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Post by WindSister on Jul 12, 2017 10:21:14 GMT -5
Social media is so freaking stupid. It REALLY is.
I am saying this laughing, but also thinking I could delete FB and just live a happier life.
My stepdaughter posted a slew of pictures from their zoo trip this weekend. Who was the first to comment? My husband's ex-girlfriend -- a woman he was with off and on for 3 years who saw his kids for maybe a total of 5 times those 3 years and who he's been broken up with longer now than they were even ever together. She clings to his kids on social media, though.
Anyway, she comments, "I love zoos."
LMAO.
Thank GOD we all know that. Life can go on now!!
Clueless.
Tactless.
Sad.
Pathetic.
MOVE ON.
I am not sorry for feeling that way. Logged off FB for awhile now. We are not meant to see exes in newsfeeds. It's stupid.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 10:47:34 GMT -5
Perhaps a larger question... what is your husband's ex(es) doing on his newsfeed, leaking into your newsfeed? Your H has choices too in this matter.
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Post by WindSister on Jul 12, 2017 11:06:20 GMT -5
Perhaps a larger question... what is your husband's ex(es) doing on his newsfeed, leaking into your newsfeed? Your H has choices too in this matter. Naw. She's neither of our friends. His daughters are. He's been on the up and up with her and flat out told her to leave him and his family/kids/friends alone -- before I even entered the picture, to which she threw a total hissy fit, yelling at him in a bowling alley (they were wrapping up a bowling league when they broke up). She is the one clinging to his family, friends. |
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Post by WindSister on Jul 12, 2017 11:07:58 GMT -5
Oh.. and his ex wife I expect to see (shared kids) and I am at total peace with her - I see her a lot in real life too,. but neither of us are "Friends" on FB with her.
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Post by WindSister on Jul 12, 2017 11:08:41 GMT -5
and we could block her on FB, too, but she'd still "be there" --- it's the whole principle of it, I don't get. She must live a sad life or something.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 11:36:03 GMT -5
and we could block her on FB, too, but she'd still "be there" --- it's the whole principle of it, I don't get. She must live a sad life or something. Yes, she has a sad life. But the idea is to get her out of your FB feed  |
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Post by WindSister on Jul 12, 2017 11:40:11 GMT -5
and we could block her on FB, too, but she'd still "be there" --- it's the whole principle of it, I don't get. She must live a sad life or something. Yes, she has a sad life. But the idea is to get her out of your FB feed I know. I could block her. But she would still "be" there so I don't see the point, I guess. I am just waiting for her to freaking disappear like a good ex should, but she's a crazy stubborn one. |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 12, 2017 11:58:01 GMT -5
Social media is so freaking stupid. It REALLY is. I am saying this laughing, but also thinking I could delete FB and just live a happier life. My stepdaughter posted a slew of pictures from their zoo trip this weekend. Who was the first to comment? My husband's ex-girlfriend -- a woman he was with off and on for 3 years who saw his kids for maybe a total of 5 times those 3 years and who he's been broken up with longer now than they were even ever together. She clings to his kids on social media, though. Anyway, she comments, "I love zoos." LMAO. Thank GOD we all know that. Life can go on now!! Clueless. Tactless. Sad. Pathetic. MOVE ON. I am not sorry for feeling that way. Logged off FB for awhile now. We are not meant to see exes in newsfeeds. It's stupid. I try to get on Facebook every 6 months whether I need to or not. |
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Post by WindSister on Jul 12, 2017 13:04:46 GMT -5
Social media is so freaking stupid. It REALLY is. I am saying this laughing, but also thinking I could delete FB and just live a happier life. My stepdaughter posted a slew of pictures from their zoo trip this weekend. Who was the first to comment? My husband's ex-girlfriend -- a woman he was with off and on for 3 years who saw his kids for maybe a total of 5 times those 3 years and who he's been broken up with longer now than they were even ever together. She clings to his kids on social media, though. Anyway, she comments, "I love zoos." LMAO. Thank GOD we all know that. Life can go on now!! Clueless. Tactless. Sad. Pathetic. MOVE ON. I am not sorry for feeling that way. Logged off FB for awhile now. We are not meant to see exes in newsfeeds. It's stupid. I try to get on Facebook every 6 months whether I need to or not. I wish I was that strong. I have a love/hate thing going on with FB. |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 12, 2017 13:43:28 GMT -5
