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Post by TMD on Jun 14, 2017 21:47:19 GMT -5
This has been a shit week.
Work is providing some interesting challenges, and I'm questioning whether I can work in the role I do and keep my integrity intact. I do need the job and after a near decade absence from the workforce am reluctant to quit without securing another position, but not confident an employer will jump at my resume quite yet.
I'm so very short with my family and lover. I'm beyond peeved at roommate.
I feel like I'm unraveling.
Is this normal? Part of the process? Or just a coincidence? ((Okay. Work might be a coincidence. My irritability with kids points To something I'm not figuring out quite yet.))
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Post by baza on Jun 15, 2017 1:05:06 GMT -5
Given the impending separation / zipcode therapy, I'd suggest that you are closer to "getting it" rather than "losing it".
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Post by merrygoround on Jun 15, 2017 4:53:44 GMT -5
TMD let it out! Let it all out! I was talking recently with somebody over the shit we had been through and the need to discuss things, communicate honestly and being in the situations we have been and what it's done to us as people over time. Expression of those feelings is so key - I likened it to a slow release of the poison we had been administered. Like an infection slowly draining. Not a pretty picture I admit. The frustrations and anger will out, no matter how you try and contain them. It's all completely natural and understandable and yes, at times you do feel like you're going slightly insane. You're not. You don't escape without a few scars though. But those scars will fade. x
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 15, 2017 6:30:00 GMT -5
It is normal. Work can be stressful and bleed into other parts of our life.
Take it day by day or hour by hour.
When you leave work try to forget about it if possible, sort of compartmentalize it if you care capable of that.
This will pass. Things will get better!
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Post by McRoomMate on Jun 15, 2017 6:34:57 GMT -5
Hang tough. Basic rule: don't quit your job until it is certain you have secured a new one. Barring disease/physical injury, I think "FINANCIAL" problems could hurt your plans.
Not having any facts I am guessing probably 1 year in your current job should be OK to show you are stable at work and not a serial job changer (of course different industries / professions have totally different scales - so I don't know).
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Post by shamwow on Jun 15, 2017 9:52:17 GMT -5
Given the impending separation / zipcode therapy, I'd suggest that you are closer to "getting it" rather than "losing it". 100% agree with baz on this one. Although when you're in the blender, it is kind of hard sometimes to tell the difference. |
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Post by TMD on Jun 17, 2017 17:29:56 GMT -5
Thanks all. Things got progressively better. Still feeling a bit edgy.
C'est la vie.
Barring any major issues in the work place, I'll stick it out as long as I can. I'm fast tracking the 'bridging 9 yr gap with experience'. My role also includes a lot of responsibility. That's a good thing.
Ultimately, I would prefer to work in a team with a progressive boss/organization. I'll prove myself in due time and, hopefully, be a desirable candidate to a prospective employer.
I'm also hoping to work for an organization a bit closer to home; am told they will be hiring more people with my qualifications in next year.
I think part of frustration was fact that we have a looming deadline that we agreed to, the roommate and myself. I'm not optimistic that he's done his part. And I'm the only one who checks in. It would be nice for him to volunteer a status update once in a while.
But then, I'd be fooling myself to think that when happen.
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Post by Dan on Jun 17, 2017 22:07:17 GMT -5
Hang in there, TMD.
Sounds like your roller coaster still has some ups and downs ahead of you.
That doesn't mean it's not taking you to a better place.
Hugs!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2017 14:42:50 GMT -5
I think sometimes we just have parts of our lives that suck.
I think I'm in one now, and have been since late 2012. But - and this is huge - I think we also get good parts of our lives. I have had a couple of good parts of my life. So I'm going to try to believe this one sucky part will be over sooner or later.
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Post by TMD on Jun 20, 2017 22:05:29 GMT -5
I'm reminding myself to not let the sucky part of my life interfere with being a decent mom. There are so many good parts of life, right, @smartkat? My fave today was laughing with my littlest one at bedtime.
Life can suck, but I can still laugh. And I'm trying to focus on the positive.
I didn't get much sleep last night because I accidentally opened my work email, only to see a long list of what I did wrong recently due to an audit. It's a part of my job that I help with. The tyrant boss omitted the good (actually, great) customer feedback I received on same day. He focused on all my wrong doings, right down to his perception that my voice was monotone. I spent rest of night trying to stop the shaking and quiet my mind.
