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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 19, 2017 16:06:01 GMT -5
I am sitting in my backyard with the sliding glass door closed, and will be attempting to use Siri to dictate this story, so I hope it comes out not too garbled.
I went out for drinks last night with a couple of girlfriends… All along good, except that he decided to text me while I was in the process of getting my toenails done to ask if I had any time to stop by home before picking up our kid from my mom's house after I had drinks.
Now by way of background, my mom has been on the East Coast for the last week with my brother and sister-in-law… So I haven't seen her in a few weeks.
The text I get from H says he wants to f my brains out. I reply that I don't know what time I'm going to finish… I know that's a very wishy-washy answer; I was hoping to avoid a lot of crazy behavior and an extremely long string of text messages on his part.
Well, my plan completely fell apart… I went to my mom's house, sat down with her, and we've caught up over the last two weeks.
My husband normally works on Saturday mornings, so I figured anytime after about 10 PM he would be asleep… Now, I do admit that it got pretty late while I was catching up with my mom; I've stayed out late many, many times in the past, and it should be no surprise to anybody that sometimes I come home late.
I look at my phone while I'm talking to my mom, and it is after midnight… I begin getting text messages from home that say, "I want [kid] home. You bringing him home soon?"
My mom and I keep talking for a couple of more minutes, but decided to pack up and send me home anyway… While i'm in the process of getting home, I get a private Facebook message from my husband, saying, "I want [kid] home. Do I have to come pick him up?"
I get home just after 1 AM, and he is gone. Evidently, he hopped in his car and started to drive north. I respond to his text and say " I was driving; we are home".
I wake up the teenager who has passed out in the passenger seat, get him upstairs and to bed, then get myself to bed… After about 20 minutes, I hear a car pull up in Front of the driveway, and a few minutes later, I hear some stuff being moved around in the kitchen.
Has been comes to bed and falls asleep… I woke up the next morning knowing that I have to be somewhere at 8:45 AM because I am helping out. (Business organization I help out with once per month)
Husband passes me in the hallway without a word as we are both getting ready. My son, who is downstairs, asks me if I want to watch a particular TV show with him while I'm getting ready, so I agree we put it on.
Has been then comes downstairs, and immediately asks our son to watch a different TV show. Son agrees.
As I'm heading out the door, I told him both goodbye, and husband asks me, "How do I look?" He's wearing gym clothes and is lounging on the couch. I say, "You look relaxed" and he proceeds to roll his eyes and sighs heavily as he shakes his head.
ETA: I also, on my way out the door, noticed a bottle of wine on the counter with the wind stopper in it… My husband's mom was an alcoholic, and the entire length of our marriage, he has giving me grief about drinking socially, up until the past two years… He know himself uses wine to sleep after he's been upset at night . I get my car to leave and noticed that his car has partially blocked me in… No problem! I drive a teeny tiny car, so I just put on my back up camera and maneuver out.
I am sure there is a lot to pick a part in my behavior, but I am kind of at the point of not giving two shits anymore.
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Post by bballgirl on Aug 19, 2017 16:39:44 GMT -5
When you're done you're done. You can't force it.
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Post by TMD on Aug 19, 2017 16:57:31 GMT -5
MPB, do you realize that Siri translated "husband," to, "has been?"
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 19, 2017 17:24:08 GMT -5
MPB, do you realize that Siri translated "husband," to, "has been?" Oh my God, that is ironic! |
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Post by TMD on Aug 19, 2017 17:33:00 GMT -5
MPB, do you realize that Siri translated "husband," to, "has been?" Oh my God, that is ironic! LOL. It is. And it's worth a giggle. The other day autocorrect changed, "spouse," to, "louse. Glad I caught it; I don't loathe my roommate-spouse. |
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Post by baza on Aug 19, 2017 21:30:13 GMT -5
Just as an exercise, I applied the strike through function to any references to your husband in your story Sister mypaintbrushes . It reads as quite a good couple of days if you take him and his idiocy out of the picture. I am sitting in my backyard with the sliding glass door closed, and will be attempting to use Siri to dictate this story, so I hope it comes out not too garbled.
I went out for drinks last night with a couple of girlfriends… All along good, except that he decided to text me while I was in the process of getting my toenails done to ask if I had any time to stop by home before picking up our kid from my mom's house after I had drinks.
Now by way of background, my mom has been on the East Coast for the last week with my brother and sister-in-law… So I haven't seen her in a few weeks.
