Newlywed in a SM Jun 2, 2020 8:36:35 GMT -5 via mobile
Post by lonelynewlywed on Jun 2, 2020 8:36:35 GMT -5
My husband is so wonderful, and I love him dearly. We are recently married on 5-4-2020 (Star wars day, we love Star Wars), and ever since we moved in together there’s been no sex unless I bring it up which has been twice. Twice I’ve orgasmed and he can’t finish. He says it’s because he doesn’t crave it. Before we moved in, we would see each other seldomly due to polar opposite work schedules, I work days, he works over night. We still managed to have sex a few times during that year. We would sext, send flirty/naughty pics of one another. Now all of a sudden he doesn’t crave it?? What happened? Not only does he say he doesn’t crave it, he says it’s due to doing yard work around the house (which he does) as opposed to not doing work like that at his apartment. I said I understood and left it alone. Deep down inside me, something isn’t right. We hardly make out anymore, I could just wear underwear to bed and nothing. I tell him how unattractive it makes me feel, how undesired I feel by him, how I feel lonely and he gets upset, says that that’s all I want since I have a high sex drive, we argue and that’s the end of that. I said if we’re going to stay married then he needs to work with me so we can fix this and he says he will work on it. Still, nothing. The last time I brought it up, he said we can’t keep arguing about the same problem. I’m getting being frustrated and depressed by this. I haven’t spoken to anyone about this because I’m embarrassed. We have one of the best relationships around except no one would expect it to be sexless, Not even me. I just avoid the topic now and don’t even try anything with him anymore. I just stay to myself. He thinks he’s “broken” somehow by not wanting sex but I just don’t believe that. He says he does find me attractive and wants me. I don’t believe that. I’m not sure what else to do. I love this man so much that I married him. However, I didn’t think he wouldn’t want to be intimate with me anymore just like that which caught me off guard and I wasn’t prepared for this kind of hurdle right from the beginning of the marriage. I feel selfish that I want out already but he other half of me says it’s not all about sex, which is true but sex is constantly on my mind. I push my needs aside to avoid conflict and sexual disappointment of him not really being into it and not finishing. I don’t want to cheat. I also don’t want to stay this way for years to come.