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Post by JMX on Jul 6, 2017 22:15:38 GMT -5
By the way thanks to those who responded to my previous threads. Appreciated. And I apologise a little for putting this thread. It may make me sound ignorant.We are all different but I wanted to ask this question. I hope that's ok. I was brought up well to respect women and I do, however just the way things turned out I spent most of my life before marriage in men's company. To be honest I was very sociable and fun loving but tended to hang out with the guys. I feel like as I grew up I got to know a lot of guys well and they knew other guys etc. I know we are all individuals but to be honest I never met a guy who when it came to sex was all that much different. When I read some of the threads from women that shocked me. So what happens in a SM where a man declines sex the whole time. So I put myself in that woman's position and thought it through. My thoughts moved straight to a letter saying goodbye and a new life away from that man. So what's the story. How does a woman end up being refused intimacy from her own husband. "I never met a guy who when it came to sex was all that much different" Talking to my H, you wouldn't know that he is a refuser. Because he is getting the amount of sex he wants, he feels like our sex life is great. He feels like he has a normal sex drive and never goes into detailed specifics of frequency and reload time, so his conversation would sound like he enjoys sex and has a lot. Mine would say the same. Just tonight he was talking about a co-worker that got "no love" from his wife because she was going through the change. Ha! Ridiculous. |
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Post by JMX on Jul 6, 2017 22:17:49 GMT -5
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Post by adixie4you2know on Jul 9, 2017 16:08:25 GMT -5
For a woman just like a man its Hell but it's a different kind of Hell. Because of the cultural stigma that men always want sex, for women we feel alone, like we are the only woman on Earth whose husband doesn't want us. Whose husband isn't attracted to us. We feel like something is wrong with us. That's what's it's like, a special kind of Hell. |
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Post by rejected101 on Jul 19, 2017 5:04:35 GMT -5
As a general rule of thumb it is the guys who are typically refused due to the fact that woman are usually more 'ok' with little or infrequent sex (in my experience). That's just a testosterone thing as I understand. For this reason I can see why it would make refused ladies feel even more hurt about being refused. However, I don't think it is any better or any worse for a guy. The reason I say that is because I know that I couldn't have felt anymore alone or hurt during my darkest days. I was brought up with men's magazines, TV and films and lots of other things all showing how a man will be so desirable, his girl will flop on to the bed and spread her legs most nights because she can't help herself but desire her hero. That wasn't reality for me or many others of course and it starts that whole questioning yourself issue, wondering if you are physically unattractive, wondering if your performance is up to scratch and so on. So basically I think it is the same feeling for both men and woman when they are refused and it's is for the same selfish reason by the refuser... They don't need to have sex and so they don't offer or make any effort to up their game. Ultimately what this is is ignoring what is important to your partner because it's not so important to you.
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