The text I get from H says he wants to f my brains out. I reply that I don't know what time I'm going to finish… I know that's a very wishy-washy answer; I was hoping to avoid a lot of crazy behavior and an extremely long string of text messages on his part.
Well, my plan completely fell apart… I went to my mom's house, sat down with her, and we've caught up over the last two weeks.
My husband normally works on Saturday mornings, so I figured anytime after about 10 PM he would be asleep… Now, I do admit that it got pretty late while I was catching up with my mom; I've stayed out late many, many times in the past, and it should be no surprise to anybody that sometimes I come home late.
I look at my phone while I'm talking to my mom, and it is after midnight… I begin getting text messages from home that say, "I want [kid] home. You bringing him home soon?"
My mom and I keep talking for a couple of more minutes, but decided to pack up and send me home anyway… While i'm in the process of getting home, I get a private Facebook message from my husband, saying, "I want [kid] home. Do I have to come pick him up?"
I get home just after 1 AM, and he is gone. Evidently, he hopped in his car and started to drive north. I respond to his text and say " I was driving; we are home".
I wake up the teenager who has passed out in the passenger seat, get him upstairs and to bed, then get myself to bed… After about 20 minutes, I hear a car pull up in Front of the driveway, and a few minutes later, I hear some stuff being moved around in the kitchen.
Has been comes to bed and falls asleep… I woke up the next morning knowing that I have to be somewhere at 8:45 AM because I am helping out. (Business organization I help out with once per month)
Husband passes me in the hallway without a word as we are both getting ready. My son, who is downstairs, asks me if I want to watch a particular TV show with him while I'm getting ready, so I agree we put it on.
Has been then comes downstairs, and immediately asks our son to watch a different TV show. Son agrees.
As I'm heading out the door, I told him both goodbye, and husband asks me, "How do I look?" He's wearing gym clothes and is lounging on the couch. I say, "You look relaxed" and he proceeds to roll his eyes and sighs heavily as he shakes his head.
ETA: I also, on my way out the door, noticed a bottle of wine on the counter with the wind stopper in it… My husband's mom was an alcoholic, and the entire length of our marriage, he has giving me grief about drinking socially, up until the past two years… He know himself uses wine to sleep after he's been upset at night . I get my car to leave and noticed that his car has partially blocked me in… No problem! I drive a teeny tiny car, so I just put on my back up camera and maneuver out.
I am sure there is a lot to pick a part in my behavior, but I am kind of at the point of not giving two shits anymore. |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 19, 2017 21:51:40 GMT -5
Just as an exercise, I applied the strike through function to any references to your husband in your story Sister mypaintbrushes . It reads as quite a good couple of days if you take him and his idiocy out of the picture. I am sitting in my backyard with the sliding glass door closed, and will be attempting to use Siri to dictate this story, so I hope it comes out not too garbled.
I went out for drinks last night with a couple of girlfriends… All along good, except that he decided to text me while I was in the process of getting my toenails done to ask if I had any time to stop by home before picking up our kid from my mom's house after I had drinks.
Now by way of background, my mom has been on the East Coast for the last week with my brother and sister-in-law… So I haven't seen her in a few weeks.
The text I get from H says he wants to f my brains out. I reply that I don't know what time I'm going to finish… I know that's a very wishy-washy answer; I was hoping to avoid a lot of crazy behavior and an extremely long string of text messages on his part.
Well, my plan completely fell apart… I went to my mom's house, sat down with her, and we've caught up over the last two weeks.
My husband normally works on Saturday mornings, so I figured anytime after about 10 PM he would be asleep… Now, I do admit that it got pretty late while I was catching up with my mom; I've stayed out late many, many times in the past, and it should be no surprise to anybody that sometimes I come home late.
I look at my phone while I'm talking to my mom, and it is after midnight… I begin getting text messages from home that say, "I want [kid] home. You bringing him home soon?"
My mom and I keep talking for a couple of more minutes, but decided to pack up and send me home anyway… While i'm in the process of getting home, I get a private Facebook message from my husband, saying, "I want [kid] home. Do I have to come pick him up?"
I get home just after 1 AM, and he is gone. Evidently, he hopped in his car and started to drive north. I respond to his text and say " I was driving; we are home".
I wake up the teenager who has passed out in the passenger seat, get him upstairs and to bed, then get myself to bed… After about 20 minutes, I hear a car pull up in Front of the driveway, and a few minutes later, I hear some stuff being moved around in the kitchen.
