Ex has no libido, new partner, how do I protect my children?
Apr 22, 2021 5:27:31 GMT -5
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Post by mirrororchid on Apr 22, 2021 5:27:31 GMT -5
There's no way this guy is getting sex for long because of the way she treats sex to begin with. No way- sex is foreign to her.
it's not about you, What'sNext, it's about her! That's the first thing a therapist told me and why would we sell him anything else? We know what it is like. And we know better. 65% of second marriages fail but they are getting sex consistently? I doubt it. Maybe only during the "New Relationship Energy" phase where the hormones like vasopressin and oxytocin are raging for 1-2yrs tops.
Kind of creepy that he is good with no sex. I hope she found someone who loves porn and a palm. That's why I think he was just desperate to get in a marriage. YIKES what A goober move.
I love that you warned him and I would do the same. Not that she would listen but at least would be warned. And this ass hat won't listen either.
I asked my H when he was planning to leave the marriage, many years ago. What will
you do? Are you going to have sex with a woman? He said " I will have to at first" I nearly puked from his honesty. (we didn't consummate our marriage) and sex
came to a screeching halt little by little) My therapist said he didn't have to work on the marriage any longer. He had me.
If she's got NRE, he's wondering what the heck is wrong with the ex-husband? This wife is hot to trot. It must be him.
Maybe she 's thinking it'll go great too.
I almost hope they're both right. Their gain is not WhatNext's loss. I'd simply hope for him to be equally blissful.
As for why leave? (If he's left.) He's real worried for his daughter and were asking him to be wary and hold back on his vigilance. In his mind, he may be paraphrasing Barry Goldwater, "extremism in the defense of my daughter is no vice and moderation in protecting her is no virtue!"
If his fears are justified, I'd have done him the grossest disservice. If they're wrong, I'll have tried to smooth his relationships over the next five years. The risk/reward ratio may be akin to Pascal's Wager and he values the daughter's safety to such a degree that no risks are justified. I get that to a degree.
We've provided food for thought, but sowing seeds of doubt in his mind when the stakes are so high could be seen as counterproductive and a vulnerability he's avoiding. (or not, and he'll be back soon.) Hanging out with doubters can surely distract one's focus.
If I understand things, he's kind of out of his sexless marriage, so the entire forum is a bit of a tangent. He's talking of someone else's sexless marriage (speculated.) So he needs MyEx-WifeILIASM.org. (Error 404)
