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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 8, 2017 0:15:46 GMT -5
Do you ever try to sext with your H?!
I mean, really get into it... Sending dirty pics, or sitting on the couch during a family movie making him insanely uncomfortable with arousal???!!!
Not only would you get to have your writer spill out but you could give him some serious detail into the things you enjoy doing to him, or what you most enjoy having done.
I have tried with my H (if I am being honest, he is terrible at it) and I enjoy it when I get a response from him hahaha, but I have a low libido husband so my story is a little different
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 8, 2017 0:17:21 GMT -5
Do you ever try to sext with your H?! I mean, really get into it... Sending dirty pics, or sitting on the couch during a family movie making him insanely uncomfortable with arousal???!!! Not only would you get to have your writer spill out but you could give him some serious detail into the things you enjoy doing to him, or what you most enjoy having done. I have tried with my H (if I am being honest, he is terrible at it) and I enjoy it when I get a response from him hahaha, but I have a low libido husband so my story is a little different Hmmm, haven't tried that. Of course he's a wind tech which means he's usually up a turbine windmills most of the day. But maybe I should. |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 8, 2017 0:20:40 GMT -5
I know this may seem like a dumb questions but I have to ask;
Have you told him that you are trying to improve yourself and change things in your life to increase your sexual frequency and quality?
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 8, 2017 0:22:44 GMT -5
I know this may seem like a dumb questions but I have to ask; Have you told him that you are trying to improve yourself and change things in your life to increase your sexual frequency and quality? Not yet. I'm waiting to see if 1) this exercise stuff does help my libido and 2) see if he notices on his own without me spelling it out for him |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 8, 2017 0:29:10 GMT -5
I know this may seem like a dumb questions but I have to ask; Have you told him that you are trying to improve yourself and change things in your life to increase your sexual frequency and quality? Not yet. I'm waiting to see if 1) this exercise stuff does help my libido and 2) see if he notices on his own without me spelling it out for him I know in another post of your you had mentioned his morning grumblings of doing the things he wants from you for someone else, do you worry that he might have thoughts that you are having an affair or preparing to leave him? I am not trying to pick on you or anything, just curious. Also, I am super passive aggressive at times, so I have done many a things to see if he noticed and then been upset when he doesn't say anything hahahah!!! That's when I hear the "dammit woman, why don't you just say what you want"!!! Hahahah, because I can't help myself 😅😅 |
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 8, 2017 0:30:57 GMT -5
Not yet. I'm waiting to see if 1) this exercise stuff does help my libido and 2) see if he notices on his own without me spelling it out for him I know in another post of your you had mentioned his morning grumblings of doing the things he wants from you for someone else, do you worry that he might have thoughts that you are having an affair or preparing to leave him? I am not trying to pick on you or anything, just curious. Also, I am super passive aggressive at times, so I have done many a things to see if he noticed and then been upset when he doesn't say anything hahahah!!! That's when I hear the "dammit woman, why don't you just say what you want"!!! Hahahah, because I can't help myself 😅😅 I honestly don't know. It's weird because I just posted something and it's freaking me out. The topic header is OMG! This has been a freaky day. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 8, 2017 7:03:13 GMT -5
I know this may seem like a dumb questions but I have to ask; Have you told him that you are trying to improve yourself and change things in your life to increase your sexual frequency and quality? Not yet. I'm waiting to see if 1) this exercise stuff does help my libido and 2) see if he notices on his own without me spelling it out for him Your marriage is having trouble, which often means the subtle clues when picked up on, are not always interpreted the same way. I would suggest spelling it out. I am doing X, in hopes that it will help me feel Y, and you will start doing Z, and I will want to do that thing you said. |
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Post by h on Jun 8, 2017 7:15:33 GMT -5
Not yet. I'm waiting to see if 1) this exercise stuff does help my libido and 2) see if he notices on his own without me spelling it out for him Your marriage is having trouble, which often means the subtle clues when picked up on, are not always interpreted the same way. I would suggest spelling it out. I am doing X, in hopes that it will help me feel Y, and you will start doing Z, and I will want to do that thing you said. I completely agree with ^^^^^^^ hopingforachange. Men and women interpret things in different ways. Speaking from experience, we don't always pick up on subtlety. Make it clear and up front. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2017 11:53:38 GMT -5
tiffanyc: "I write erotic romance and self published my first book back in October. And even though me Hero and heroine are a couple the hero still continues with the whooing. Most of the books I read have that element in common." If only people in real life would just learn their lines and follow the script! (LOL; rueful smile.)
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 8, 2017 11:54:54 GMT -5
tiffanyc: "I write erotic romance and self published my first book back in October. And even though me Hero and heroine are a couple the hero still continues with the whooing. Most of the books I read have that element in common." If only people in real life would just learn their lines and follow the script! (LOL; rueful smile.) lol |
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Post by jpn on Jun 8, 2017 22:15:13 GMT -5
Sounds on par with someone needing excitement in their life. I'm jealous... it sounds like fun...
however, I guarantee, the person I would wind up chatting with would be the exact opposite to what I was thinking was the situation.
LOL
Cheers!
JPN
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 8, 2017 22:16:07 GMT -5
Sounds on par with someone needing excitement in their life. I'm jealous... it sounds like fun... however, I guarantee, the person I would wind up chatting with would be the exact opposite to what I was thinking was the situation. LOL Cheers! JPN Lol it can be exciting, but after a while it became just the same thing. At least for me |
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Post by jpn on Jun 8, 2017 22:22:57 GMT -5
Sounds on par with someone needing excitement in their life. I'm jealous... it sounds like fun... however, I guarantee, the person I would wind up chatting with would be the exact opposite to what I was thinking was the situation. LOL Cheers! JPN Lol it can be exciting, but after a while it became just the same thing. At least for me I can imagine it could get that way... then go on a break until a little bit of excitement is needed again I guess. But this forum is the closest I've been to "sex" talk in about 7 years... so my opinion should be taken last in any pool of opinions, and even then it should be seriously reconsidered 'several times'. LOL |
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Post by tiffanyc on Jun 8, 2017 22:25:35 GMT -5
Lol it can be exciting, but after a while it became just the same thing. At least for me I can imagine it could get that way... then go on a break until a little bit of excitement is needed again I guess. But this forum is the closest I've been to "sex" talk in about 7 years... so my opinion should be taken last in any pool of opinions, and even then it should be seriously reconsidered 'several times'. LOL Lol |
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Post by jpn on Jun 9, 2017 0:55:43 GMT -5
Hey everyone, So over the last few days I've been debating on whether to share this info and decided what the hell. As I've mentioned my H was a combat Marine. During his first deployment after we got married (it was to Japan) I found adult chat rooms online. I used to go online, usually at night when my oldest slept and that's usually when I felt...frisky. This is something I did for several years when he would be gone and even now I do it from time to time. The thing is, even though my sex drive is wonky, there was a slight excitement when I would chat. I never met anyone in person even though several suggested it. For all I knew I'm chatting with a woman pretending to be a man or some 40 yov in mommy' basement lol. True the chats all end up sounding the same, but once and a while I would feel desired. Is that strange? Off topic a little, maybe relating somewhat to your last point... Feeling desired... that is a feeling I wish I still had... and truly believe everyone should have. When I was in university... way back when... I recall flirting with a neighbour whenever I saw her. She was quite a bit older... but I'll never forget how she changed when she was around me. She would instantly start to smile, stand a little taller, and laugh a little easier. I believe it wasn't "me" so much, but rather the attention, friendly chats, and feelings she had during our moments together. Thinking about her sincere smile always brightens my day. |
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