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Post by smilin61 on May 23, 2016 18:16:25 GMT -5
So.... My STBX just walked through the room and paused long enough to say "We should go out to dinner or something tomorrow". I assume its because he thinks 5/24 is our anniversary. We were married on May 26th , 2009. I clearly remember that day. He clearly does not. Maybe I should have posted this under the "lighter side" heading?
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Post by greatcoastal on May 23, 2016 18:20:27 GMT -5
Would you like to add on to that , how an anniversary, makes you feel, and how you deal with it?
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Post by smilin61 on May 23, 2016 18:43:03 GMT -5
Would you like to add on to that , how an anniversary, makes you feel, and how you deal with it? I'll pass on that tonight GC. |
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Post by dancingbear70 on May 23, 2016 21:34:01 GMT -5
Are you going?
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Post by DryCreek on May 23, 2016 21:34:30 GMT -5
"We should go out to dinner or something tomorrow". For argument's sake, let's say you give the bonehead a pass on getting the date wrong... (He is, at least, early instead of forgetting it.) But really, dude? That's your delivery? "Let's just flop this vague suggestion out there like a large dead fish." Thud. "There. Did my part." Instead, how about... "I was thinking we might go out for a nice dinner tomorrow. There's an Italian place called Ciao! that has good reviews." ("Because, you know, I'm interested enough to actually put some effort into an idea - and it's fine if you have a counter-proposal, but I'm not showing up empty-handed. After all, I'm good for more than just remembering the date, right?") ;-) |
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Post by DryCreek on May 23, 2016 21:38:31 GMT -5
Would you like to add on to that , how an anniversary, makes you feel, and how you deal with it? I'll pass on that tonight GC. You could, of course, have some fun at his expense and double-dip. Do dinner tomorrow, then on the 26th put him on the spot and suggest a nicer spot to dine for your anniversary. If he's smart, he'll bite his tongue. ;-) |
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Post by smilin61 on May 23, 2016 21:53:28 GMT -5
I might, just to ask him what we're celebrating! |
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Post by smilin61 on May 23, 2016 21:55:15 GMT -5
I'll pass on that tonight GC. You could, of course, have some fun at his expense and double-dip. Do dinner tomorrow, then on the 26th put him on the spot and suggest a nicer spot to dine for your anniversary. If he's smart, he'll bite his tongue. ;-) Hah! If only I cared for his company enough to go out with him.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2016 22:21:59 GMT -5
So.... My STBX just walked through the room and paused long enough to say "We should go out to dinner or something tomorrow". I assume its because he thinks 5/24 is our anniversary. We were married on May 26th , 2009. I clearly remember that day. He clearly does not. Maybe I should have posted this under the "lighter side" heading?
Over dinner at your favorite restaurant tomorrow: "This is nice, thanks. So what do you want to do for our anniversary?" |
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Post by dancingbear70 on May 23, 2016 22:25:37 GMT -5
I might, just to ask him what we're celebrating! Do it! Let him buy you a few drinks first! |
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Post by smilin61 on May 23, 2016 22:26:38 GMT -5
So.... My STBX just walked through the room and paused long enough to say "We should go out to dinner or something tomorrow". I assume its because he thinks 5/24 is our anniversary. We were married on May 26th , 2009. I clearly remember that day. He clearly does not. Maybe I should have posted this under the "lighter side" heading?
Over dinner at your favorite restaurant tomorrow: "This is nice, thanks. So what do you want to do for our anniversary?" Ugh. Nope. Not going to give him that opening. Even at the 1% chance he would take me up on it. |
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Post by itsjustus on May 23, 2016 22:33:29 GMT -5
I might, just to ask him what we're celebrating! Good idea, since he's your Stbx.... |
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Post by baza on May 23, 2016 22:44:49 GMT -5
ILIASM shitholes.
A place where even the most normal banal simple events get loaded up with angst and complication, where hidden meanings are sought, where underlying messages might reside, where a straightforward matter gets smothered in complication and analysis.
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This is NOT a shot at you Sister smillin.
Rather, it is an observation seen time after time in stories here, of how - in dysfunctional relationships - practically NOTHING is simple.
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It's no way to live.
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Your story brought back all sorts of bad memories for me Sister S, from back in the days of my deal.
When you get down to the stage of having to carefully pick your words before you say "Would you like a coffee" lest you provoke the eye roll response or some other unedifying reaction (like used to happen in my deal) there is not much joy to be found.
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Post by wewbwb on May 24, 2016 10:33:05 GMT -5
Mine is 5/21 - I got her exactly what she wanted - I got a card.
I had to wait for her to fill it out.
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Post by greatcoastal on May 24, 2016 12:17:45 GMT -5
Mine is 5/21 - I got her exactly what she wanted - I got a card. I had to wait for her to fill it out. Make sure you mail it so you don't have to hand it to her, ( heaven forbid your fingers might touch!) send it postage due! |
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