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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 19, 2023 6:24:24 GMT -5
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Post by toughtiger on Oct 19, 2023 9:13:39 GMT -5
This video was pretty spot on ....
I think why there are so many bad marriages because some jump too soon to just get out of the dating market.
People IMO are more shallow and unrealistic then ever ...
not sure if it is Social media/ movies or what ever....
i think i would move up the one she had at 4 to number 1....the must meet some fictional list of requirements....of physical items and income etc.
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 19, 2023 12:31:53 GMT -5
Many women could say the same thing about dating.
Don't follow Tiktok trends to see what prospective partners want.
Be yourself. That will attract the kind of people who'll appreciate you. If you are dating a person who gives forth no effort move on.
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 19, 2023 14:13:02 GMT -5
I think it was #3 that I agree with most. Since my latest foray into online dating I have come to believe women in my age demographic simply are not willing to put in the effort to make dating and a relationship possible. I don't know how many women have pushed the like button for me, but never respond to a message. A casual flirt is just about all the effort they can muster.
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Post by toughtiger on Oct 19, 2023 14:35:32 GMT -5
I think it was #3 that I agree with most. Since my latest foray into online dating I have come to believe women in my age demographic simply are not willing to put in the effort to make dating and a relationship possible. I don't know how many women have pushed the like button for me, but never respond to a message. A casual flirt is just about all the effort they can muster. people all do that now ....not just in dating mode friends and such Say" lets get together" and then they never contact ..........i have sent texts etc that said hey i am free X amount of time or days if you want to get together"........ they contact me half way thru the time i said i was free and then when i say "did not hear from you so made other plans" they act ticked off ..... i do not see the reason to flirt or show interest and then not respond if a person contacts you. very frustrating. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 19, 2023 16:16:37 GMT -5
I'm getting better at going "blue on blue" during texts.
Once I get the "I don't have time to talk, just short texts" I know I've been 'friend zoned' and remain at peace with having my freedom to do as I please. While moving on to someone else.
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 19, 2023 19:29:08 GMT -5
I'm getting better at going "blue on blue" during texts. Once I get the "I don't have time to talk, just short texts" I know I've been 'friend zoned' and remain at peace with having my freedom to do as I please. While moving on to someone else. You are right in your thinking. I have started doing the same. If a woman does not have time for a short online conversation then she will not have time for dating or a relationship. A while back a woman messaged me. We had a few conversations and I ask her about having luck forming a relationship with men at the site. She complained that men messaged her but things never went anywhere. I soon learned why. Her messages were always short and days between. She volunteered work on a parkway. It was all she talked about and when I tried to make time for a meetup she was always in the middle of some project that had to be done quickly, even on the weekend she had to be at the parkway to collect fees. She really had no time for anything else. If a woman is not equally interested in doing the legwork to make it happen, best to just write her off and move on. What is "blue on blue"? |
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 20, 2023 5:14:04 GMT -5
I'm getting better at going "blue on blue" during texts. Once I get the "I don't have time to talk, just short texts" I know I've been 'friend zoned' and remain at peace with having my freedom to do as I please. While moving on to someone else. You are right in your thinking. I have started doing the same. If a woman does not have time for a short online conversation then she will not have time for dating or a relationship. A while back a woman messaged me. We had a few conversations and I ask her about having luck forming a relationship with men at the site. She complained that men messaged her but things never went anywhere. I soon learned why. Her messages were always short and days between. She volunteered work on a parkway. It was all she talked about and when I tried to make time for a meetup she was always in the middle of some project that had to be done quickly, even on the weekend she had to be at the parkway to collect fees. She really had no time for anything else. If a woman is not equally interested in doing the legwork to make it happen, best to just write her off and move on. What is "blue on blue"? |
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 20, 2023 6:14:16 GMT -5
Thanks greatcoastal,...I don't use a smartphone so I don't get this color effect when texting. I rarely text because my "dumb" flip phone makes it very cumbersome and slow, so I don't do it. But I have made the mistake of over messaging it seems. when I was very interested in a woman. It never worked out to by benefit when the conversation was so one sided. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 20, 2023 19:00:45 GMT -5
