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Post by SoloSenior on May 22, 2016 13:13:53 GMT -5
One LAST post here,
The reason I am not attracted to women over 50 is they are, usually, not attracted to me, they have NO interest, they have no hormones/libido.
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Post by seabr33z3 on May 22, 2016 13:36:25 GMT -5
They may not be attracted to you, but it most certainly isn't due to lack of libido/hormones on their part lMO. I sailed through menopause and know many women who are ' freed up' after coming out the other side.
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2016 14:33:19 GMT -5
One LAST post here, The reason I am not attracted to women over 50 is they are, usually, not attracted to me, they have NO interest, they have no hormones/libido. SS SMDH |
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2016 14:42:57 GMT -5
Honestly, I had the same reaction deleted did. I'm 51, still have a very healthy libido and think I can be considered attractive. I certainly don't appreciate being written off simply because of my age. You really have to be careful when you paint with such a broad brush. I'm sorry your wife is one of the women who lost their desire with the onset of menopause, but there are plenty of post-menopausal women out there enjoying sex. I think particularly here on a site filled with women in this age group who so badly desire a good sex life, you're going to get some blowback for your comments. |
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Post by dancingbear70 on May 22, 2016 15:13:48 GMT -5
I have to assume we are being trolled. No one is that tone deaf. Right?
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Post by deleted on May 22, 2016 15:42:41 GMT -5
But I have no clue who would attract me when I'm 70yrs old. Does it really matter who SoloSenior is attracted to? i don't care who he is attracted to. I just wanted women over the age of 50 to know that there are men who find them attractive, interesting and desirable. I thought what he said was kind of uncool in a forum where people are struggling dealing with being refused by their spouses. He may be okay with it, but it's a seriously fucked up head trip for those who are not okay and are dealing with the mental consequences gifted to them by their refusing spouses. |
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2016 17:08:31 GMT -5
All women over 50 are not alike.
All women who have gone into menopause are not alike.
All men are not alike. Some find women over 50 attractive. Some do not.
IMHO, it's difficult to change who you feel that spark of attraction for. So, no judgment from me on anybody, for who they do or do not find attractive.
Just be tactful about expressing your preferences, that's all I ask.
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2016 19:33:15 GMT -5
dancingbear70 SweepyBear unmatched deleted @phinheasgage Thank you, you all's understanding and your solidarity with your iliasm sisters touched me deeply. To find and form a relationship with a man like you all is my most elusive yet meaningful goal in life.
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Post by lwoetin on May 22, 2016 22:20:50 GMT -5
"We agreed and the deal has worked well for a bit over 23 years. I am content" - It reads like you have pulled off the hardest option of them all. Accepting the situation without resentment, the "without resentment" part being the key. I've been on EP for about 4 years and I don't remember any member getting through a SM like this. Have you in your many years? Usually they break down at some point or we just don't hear from them. |
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Post by baza on May 22, 2016 22:34:42 GMT -5
@ Iwoetin.
There was a bloke called HarveySpector who seemed to have accepted his situation without resentment, but beyond him I can't recall too many others.
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There were plenty who 'resigned' themselves to their situation (which I guess is sort of 'accepting' it, but with bucketloads of resentment as well)
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Post by JMX on May 22, 2016 22:49:16 GMT -5
baza - I would argue that there is no such thing as anyone accepting it without resentment that posts on a sexless marriage forum. Just saying 
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Post by unmatched on May 22, 2016 23:29:46 GMT -5
baza - I would argue that there is no such thing as anyone accepting it without resentment that posts on a sexless marriage forum. Just saying But 23 years is not enough proof? I would think if you were really accepting your fate without resentment, then you would be more inclined to question the validity of beliefs like this: 'The reason I am not attracted to women over 50 is they are, usually, not attracted to me, they have NO interest, they have no hormones/libido'. I am not there yet, and I don't know a lot of 70 year old women, but I know my grandmother remarried at 65 and gained a whole new spring in her step, and my neighbour whose husband died last year (and is 85) is shacking up with her new boyfriend several nights a week. So personally I have my doubts. |
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Post by unmatched on May 23, 2016 1:23:25 GMT -5
I am not sure how I would even deal with 23 years with no sex. I would be dead I think. Unless of some assistance from above. No, me neither! |
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Post by darktippedrose on May 23, 2016 2:52:57 GMT -5
I have gone 3 years without sex or much hugs either. And ...... I'm going to counseling.
And as for not liking older women, to each their own. But for women in a sexless marriage who have had personal insults by the person thats supposed to love them most
so nothing wrong with how you feel - but maybe just careful wording
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Post by angryspartan on May 23, 2016 9:56:39 GMT -5
whoa people, I think we're being a little too sensitive. So the guy isn't attracted to women past a certain age, that doesn't mean YOU are not attractive.
It's no different than a woman not liking short guys or another attribute he has no control over.
I wouldn't say a woman is "too old to be attractive," because if she's hot, she's hot. I however wouldn't light a guy on fire if older women were not his thing.
I will say I don't buy the OP's claim of being ok with his situation, because why would he be here otherwise. You don't go looking for a support group if your not in need of support.
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