If his mother has so much money, can she afford private inpatient psychiatric treatment? A lot of psychotropic medication used for bipolar illness comes, unfortunately, with significant side effects and that can discourage patients from taking the medication long enough to see Improvement.
I'm not sure how old your son is but unless he has a significant maturity level and motivation to treat his illness, he's going to need some professional help in order to stick to his treatment plan.
If your ex has money, let her pay for private care. Bipolar illness is usually much more debilitating than unipolar depression. If you don't treat it early, I know from seeing my husband's son's struggle with bipolarity that it can destroy.
6 kids is a lot of kids. You can only do so much. 😢❤️
Please forgive any typos or poor sentence structure. As I often say, you can have it perfect or you can have it now. Here, I choose now.
"T" had his day in front of a judge today. His legal council was with the public defender. (a good one).
His charges were dropped. His record will, eventually, be expunged. He will be performing 50 hrs of community service, and 8 hrs of anger management class.
He came home with a smile of relief on his face!
His bipolar is still the major issue. His meds have been changed 4 times since this all began. Each 'change' is given weeks/months to take effect. He sleeps all day, and all night. He gets up around 3:30am to raid the fridge, and go back to sleep. Same routine every day. ( I know he's been eating by the dishes left in the sink)
He was laid off from his job, and has done little to nothing to find work. ( I've been okay with that, for now) Meanwhile I am left in the quandary of not knowing how much of this is due to his medications? laziness? Selfish, manipulation? Depression? Not taking his meds? The wrong medication? Bad diagnosis by the doctor?
Just knowing if he is taking his meds may need the intervention of sending him to a 'residential Living Facility'. This will greatly involve his mother ( my ex) due to her insurance, and her money. His mother has basically dropped all communication with him, moved to another part of town without notifying "T" or myself.
"Well gee, greatcoastal I'm sorry you are going through this. What do you plan to do about it" said greatcoastal to himself!
Much revolves around finances (money) again. I am getting better at increasing my revenue, paying off debts, gathering information,and wanting to rehire my divorce attorney at the beginning of 2020.
I do hear of 'issues' that still go on with my family ( raising 6 kids), and now reflect on the fact that I gave all of my family an open invitation to continue to stay connected. They chose to end all of it. Missing them, wanting to be involved with them manages to enter my mind, daily. Meanwhile the thought of 'not having to deal with it all' is also something to consider as my own life presses forward!
I am so glad you got a good public defender. Your son now has a really good chance to turn things around.
Hopefully, they will get his meds regulated so that he can function.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5