Post by Deleted on May 19, 2016 16:13:26 GMT -5
itsjustus , yes, gaslighting - one of the worst types of psychological abuse, don't you think? Especially for us empaths who genuinely want to work with people, who come to the table in good faith, and who demonstrate and expect honesty in communication. I first learned the term gaslighting from my brother when he was in relationship with a (likely) Borderline Personality-disordered girlfriend.
Maybe gaslighting is a way for them to keep spinning the topic off the table. Maybe it's a way to gain or maintain control over us. Maybe it's their only means of getting us back under their spell - if we doubt the truth, then they can fill our head with their version of the truth, evading all blame and convincing us it's all our fault after all. I don't know. Gaslighting just might deserve it's own thread, to raise awareness and to tease out some of the complexities.
I know I've apologized to my demented refuser more times than I care to count, all for things that were never my fault to begin with. Not going to fall for that trick anymore. There's a new Elle in town. And this girl ain't taking nothin' from no one.
Maybe gaslighting is a way for them to keep spinning the topic off the table. Maybe it's a way to gain or maintain control over us. Maybe it's their only means of getting us back under their spell - if we doubt the truth, then they can fill our head with their version of the truth, evading all blame and convincing us it's all our fault after all. I don't know. Gaslighting just might deserve it's own thread, to raise awareness and to tease out some of the complexities.
I know I've apologized to my demented refuser more times than I care to count, all for things that were never my fault to begin with. Not going to fall for that trick anymore. There's a new Elle in town. And this girl ain't taking nothin' from no one.
