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Post by rdp62 on Jun 10, 2017 23:02:01 GMT -5
God yes this is true
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Post by baza on Jun 10, 2017 23:34:36 GMT -5
Pretty accurate statement in my opinion.
Though in my life I find I ascribe certain *levels* of trust to people.
An example, I trust my mate *Julian* to repay money I lent him. His track record in doing so is exemplary.
But, I would not tell him something in confidence, because he is a blabber-mouth.
But specifically to a marriage, once your spouse has shown themselves to be a poor custodian of ones imtimate / sexual side, it is pretty hard - if not impossible - to put that genie back in the bottle.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Jun 10, 2017 23:34:47 GMT -5
Maybe I'm missing the meaning of this but I get turned on when I see hot women shopping in the grocery store.
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 10, 2017 23:52:05 GMT -5
Maybe I'm missing the meaning of this but I get turned on when I see hot women shopping in the grocery store. Which section, produce or ? |
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Jun 10, 2017 23:59:59 GMT -5
Maybe I'm missing the meaning of this but I get turned on when I see hot women shopping in the grocery store. Which section, produce or ? Well, for most guys produce would be where the want a woman. I get that, watching a woman fondling a cucumber, or touching melons. Or frozen food, hoping that they will get cold. But not me, my favorite female body part is the ass. So ideally, I want to be on any aisle where there is a likelihood of a woman bending over to select an item off the bottom shelf. Mmmm... |
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Post by rdp62 on Jun 11, 2017 0:10:18 GMT -5
Well now we know!  |
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 11, 2017 4:59:07 GMT -5
I've been turned on and have had great sex with sexy men I did not trust.
For most of my marriage I trusted my husband. Stil, when we had sex, it was not much of a turn on.
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Post by h on Jun 11, 2017 5:15:47 GMT -5
I trust my W with many parts of my day to day life but I am good at compartmentalizing things into separate "boxes" so one area doesn't always affect others. I don't trust her with other areas of my life like sex. Maybe if I felt that trust in all areas, I would be more turned on by her. Although, I don't really want to be turned on if it's not going to lead anywhere.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 11, 2017 5:21:11 GMT -5
Yes trusting a man makes me want him more.
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Post by snowman12345 on Jun 11, 2017 6:41:13 GMT -5
Yes trusting a man makes me want him more. Would it be offensive if I told you I trust you very much? |
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 11, 2017 7:01:38 GMT -5
Yes trusting a man makes me want him more. Would it be offensive if I told you I trust you very much? Not at all, I trust you too!  |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 11, 2017 7:43:48 GMT -5
I read on another forum "Trust makes lust" Explanation: you can't be "turned on" by someone you don't trust. I don't know how reliable this is, but I thought this might make interesting conversation. Thoughts? I would say Trust makes Intimacy, not lust. I don't think trust is needed for lust. Lust is more primal feeling, where all the other things you want in a relationship don't matter. Trusting the other person allows the walls to come down allowing for a more intimate experience. |
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Post by wewbwb on Jun 11, 2017 8:14:38 GMT -5
Things I've never said.
"Her trusts make me glad to be a man."
"I love the way she wiggles her trust when she walks."
"The curves of her trust make me hard . "
"The taste of her trust drove me wild."
"Who's trust is this baby? That's right , its my trust.
I'm going to take that trust and fill it. I'm going to beat that trust up.
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 11, 2017 8:39:26 GMT -5
Trusting that someone will be positively responsive to your sexual needs is very important in a mutually-fulfilling sexual relationship. One would be able to trust that one won't be cruelly rejected, shamed, ridiculed, etc. Many in SMs forget about this aspect of trust.
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Post by wewbwb on Jun 11, 2017 10:25:13 GMT -5
itme Actually that is less feedback as it is crass objectifying of woman. I fully understand this. Trust, is something that is integral in a healthy relationship. As northstarmom says a positive response is very important. I believe not just in matters of sex, but in life.
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