Has been comes to bed and falls asleep… I woke up the next morning knowing that I have to be somewhere at 8:45 AM because I am helping out. (Business organization I help out with once per month)
Husband passes me in the hallway without a word as we are both getting ready. My son, who is downstairs, asks me if I want to watch a particular TV show with him while I'm getting ready, so I agree we put it on.
Has been then comes downstairs, and immediately asks our son to watch a different TV show. Son agrees.
As I'm heading out the door, I told him both goodbye, and husband asks me, "How do I look?" He's wearing gym clothes and is lounging on the couch. I say, "You look relaxed" and he proceeds to roll his eyes and sighs heavily as he shakes his head.
ETA: I also, on my way out the door, noticed a bottle of wine on the counter with the wind stopper in it… My husband's mom was an alcoholic, and the entire length of our marriage, he has giving me grief about drinking socially, up until the past two years… He know himself uses wine to sleep after he's been upset at night . I get my car to leave and noticed that his car has partially blocked me in… No problem! I drive a teeny tiny car, so I just put on my back up camera and maneuver out.
I am sure there is a lot to pick a part in my behavior, but I am kind of at the point of not giving two shits anymore.Thank you for the laugh!! 😂 |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 19, 2017 21:54:06 GMT -5
Oh my God, that is ironic! LOL. It is. And it's worth a giggle. The other day autocorrect changed, "spouse," to, "louse. Glad I caught it; I don't loathe my roommate-spouse. I'm not sure how Siri would interpret my pronunciation of "spouse". Worth finding out? 🤔 |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 20, 2017 11:40:09 GMT -5
And last night at 1:30am, he posted a long missive on Facebook about how he wants deeper, loving friendships and people he can count on to do things. I assume because I went to karaoke with friends (he was gone all day long himself). Gah.
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 20, 2017 13:27:03 GMT -5
Mypaintbrushes, you seem to focus your life on scrutinizing your husband's emotions. Doing so distracts you from more important things such as separating your finances so his financial irresponsibility doesn't push you into bankruptcy or otherwise ruin your life.
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Post by unmatched on Aug 20, 2017 20:03:20 GMT -5
I have been away for a while so trying to catch up. Reading all your posts, I keep getting a sense that you are telling one story after another where you are caught up in some kind of dysfunctional dynamic with your husband. He comes across as a messed up 12 year old with ADHD and emotional issues combined with a complete lack of responsibility for anything. And you come across as ? ? ? Honestly I don't know. What do you want? What kind of life do you want? What kind of relationships do you want? You seem to be putting all your attention on other people, hoping they will reflect back to you who you are and how worthy you are or aren't as a person. But I never got a sense from within you that you have a strong sense of yourself and what you want. Maybe you could try and write a new post that is all about you and what you have to give to the world? You might discover a whole new mypaintbrushes  |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 20, 2017 22:34:46 GMT -5
I have been away for a while so trying to catch up. Reading all your posts, I keep getting a sense that you are telling one story after another where you are caught up in some kind of dysfunctional dynamic with your husband. He comes across as a messed up 12 year old with ADHD and emotional issues combined with a complete lack of responsibility for anything. And you come across as ? ? ? Honestly I don't know. What do you want? What kind of life do you want? What kind of relationships do you want? You seem to be putting all your attention on other people, hoping they will reflect back to you who you are and how worthy you are or aren't as a person. But I never got a sense from within you that you have a strong sense of yourself and what you want. Maybe you could try and write a new post that is all about you and what you have to give to the world? You might discover a whole new mypaintbrushes OK, message received. I will stop sharing. |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 20, 2017 22:36:08 GMT -5
Mypaintbrushes, you seem to focus your life on scrutinizing your husband's emotions. Doing so distracts you from more important things such as separating your finances so his financial irresponsibility doesn't push you into bankruptcy or otherwise ruin your life. Thought I could share/vent here. Thanks for straightening me out. I'll stop. |
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Post by wom360 on Aug 20, 2017 22:55:13 GMT -5
That passive aggressive stuff won't work any better on us than it does on him.
Without talking about him tell us what you really want in your life.
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Post by baza on Aug 20, 2017 22:59:55 GMT -5
Suggestion.
If you make it clear that you are just venting and do not wish for any feedback or suggestions, people will respect that and not bother you with any feedback or suggestions.
People assume (and I'm guilty of this) that if you post your story here that you want people to level with you about what they think. And obviously, that assumption is not always correct. . . this thread being a case in point.
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