If his mother has so much money, can she afford private inpatient psychiatric treatment? A lot of psychotropic medication used for bipolar illness comes, unfortunately, with significant side effects and that can discourage patients from taking the medication long enough to see Improvement.
I'm not sure how old your son is but unless he has a significant maturity level and motivation to treat his illness, he's going to need some professional help in order to stick to his treatment plan.
If your ex has money, let her pay for private care. Bipolar illness is usually much more debilitating than unipolar depression. If you don't treat it early, I know from seeing my husband's son's struggle with bipolarity that it can destroy.
6 kids is a lot of kids. You can only do so much. 😢❤️
Please forgive any typos or poor sentence structure. As I often say, you can have it perfect or you can have it now. Here, I choose now.
"T" had his day in front of a judge today. His legal council was with the public defender. (a good one).
His charges were dropped. His record will, eventually, be expunged. He will be performing 50 hrs of community service, and 8 hrs of anger management class.
He came home with a smile of relief on his face!
His bipolar is still the major issue. His meds have been changed 4 times since this all began. Each 'change' is given weeks/months to take effect. He sleeps all day, and all night. He gets up around 3:30am to raid the fridge, and go back to sleep. Same routine every day. ( I know he's been eating by the dishes left in the sink)
He was laid off from his job, and has done little to nothing to find work. ( I've been okay with that, for now) Meanwhile I am left in the quandary of not knowing how much of this is due to his medications? laziness? Selfish, manipulation? Depression? Not taking his meds? The wrong medication? Bad diagnosis by the doctor?
Just knowing if he is taking his meds may need the intervention of sending him to a 'residential Living Facility'. This will greatly involve his mother ( my ex) due to her insurance, and her money. His mother has basically dropped all communication with him, moved to another part of town without notifying "T" or myself.
"Well gee, greatcoastal I'm sorry you are going through this. What do you plan to do about it" said greatcoastal to himself!
Much revolves around finances (money) again. I am getting better at increasing my revenue, paying off debts, gathering information,and wanting to rehire my divorce attorney at the beginning of 2020.
I do hear of 'issues' that still go on with my family ( raising 6 kids), and now reflect on the fact that I gave all of my family an open invitation to continue to stay connected. They chose to end all of it. Missing them, wanting to be involved with them manages to enter my mind, daily. Meanwhile the thought of 'not having to deal with it all' is also something to consider as my own life presses forward!
I am so glad you got a good public defender. Your son now has a really good chance to turn things around.
Hopefully, they will get his meds regulated so that he can function.
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worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5
wewbwb: jerri the average intelligence of the end posts rose greatly since I stopped posting ! Hope allis well!
Sept 26, 2020 7:29:23 GMT -5
jerri: Don't be too busy to post. Come back, wewbwb! 💜
Sept 26, 2020 20:12:33 GMT -5
Handy: Jerri, you bring intelligence, so stop that nonsense.
Sept 26, 2020 20:19:03 GMT -5
Handy: petrushka, I saved a picture of your solar panels and shop from an old post of yours. I like what I saw. Best wishes on getting the photons, or particles of light, to knock electrons free from atoms.
Sept 28, 2020 1:09:41 GMT -5
jerri: Handy, that's a really great Podcast so far. Robert Glover)
Sept 28, 2020 15:33:24 GMT -5