OMG. And it didn't stop there. I received a slew of emails with other complaints mid-day today.
And I *think* he is also accusing me of stealing money. (I was asked to slip a cash payment under accting's door, which I did). But it wasn't there the next morning. And I was last person -- we know of -- with it.
Sigh. I love what I do. I pride myself for my integrity.
But I'm being dismantled by a tyrant.
I am off to bed now. Hopefully a good rest with provide me with the strength to confront him tomorrow. I don't like playing games. I simply want to know if he thinks I took the money. At least, I'll know where I stand. And unfortunately, I'm prepared to resign (although, I have this feeling I will be fired -- which has never happened! -- if I don't quit first).
Blech. Looking for a job at this point in time was not in the plans!
On the flip side, roommate is suppprtive of resignation. Probably because that will mean I have to rely on him a little longer. Kidding. Sort of.
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Post by TMD on Jun 20, 2017 22:07:15 GMT -5
LOL... I just saw title of my thread... I'm likely LOSING something... like my job.
Argh.
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Post by unmatched on Jun 20, 2017 23:07:36 GMT -5
If you wear the bowler hat from your photo to work they will have to assume you are trustworthy. Someone who looks like a stockbroker could never steal money!
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Post by McRoomMate on Jun 21, 2017 1:25:42 GMT -5
I'm reminding myself to not let the sucky part of my life interfere with being a decent mom. There are so many good parts of life, right, @smartkat ? My fave today was laughing with my littlest one at bedtime. Life can suck, but I can still laugh. And I'm trying to focus on the positive. I didn't get much sleep last night because I accidentally opened my work email, only to see a long list of what I did wrong recently due to an audit. It's a part of my job that I help with. The tyrant boss omitted the good (actually, great) customer feedback I received on same day. He focused on all my wrong doings, right down to his perception that my voice was monotone. I spent rest of night trying to stop the shaking and quiet my mind. OMG. And it didn't stop there. I received a slew of emails with other complaints mid-day today. And I *think* he is also accusing me of stealing money. (I was asked to slip a cash payment under accting's door, which I did). But it wasn't there the next morning. And I was last person -- we know of -- with it. Sigh. I love what I do. I pride myself for my integrity. But I'm being dismantled by a tyrant. I am off to bed now. Hopefully a good rest with provide me with the strength to confront him tomorrow. I don't like playing games. I simply want to know if he thinks I took the money. At least, I'll know where I stand. And unfortunately, I'm prepared to resign (although, I have this feeling I will be fired -- which has never happened! -- if I don't quit first). Blech. Looking for a job at this point in time was not in the plans! On the flip side, roommate is suppprtive of resignation. Probably because that will mean I have to rely on him a little longer. Kidding. Sort of. OK New facts (or I missed it) if your job is starting to impact you mentally and causing a lot of suffering . . . then "Plan B" could be discreetly start looking for a new job and just have your facts together on why you want to quit and change. Right now, I am interviewing candidates for an open position and we have run into "serial job changers" but then also candidates that recently started a job and just don't like it and have a "respectable" or "reasonable" reason for wanting to leave so early. Usually the best answers are "work is not interesting" or "not challenged enough" or "boring" - you might need to finesse / fine tune your reasons when you meet your new interviewers. That's my three cents. So recap: get the Hell out if it is making you miserable which it sounds like it is and the best way is have your narrative / reasons for leaving very nicely polished in preparation for the future interview. |
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Post by baza on Jun 21, 2017 1:43:22 GMT -5
Pretty hard juggling act you have set up here Sister TMD Extricating yourself from your ILIASM deal Balancing room mate / lover / family Managing an adverse work environment Potentially looking for a new job Might be time to re-arrange the pots on the stove here. From the outside looking in - - - Job issues on the main burner. ILIASM extraction on the next. Kids take the next available burner. The last burner has two candidates, spouse or lover. Only room for one of them. |
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 21, 2017 7:07:28 GMT -5
Life changes do create stress, and, you've got a shit load on your plate right now. I think you are doing just fine, given the circumstances.
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