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An update on my son "T".

"T" had his day in front of a judge today. His legal council was with the public defender. (a good one).

His charges were dropped. His record will, eventually, be expunged. He will be performing 50 hrs of community service, and 8 hrs of anger management class.

He came home with a smile of relief on his face!

His bipolar is still the major issue. His meds have been changed 4 times since this all began. Each 'change' is given weeks/months to take effect. He sleeps all day, and all night. He gets up around 3:30am to raid the fridge, and go back to sleep. Same routine every day. ( I know he's been eating by the dishes left in the sink)

He was laid off from his job, and has done little to nothing to find work. ( I've been okay with that, for now) Meanwhile I am left in the quandary of not knowing how much of this is due to his medications? laziness? Selfish, manipulation? Depression? Not taking his meds? The wrong medication? Bad diagnosis by the doctor?

Just knowing if he is taking his meds may need the intervention of sending him to a 'residential Living Facility'. This will greatly involve his mother ( my ex) due to her insurance, and her money. His mother has basically dropped all communication with him, moved to another part of town without notifying "T" or myself.

"Well gee, greatcoastal I'm sorry you are going through this. What do you plan to do about it" said greatcoastal to himself!

Much revolves around finances (money) again. I am getting better at increasing my revenue, paying off debts, gathering information,and wanting to rehire my divorce attorney at the beginning of 2020.

I do hear of 'issues' that still go on with my family ( raising 6 kids), and now reflect on the fact that I gave all of my family an open invitation to continue to stay connected. They chose to end all of it. Missing them, wanting to be involved with them manages to enter my mind, daily. Meanwhile the thought of 'not having to deal with it all' is also something to consider as my own life presses forward!