I'm getting better at going "blue on blue" during texts. Once I get the "I don't have time to talk, just short texts" I know I've been 'friend zoned' and remain at peace with having my freedom to do as I please. While moving on to someone else. You are right in your thinking. I have started doing the same. If a woman does not have time for a short online conversation then she will not have time for dating or a relationship. A while back a woman messaged me. We had a few conversations and I ask her about having luck forming a relationship with men at the site. She complained that men messaged her but things never went anywhere. I soon learned why. Her messages were always short and days between. She volunteered work on a parkway. It was all she talked about and when I tried to make time for a meetup she was always in the middle of some project that had to be done quickly, even on the weekend she had to be at the parkway to collect fees. She really had no time for anything else. If a woman is not equally interested in doing the legwork to make it happen, best to just write her off and move on. What is "blue on blue"? I can quickly come up with 3 reasons why you where treated this way. The author mentions these things in No. 2. 1) You're one of many men who she is texting ( or dating) and is spreading herself so thin that none of them have any real substance. She expects you to 'wait on hold- while orbiting around her world- happy to receive little bread crumbs'. 2) She will make time for " the right one". but you're not " the one". ( being flooded by 100's of "likes" on a dating sight can suddenly skew the reality of where you really 'rank' as far as attractiveness, personality, and date-ability) 3) She has no intentions of ever being available to date a man ever again, but....likes the ego boost from the attention. While she is happy with her menopause excuses, living with her 9 cats, and claiming " my life is my grandkids!" Makes you wonder what the " other side" is to her divorce stories!! All of this comes back to No 1 ( disturbing your peace) and feeling like 'the juice is no longer worth the squeeze!" |
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 21, 2023 17:13:22 GMT -5
Thanks greatcoastal,...I don't use a smartphone so I don't get this color effect when texting. I rarely text because my "dumb" flip phone makes it very cumbersome and slow, so I don't do it. But I have made the mistake of over messaging it seems. when I was very interested in a woman. It never worked out to by benefit when the conversation was so one sided. You'll probably have a better chance of meeting women and introducing yourself at the meat dept. at your local grocery store! Never be to proud to ask for help,and advice... then go from there! |
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 21, 2023 19:13:25 GMT -5
Thanks greatcoastal,...I don't use a smartphone so I don't get this color effect when texting. I rarely text because my "dumb" flip phone makes it very cumbersome and slow, so I don't do it. But I have made the mistake of over messaging it seems. when I was very interested in a woman. It never worked out to by benefit when the conversation was so one sided. You'll probably have a better chance of meeting women and introducing yourself at the meat dept. at your local grocery store! Never be to proud to ask for help,and advice... then go from there! The grocery store has long been a favorite hunting ground for me. I have had some success in striking up conversations there. Unfortunately I only need to shop for food at most for an hour weekly so that isn't much time and if there are no women of interest shopping that day then I am out of luck. Yesterday a younger woman struck up a conversation with me. She was pretty attractive until she smiled. Her teeth were in terrable shape. Many missing and many decayed. So an instant deal breaker. |
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 21, 2023 19:51:57 GMT -5
worksforme2: "Yesterday a younger woman struck up a conversation with me. She was pretty attractive until she smiled. Her teeth were in terrable shape. Many missing and many decayed. So an instant deal breaker. "
Such teeth problems can indicate meth addiction.
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Post by diode on Oct 22, 2023 20:38:09 GMT -5
worksforme2: "Yesterday a younger woman struck up a conversation with me. She was pretty attractive until she smiled. Her teeth were in terrable shape. Many missing and many decayed. So an instant deal breaker. " Such teeth problems can indicate meth addiction. Or, not so much money...or any of a number of issues not involving meth..or meth...but we don't know, but we'd rather provocatively speculate and pass it off as fact... |
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 22, 2023 21:36:56 GMT -5
diode: "Or, not so much money...or any of a number of issues not involving meth..or meth...but we don't know, but we'd rather provocatively speculate and pass it off as fact..." Very true. But face it, here we always are speculating, so what's your point? But my point is that decaying and lots of missing teeth in a young person can be connected to meth addiction. Given that she was hitting on a much older man, I figure meth addiction is probably more likely than her simply having not much money. If I were approached by such a person, I'd be watching my wallet. "“Meth mouth” is characterized by severe tooth decay and gum disease, which often causes teeth to break or fall out. An examination of the mouths of 571 methamphetamine users showed: 96% had cavities 58% had untreated tooth decay 31% had six or more missing teeth The teeth of people addicted to methamphetamines are characterized by being blackened, stained, rotting, crumbling and falling apart. Often, the teeth cannot be salvaged and must be removed. The extensive tooth decay is likely caused by a combination of drug-induced psychological and physiological changes resulting in dry mouth and long periods of poor oral hygiene. Methamphetamine itself is also acidic." www.mouthhealthy.org/all-topics-a-z/meth-mouth |
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