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Post by elkclan2 on Aug 28, 2018 2:26:06 GMT -5
The way that someone treats people they think are 'beneath them' or of 'no consequence' to them is a good indicator of how they'll treat you when things get ropey. I knew that and ignored the red flag. My ex was sometimes rude to wait staff - not in a deliberate way, I don't think, but when I told him he came off a bit gruff and demanding and maybe a bit rude, he denied it and said that was the way his mother spoke to wait staff (which I don't doubt!!!). I was determined that this was not something I tolerate again. I know it's a small thing in a way, but it was one of my 'red lines' in dating.
The other day we were out (playing Pokemon Go!) and were standing around with a bunch of 20-something guys. A woman needed help getting a freezer in her flat. My partner said "Give me a minute and I will come and help you." He finished what he was doing (2-3 minutes) and then rounded up a couple guys and went to help her. (Turned out she'd found help in the mean time!) I've never seen him be rude to anyone - he demands that our boys are respectful to everyone we interact with (in a gentle kind of way). It has been an absolute joy having him help me deal with selling the house rather than my ex (who has done sweet FA).
I've been sick this week and just really not on it. He has taken care of me. I usually cook and he usually cleans up. He's made meals when I've not been up to it and cleans up. It's still school holidays here and he took my son out to something he wanted to see and left me at home to rest (I felt bad about that - but I needed to rest as I'm back to work this week and still not right). It does make me happy that my son was happy to do the outing with my partner. Sometimes I feel like I won the lottery, but then I think - well, luck is involved, but I was wise enough to take the luck and run with it.
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