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Post by TMD on Jun 21, 2017 7:36:20 GMT -5
Thanks guys.
I woke up, reasonably well rested, but I can't stop shaking. Usually a sign that I'm a wee bit peeved, and not confident I can stand up to a bully.
Maybe I'll be home "early" today, and will be able to update you. ;-)
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Post by WindSister on Jun 21, 2017 8:42:08 GMT -5
Oh no. That's a lot thrown at you. Sorry and here's hoping today turns around and ends up better than you thought it would be. Hang in there.
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Post by Apocrypha on Jun 22, 2017 9:13:02 GMT -5
You've had a lot invested, over a long time, in maintaining a stable structure based on a secret.
You are getting close to letting go of one secret, and at the same time, work (a source of stability) is threatened.
Your whole hamster cage is being rattled right now.
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Post by TMD on Jun 23, 2017 21:48:44 GMT -5
Here's an update. Things came to a head with the bosses yesterday when we met to discuss my role in respect to the missing money. Where I work, there is video, everything is monitored. I'd have to be really stupid or desperate to steal money (I'm not either). I just happened to be walking by reception a few weeks ago, and was asked to slip it under the accountant's door. Which I did. Then I returned to reception to confirm and ask her to email accountant to explain I whipped the envelope under door, and to check in case it went under her desk.
It went missing in a locked office that not even the cleaners (so I'm told) have a key to. 4 people were in the hallway, but I am the only one who doesn't work in that section. I was in hallway at the time I said I put the money under the door. What happened to it afterwards? I have no clue. How would I know what happened behind a locked door.
What I do know is that I was the last known person with the envelope.
But apparently I can't be trusted. When I mentioned to the bosses that all I have is my integrity and reputation, and that I wouldn't risk it to steal money, they replied, "oh, you wouldn't believe what people will do," and, "we can tell when people are lying." So I asked, "do you think I am lying right now?"
They wouldn't answer.
I was also strongly performance managed this week; my one bosses firing off several emails in succession to tell me how I am not doing my job well. I consulted a lawyer. She confirmed they can't do anything because they don't have proof. But obviously boss man was going to do what he could to discredit me in all facets of my job and reputation.
Yeah. It's a fucking stupid hamster cage.
So I quit today.
I walked in with a smile and a bounce in my step because I know it is the right decision. I don't need to go to work and be bullied daily, nor do I need to be accused of something I didn't do.
There was no drama. Once they received my resignation, I continued to work while the mgmt team (which I used to be a part of) met to discuss how to divide up my various tasks. And I was out the door for good 3 hours early.
On one hand, I know it's the right decision. On the other, I'm freaking mad. I am angry that I was put in that position. ((And, yes, I understand the optics of the missing money, but what floors me is the absolute complete lack of faith they have in an employee who has done nothing but work hard. Not one manager thanked me today for my efforts. I am guessing they believe I took the money. My reputation disintegrates with an incorrect assumption in a matter of a few days.))
So if you got this far. Summer break begins soon. Girls have activities, so I will busy myself with job hunting and organizing crap in the house. And a neighbour has offered an endless supply of sangria on the deck.
One chapter closes, another begins. And so on...
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 23, 2017 23:22:29 GMT -5
This is sad, TMD . I'm angry for you. I think I'd have given my notice and walked out; there'll be no recommendation from them anyway. Screw 'em if it's inconvenient. I might've been tempted to just ghost them with no notice, and leave them hanging until they gave up. Consider that when it comes to integrity, people have a tendency to project themselves onto others... so when they distrust you, it's probably grounded in their personal ethics. |
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Post by tamara68 on Jun 24, 2017 0:25:53 GMT -5
I am very sorry for you. Good you have left though. Not much chance that it would have been solved if you had stayed. And good to don't put up with people who mistreat you. Best of luck to you!
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Post by baza on Jun 24, 2017 1:19:21 GMT -5
Dud job / dud marriage. Both are very similar. In both you feel you have been unappreciated, both take a huge toll on you, both require effort levels of great magnitude with minimal pay off, and your end result is ingratitude and indifference to your aspirations, and complete disregard for the talents you brought to the table. Sister TMD , you have got rid of one of your sources of aggravation. Well done. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jun 24, 2017 3:29:07 GMT -5
Yessss! TMD you did a fantastic thing. Your boss is a complete dick and probably has the money himself. Fuck them. You are worth soooo much more. Nothing gonna bring you down, beautiful  I happened to be listening to this while I was reading your tale of shitness and thought it fitted your victory rather well. Keep that head high. New and better stuff is on its way to you !!!! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2017 9:06:46 GMT -5
The job thing sucks. But I think you handled it the best way you possibly could have, in that situation. It's obvious that they were going to scapegoat you - good on you for refusing to stay there and take it.
I would definitely hang out with the neighbor who has the sangria!
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Post by lwoetin on Jun 24, 2017 9:35:18 GMT -5
I'm really surprised that important materials, money get lost when you slip them under the door. That sounds like a foolproof method of safekeeping. Similar to how I keep a spare house key inside one of my shoes in my garage. (Fortunately, one needs to enter a code to open the garage door.)
Working in a hamster cage is not worth the stress. Sometimes it's necessary to leave, especially if noone has your back at your workplace. Good luck with your job search.
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