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Post by lwoetin on Jun 4, 2016 3:54:51 GMT -5
She got tired of waiting for me to clear our yard so she went out and pulled weeds and put pine needles all around. I love it when she goes out and does yardwork. I like her sweaty and hot. Yard looks nice. Except she got poison ivy. Is this a valid excuse to not have sex? I ask anyway ( I've cleared the yard for 14 years and apparently low sensitivity to poison ivy). I am persistent in pissing her off and been rejected hundreds of times. But she claims she wants to make our marriage work 110%. Wow, that is a large number. I like effort a lot. Again, the usual....she complained I lack empathy and sympathy to her pain and lack of sleep...with the poison ivy. Maybe. I am used to rejection and still looked happy and she still upset. Then the zinger....she followed that up with a novel hook...I took a chance marrying you. That kind of stopped me. I go and sit on the couch and thought, What does that mean? So I had to ask. What did she mean by that. She replied, I was just kidding. Then started laughing it off. But she was not laughing when she said it at the time. Hmmmm... -lw (aka, the janitor) too funny petrushka  |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2016 4:26:47 GMT -5
I've got to say, the "poison ivy" excuse is one I never expected to hear, lwoetin. Points for "creativity?" It just sounds beyond lame.  |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2016 6:17:02 GMT -5
Well now you both have an itch that needs scratching.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2016 6:48:10 GMT -5
On a more serious note, I am struck by the fact that you've been rejected hundreds of times. That's your fault. Being rejected a hundred times is her fault. After that, the 12 Step definition of insanity comes to mind. (Which actually isn't a definition of insanity; insanity is a legal term...very good article on insanity here m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1159927.html ) You obviously know there is a statistical correlation between sexual advances and rejection. This correlation is extremely strong. If you do have sex on occasion, it's outlier sex. It's that tiny dot way off in the far upper corner of the graph. And you keep chasing that little dot, like a cat in a bathtub with a ping pong ball. And she seems to think its funny, because she gets enjoyment from messing with your head. It is funny with a cat. It's not funny with a person. It's really unfunny with your spouse. But then she uses statistics in a creative fashion anyway. How is her 110% commitment playing out? Maybe if she upped that to 120% you'd get a mercy hand job. Once the poison ivy heals. |
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Post by petrushka on Jun 4, 2016 6:58:31 GMT -5
No, she was not laughing, and she was not kidding you either. She was just embarrassed that she'd shown her true colours and let that slip out. That's my take, anyway. How I would decode her statement goes something like this: "I wasn't really in love with you when I married you, but I thought with a bit of 'rearranging your mate' I might knock you into the shape I'd like you to be -- unfortunately that didn't work out the way I wanted." I'm not surprised you had to go and sit on the couch for a bit. Something like that can knock the legs right out from under you. Bugger. on the lighter side: www.nzonscreen.com/title/bugger-toyota-hilux-commercial-1999 |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2016 8:02:20 GMT -5
No, she was not laughing, and she was not kidding you either. She was just embarrassed that she'd shown her true colours and let that slip out. That's my take, anyway. How I would decode her statement goes something like this: "I wasn't really in love with you when I married you, but I thought with a bit of 'rearranging your mate' I might knock you into the shape I'd like you to be -- unfortunately that didn't work out the way I wanted." I'm not surprised you had to go and sit on the couch for a bit. Something like that can knock the legs right out from under you. Bugger. on the lighter side: www.nzonscreen.com/title/bugger-toyota-hilux-commercial-1999I suspect there's also a little "...so you better be grateful I'm here at all so stop complaining" in her giggly little jab. |
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Post by baza on Jun 4, 2016 8:54:53 GMT -5
Poison Ivy aversion a valid excuse ??
Sure, why not.
The thing is, if you want to believe that, go right ahead.
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It's way easier - short term - to believe whatever ruse the avoidant comes up with, than it is to deal with the facts on the ground.
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Whether it is in your longer term best interests to keep believing in the avoidants various ruses is debatable.
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Over to you Brother Iwoetin.
Your call.
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Post by thefullmoon on Jun 4, 2016 10:49:16 GMT -5
Are you kidding?
If it was the first and the only excuse...
Next time she probably accidently inhale some dandillion pollen and it will ve absolutely impossible to have sex for next 10 years..
If someone wants enough to have sex the only crucial action is dropping off the one's pants...any other 110% of thinking and planning are just forms of excuses and winning more sexless time... I bet she will suffer from poison ivy longer than anybody before in the medical history of humamkind.... sorry... she just does not want you..
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2016 11:04:41 GMT -5
Are you kidding? If it was the first and the only excuse... Next time she probably accidently inhale some dandillion pollen and it will ve absolutely impossible to have sex for next 10 years.. If someone wants enough to have sex the only crucial action is dropping off the one's pants...any other 110% of thinking and planning are just forms of excuses and winning more sexless time... I bet she will suffer from poison ivy longer than anybody before in the medical history of humamkind.... sorry... she just does not want you.. Out of commission for ten years because of pollen LOL |
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 4, 2016 11:11:21 GMT -5
She got tired of waiting for me to clear our yard so she went out and pulled weeds and put pine needles all around. I love it when she goes out and does yardwork. I like her sweaty and hot. Yard looks nice. Except she got poison ivy. Is this a valid excuse to not have sex? Wait a sec... You seem to have left out a key part of the story - how did she get the poison ivy in her underwear? She pulls weeds in the nude? Self-delusion. She wants to believe she's making 110% effort on the marriage. But believing and doing are very different things. That comment smells like she's planning her defensive claims. After all, if she *said* she was "all in" and it still didn't work out, that must not be her fault, right? Sadly, she was not joking about taking a chance marrying you. That idea came from somewhere, and it's because she's thinking it; that's not a comment she'd come up with out of the blue. And, yeah, she's re-writing history in the process too. |
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Post by Isabellas39 on Jun 4, 2016 12:15:35 GMT -5
I don't understand people who's actions never match their words.. Why put yourself through all that rejection? The excuses are just ridiculous, and the sad part is she would act hurt and confused if she caught you cheating..Makes zero sense !
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Post by deleted on Jun 4, 2016 12:37:20 GMT -5
We all take a risk when getting married.
Isabella is right. Why suffer the sting of rejection? Do like so many people have done before us. Embrace the life of celibacy and zero expectations. You won't experience disappointment, just a bunch of other nasty emotions. ☹️
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Post by thefullmoon on Jun 4, 2016 14:57:10 GMT -5
We all take a risk when getting married. Isabella is right. Why suffer the sting of rejection? Do like so many people have done before us. Embrace the life of celibacy and zero expectations. You won't experience disappointment, just a bunch of other nasty emotions. ☹️ Or better just fall into someone else willing embraces...☺ |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 5, 2016 12:18:09 GMT -5
How is her 110% commitment playing out? Maybe if she upped that to 120% you'd get a mercy hand job. Once the poison ivy heals. If she uses lotion as part of the hand job, make sure it is Calamine lotion. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 5, 2016 12:22:51 GMT -5
Well now you both have an itch that needs scratching. LOL....Damn, I wish I had thought of that one 1st. |
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