Separate bedrooms?

When the sexless part of our marriage began, she moved to the guest room. It wasn't my choice.

I enjoy cuddling very much - about as much as I enjoy sex, so I wouldn't normally want to sleep separately. An exception would be if my wife wanted to lecture me for hours when I was trying to sleep.

Have you considered or tried individual or couples therapy or sex therapy to try to resolve the sexless problem with your marriage?

I think its common. There may be some nuance, like who decides to leave, the refuser or the refused.

Its probably even more common than we would think even among couples who have regular sex or are non sexual, for scheduling or sleep hygiene purposes.

I left to a spare bedroom. I was the refused and it pissed off my wife who likes to cuddle but more likely than not pulls away if I try to go any further.

I sleep much better since I left.

My parents — who were in a sexless marriage— had separate bedrooms from the time I was about 7 until my dad died some 30 years later. Mom’s explanation was dad snored. We were Catholic. Lots of my Catholic friends’ parents slept separately possibly as their means of birth control.

Several years before I divorced, I moved into a bedroom vacated by one of my adult sons. I did this after my h walked into our bedroom as I changed clothes. He said, “Excuse me,” and walked out. When a son came home for vacation and asked about the bedroom change, I just said that his dad and I were getting older and this arrangement worked for us. Incidentally, I was planning to stay married so the move wasn’t a deliberate step toward divorce. I was happier sleeping separately instead of continuing to sleep with a man who’d literally move away if I touched him while he was sleeping.

I was a lot happier once I made it known that it was easier for me if he stayed in the spare bedroom and I took the master. It started like that due to sleep schedules and work travel schedules etc but when he asked to come back into the master again I said no. We had already talked many times about how hard the SM was for me so I told him it was too difficult for me with him in the same room since I would feel that disappointment and rejection every single night. I told him it was better for me separate. He couldn’t argue with that. I was already pretty emotionally disconnected from him but making it official like that with us in separate rooms enabled me to fully disconnect from him and also made it easier for me to pursue outsourcing, quite honestly.

Thanks for all the replies. Wow Shynjdude, what a change! A midnight visit from a lover down the hall sounds hot!

Here's a little different perspective. You are already in separate rooms, mentally. So physically moving, most likely won't put a dent in her behavior and thinking.
However for you it's action. That can help you in your future decisions. A conformation, something more solid and tangible to work with, as you move forward in your journey.

I remember when I decided to stop any physical contact. No more accepting a crumb, or being allowed to only give crumbs.My knees where hanging off the bed. I slept in a fetal position. I stayed in bed,always facing away from the closet where she got dressed ( record time, 30 seconds) I used the bathroom when she was eating breakfast or after she left.

Then, on her own she moved into our backroom. Maybe a little different from others experiences. Our backroom was a enclosed back porch. Not many walls. Mostly sliding glass doors. This meant EVERYONE in the house got to see it and experience it. It gave her a "guard posted view,over the whole family". More power and control.

More of a "look what I go through, poor pitiful me. Look what a selfish ,bad,angry person your father is". Did she respect my boundaries? Of course not! My closed door meant she could blast her way in anytime, and as often as she pleased. She HAD TO USE THAT BATHROOM! Never mind we had three more.

So was it better? Yes and no. Seperate rooms can also be used as a weapon. Just sayin' and sharing an experience.

Good news! I made it! Things do and can get better.

Great point my friend! In my case my now ex just reversed things,again. " your father has difficulty sleeping with my snoring". Another half truth. She ended up having a breathing machine attached to her nose, it would come loose several times in the night,among countless 'other reasons' that never would be discussed.  But once again " zero trust, more of her not being accountable at all for her attitude and actions" 
Very big on keeping up the image, not dropping the fake mask.