonder if her flirtatious behavior before was to try to stake a claim on you that would discourage women who really are interested in you and would otherwise make themselves obviously available. And this is one of the parts about women I do not understand. Why engage in flirtatious behavior if she isn't really interested Why stake a claim that you aren't going to work? It does seem to be a prevalent behavior for women in my age demographic on dating sites. I got a fair number of "likes" from women, but rarely does my follow up in returning a "like" or sending a message result in the woman engaging in meaningful conversation. I would just as soon not get a "like". I suppose it is just vanity on the part of the woman , seeking validation she is still attractive. Hurt people, hurt people!
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 8, 2024 10:45:32 GMT -5
No 3. No effort reciprocated by the woman. Saturday at the dance studio we had 2 hrs. of open dance. Finally.. their was a woman there in my dating range ( age and looks ). Her name is Pam. Pam is an experienced dancer, that made dancing and talking dance very easy. I did not ask Pam direct questions, instead I gave her direct information about myself giving her every opportunity to reciprocate ,by sharing the same information in return. I tell Pam " I just live a mile from here, that's why I take my lessons here". No response telling me anything about where she lives. One of the men had a birthday that day and the women line up to give him a 'birthday dance'. I tell Pam that I just turned 60 yrs. old. She doesn't say anything about her age. However she did tell me that her birthday is next week but she doesn't want anyone to know about it... I tell Pam about all the other places that I ( and the crowd ) go dancing at,and where I will be tomorrow night. She asks "where is it located?" I give her directions ,and tell her of another dance studio near by. Pam then tells me " oh i went to that one last week". Then.. all she says is " I can't make it".The evening is over, I walked Pam out to her car, ( she was parked right at the front door LOL) and Pam did tell me "I'm not going to be here for the next three weeks". So I tell her " guess I'll see you when I see you, thanks for the dances, have a good night".We definitely talked dancing. You can easily talk all night about patterns, teachers, songs, favorites, dealing with beginners, costs, etc... I easily spent 50% of my night dancing with her. ( she seemed ecstatic, full of joy and happiness- her and every woman really like those hip bumbs LOL!) I did all the asking and approaching. I sat right beside her and implemented the conversations. I took charge ,did all the leading and showed that I was interested in her.Maybe she's a very shy woman? maybe she's married? maybe she's a 'snowbird' passing through Fl. heading back up North soon? ( I'm not a mind reader) It's almost as bad as online dating and being ghosted or getting a 'like' and then finding out they live hundreds of miles away from you, or just want attention. At least I get to meet these women face to face, practice getting rejected, and continue enjoying " my peace" of being single. Ohh....and lastly, I would rate Pam a 5 on the 1-10 scale. 5 being average. That was a big reason why I wanted to know more about her as a person...to move her up the scale to a 6 or even a 7 ( I consider myself more of a 6) You only get one chance to make a first impression, so make it a good one! Pam failed to receive that message, if she's even interested at all!
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 10, 2024 11:03:08 GMT -5
UPDATE: Since dropping my membership from Our Time I have been getting 3 times the attention from the site that I was receiving. But the quality of the attention is no better than it was as an active member. Virtually all the women are far away and few are actually in my age demographic. They ask if I would recommend their site and offered a rating scale. I gave them a zero and said no to the recommendation. Good on the zero recommendation! Now that I've turned 60 yrs. old I haven't tried "Our Time" . However I had the same experience with Match and Bumble. Some of the women have been off the site for years ( if they ever existed in the first place, and aren't just made up bots) It's all about the dating sites getting your $$$.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 10, 2024 12:18:16 GMT -5
UPDATE: Since dropping my membership from Our Time I have been getting 3 times the attention from the site that I was receiving. But the quality of the attention is no better than it was as an active member. Virtually all the women are far away and few are actually in my age demographic. They ask if I would recommend their site and offered a rating scale. I gave them a zero and said no to the recommendation. Good on the zero recommendation! Now that I've turned 60 yrs. old I haven't tried "Our Time" . However I had the same experience with Match and Bumble. Some of the women have been off the site for years ( if they ever existed in the first place, and aren't just made up bots) It's all about the dating sites getting your $$$. Just before I left Our Time I Googled complaints about the site. Turns out one of the biggest complaints was exactly what I experienced. Not getting any responses from potential dates who lived close. And not seeing any potential dates being recommended who lived close. So apparently it didn't matter that I live in a rural setting. If others are experiancing the same thing it means the site isn't making any effort to actually facilitate 2 single people making a connection. Perhaps because if people met and formed a relationship they would leave the site. But my thinking is if one is not successful on a dating site you are probably going to leave that site anyway. UPDATE: I used to get an e-mail about once a week showing 9 member who supposedly match me. Unfortunately almost none of the matches met the criteria I listed as my preferences. Most were not in my age demographic and almost all lived far away, 50-150 miles from me. Now I get that same e-mail showing 9 picks for me just about every day, even though I left the site. And those picks are still not in my age demographic or living within the driving range I stated.
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 11, 2024 16:34:49 GMT -5
No 3. No effort reciprocated by the woman. Saturday at the dance studio we had 2 hrs. of open dance. Finally.. their was a woman there in my dating range ( age and looks ). Her name is Pam. Pam is an experienced dancer, that made dancing and talking dance very easy. I did not ask Pam direct questions, instead I gave her direct information about myself giving her every opportunity to reciprocate ,by sharing the same information in return. I tell Pam " I just live a mile from here, that's why I take my lessons here". No response telling me anything about where she lives. One of the men had a birthday that day and the women line up to give him a 'birthday dance'. I tell Pam that I just turned 60 yrs. old. She doesn't say anything about her age. However she did tell me that her birthday is next week but she doesn't want anyone to know about it... I tell Pam about all the other places that I ( and the crowd ) go dancing at,and where I will be tomorrow night. She asks "where is it located?" I give her directions ,and tell her of another dance studio near by. Pam then tells me " oh i went to that one last week". Then.. all she says is " I can't make it".The evening is over, I walked Pam out to her car, ( she was parked right at the front door LOL) and Pam did tell me "I'm not going to be here for the next three weeks". So I tell her " guess I'll see you when I see you, thanks for the dances, have a good night".We definitely talked dancing. You can easily talk all night about patterns, teachers, songs, favorites, dealing with beginners, costs, etc... I easily spent 50% of my night dancing with her. ( she seemed ecstatic, full of joy and happiness- her and every woman really like those hip bumbs LOL!) I did all the asking and approaching. I sat right beside her and implemented the conversations. I took charge ,did all the leading and showed that I was interested in her.Maybe she's a very shy woman? maybe she's married? maybe she's a 'snowbird' passing through Fl. heading back up North soon? ( I'm not a mind reader) It's almost as bad as online dating and being ghosted or getting a 'like' and then finding out they live hundreds of miles away from you, or just want attention. At least I get to meet these women face to face, practice getting rejected, and continue enjoying " my peace" of being single. Ohh....and lastly, I would rate Pam a 5 on the 1-10 scale. 5 being average. That was a big reason why I wanted to know more about her as a person...to move her up the scale to a 6 or even a 7 ( I consider myself more of a 6) You only get one chance to make a first impression, so make it a good one! Pam failed to receive that message, if she's even interested at all! I thought this video fit in nicely.
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