I try to get on Facebook every 6 months whether I need to or not. I wish I was that strong. I have a love/hate thing going on with FB. Mine is mainly a hate thing. I guess I should think about when it is appropriate to change my relationship status. I don't want to appear too hasty, but it also has changed. Maybe I change it when my ex changes hers. Or maybe I just say fuck it and change it on my next semi-annual visit. |
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 13:56:43 GMT -5
I wish I was that strong. I have a love/hate thing going on with FB. Mine is mainly a hate thing. I guess I should think about when it is appropriate to change my relationship status. I don't want to appear too hasty, but it also has changed. Maybe I change it when my ex changes hers. Or maybe I just say fuck it and change it on my next semi-annual visit. Your big decision will likely be when to unfriend your new Ex. How fast that happens may depend on how she adjusts to her new reality. |
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Post by WindSister on Jul 12, 2017 14:00:30 GMT -5
It took me 6 months to unfriend my ex, his friends and all his family. I felt bad unfriending some people, but in the end, it was the best decision for me> It felt healthy to me. Those are HIS ties, not mine. I respect such boundaries but most people don't and argue it's cold to cut all ties. That's fine, everyone is different. BUt for me, it feels good not clinging to the past.
If you aren't on FB, though, no worries, you won't see all that "fun" stuff.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 12, 2017 14:18:47 GMT -5
Mine is mainly a hate thing. I guess I should think about when it is appropriate to change my relationship status. I don't want to appear too hasty, but it also has changed. Maybe I change it when my ex changes hers. Or maybe I just say fuck it and change it on my next semi-annual visit. Your big decision will likely be when to unfriend your new Ex. How fast that happens may depend on how she adjusts to her new reality. I'm not sure I will want to unfriend my ex. Almost all of her posts involve the kids. She's one of those people who have the picture of the kids as her profile pic rather than of herself. Since they are with her more, I'd like to see her posts. If she unfriends me? So be it. |
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Post by beachguy on Jul 12, 2017 14:28:09 GMT -5
Your big decision will likely be when to unfriend your new Ex. How fast that happens may depend on how she adjusts to her new reality. I'm not sure I will want to unfriend my ex. Almost all of her posts involve the kids. She's one of those people who have the picture of the kids as her profile pic rather than of herself. Since they are with her more, I'd like to see her posts. If she unfriends me? So be it. Shortly after I separated, I had to unfriend her after she called me up and went totally psycho on me for about 10 minutes, over a picture I posted to my timeline. I actually had to hang up on her in mid-sentence. Something I don't think I ever did before or since. You might think it was a pic of my new gf or at least a female that she could let her imagination run wild on. Nope. It was a pic of the full moon. No lie. I know my STBX is "very different" in those ways, but I thought it was worth a "depends on" comment. Of course if you rarely post to your timeline then it may be rather moot. Almost forgot... that was shortly after a friend did a group selfie in a bar, mixed gender, posted it to his timeline and then tagged me. She didn't like that either but it was the other pic, I think, that really set her off. She was upset that I stealth unfriended her but I never bothered to comment on that. |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 12, 2017 14:34:20 GMT -5
I'm not sure I will want to unfriend my ex. Almost all of her posts involve the kids. She's one of those people who have the picture of the kids as her profile pic rather than of herself. Since they are with her more, I'd like to see her posts. If she unfriends me? So be it. Shortly after I separated, I had to unfriend her after she called me up and went totally psycho on me for about 10 minutes, over a picture I posted to my timeline. I actually had to hang up on her in mid-sentence. Something I don't think I ever did before or since. You might think it was a pic of my new gf or at least a female that she could let her imagination run wild on. Nope. It was a pic of the full moon. No lie. I know my STBX is "very different" in those ways, but I thought it was worth a "depends on" comment. Of course if you rarely post to your timeline then it may be rather moot. Almost forgot... that was shortly after a friend did a group selfie in a bar, mixed gender, posted it to his timeline and then tagged me. She didn't like that either but it was the other pic, I think, that really set her off. She was upset that I stealth unfriended her but I never bothered to comment on that. So dumb question... I can unfriendly someone without them knowing? |
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