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Post by snowman12345 on Jun 9, 2017 5:22:18 GMT -5
Not yet. I'm waiting to see if 1) this exercise stuff does help my libido and 2) see if he notices on his own without me spelling it out for him Your marriage is having trouble, which often means the subtle clues when picked up on, are not always interpreted the same way. I would suggest spelling it out. I am doing X, in hopes that it will help me feel Y, and you will start doing Z, and I will want to do that thing you said. Exactly! Men, very often are not good at subtle clues. Personally, if a woman says or does something provocative to me - I interpret it as wishful thinking on my part. You either need to take a second swing at me or be kind of blunt the first time. Just my two cents.
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Post by h on Jun 9, 2017 6:31:10 GMT -5
Your marriage is having trouble, which often means the subtle clues when picked up on, are not always interpreted the same way. I would suggest spelling it out. I am doing X, in hopes that it will help me feel Y, and you will start doing Z, and I will want to do that thing you said. Exactly! Men, very often are not good at subtle clues. Personally, if a woman says or does something provocative to me - I interpret it as wishful thinking on my part. You either need to take a second swing at me or be kind of blunt the first time. Just my two cents. I have the same first reaction. If it's too subtle, I brush it off as unintended and assume I misinterpreted the signal. After years of being told no, I never assume that subtle hints mean what I think/want/hope for them to mean. For years, what I thought were subtle signals turned out not to be and I would face rejection every time. My W has successfully trained me to ignore subtlety (whether she intended to or not).
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