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Post by ballofconfusion on Jul 18, 2017 0:52:33 GMT -5
Shammy - you are an incredible friend, an amazing lover and a great MAN. We are so very lucky to have found each other.
But, I truly do think that your count of 75 orgasms for me might be a tad bit LOW...at least from what I remember.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Jul 18, 2017 6:22:22 GMT -5
So happy for you both!
And I appreciate the deeper-level reflections included. Yes, the funny post would have been funny, but post-SM isn't all fun & games. I'm glad to know you two had soul-touching moments that help you both heal.
Smiling so big that tears of joy were shed for your love story.
Welcome back to a world that includes intimacy AND sex. You're gonna love it here.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 18, 2017 6:59:11 GMT -5
Shammy - you are a good friend, a good lover and a great MAN. We are so very lucky to have found each other. But, I truly do think that your count of 75 orgasms for me might be a tad bit LOW...at least from what I remember. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 +++ Thanks babe. And thank you for being here for me in all the ways that "actually" matter. |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jul 18, 2017 8:04:08 GMT -5
I am just truly amazed by your story. I am very happy for you. I have to admit that i anticipated your post-visit post with the sort of hope that i didn't think I had anymore, for you even though I don't know you. I wish you both the best and again your story has been absolutely inspirational.
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Post by tamara68 on Jul 18, 2017 8:08:18 GMT -5
I am happy for both of you, what a remarkable way to start your new life! You'll get over the difficult parts, you are doing great.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2017 9:10:09 GMT -5
It's so good to hear stories like this. It gives us all hope! I'm glad you two found each other.
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Post by beachguy on Jul 18, 2017 10:07:04 GMT -5
This is why when I see a young person early in an SM I sometimes might get a little overbearing as I scream at them TO RUN, JUST RUN AWAY!!!!!! shamwow, you were in your SM 20 years? Think about how bad it would be at year 32, which was when I finally got out (never outsourcing, a huge mistake). You got out in time. If I had gotten out in 20 years or so I think I might be able to deal with things. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 18, 2017 12:02:44 GMT -5
shamwow Thank you for sharing, I know not having the equipment work suddenly is devastating. But it sounds like you found an amazing woman that understands and comforted you. It sounds like she is wanting to help you heal your mind to react to the intimate touch of someone else. When it happened to me about a year ago, my W said something like, oh well, put her clothes back on and rolled over. I couldn't even get my self to get fully erect or finish later in the bathroom by my self. The next day I called the Dr thinking I had ED and depression, he told me mine was due to the type of antidepressant and would be out of my system within 48hrs, I still had issues after the 48hrs. My mind had built up a nervous block, even though I then knew everything should be in working order. It took a long relaxing masturbation session to get over it, but it still haunts me. Yours, might take much longer, hopefully on the next trip you can have the pressure taken off and have a nice long massage to relax and get requated with your body being touched by someone else again.
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Post by shamwow on Jul 18, 2017 12:59:20 GMT -5
shamwow Thank you for sharing, I know not having the equipment work suddenly is devastating. But it sounds like you found an amazing woman that understands and comforted you. It sounds like she is wanting to help you heal your mind to react to the intimate touch of someone else. When it happened to me about a year ago, my W said something like, oh well, put her clothes back on and rolled over. I couldn't even get my self to get fully erect or finish later in the bathroom by my self. The next day I called the Dr thinking I had ED and depression, he told me mine was due to the type of antidepressant and would be out of my system within 48hrs, I still had issues after the 48hrs. My mind had built up a nervous block, even though I then knew everything should be in working order. It took a long relaxing masturbation session to get over it, but it still haunts me. Yours, might take much longer, hopefully on the next trip you can have the pressure taken off and have a nice long massage to relax and get requated with your body being touched by someone else again. It was humiliating and frustrating to the point of tears. The fact it happened just as I finally broke free and was with someone I've grown to care about is what made it doubly difficult. Going through this entire process just to be unable to perform properly? I am so fortunate to have found someone who comforted and accepted me during this time. At a time I could have gotten a kick in the teeth, I received comfort, compassion, and a literal shoulder to cry on. I'm sorry it happened to you as well. I'm pretty sure my ex-wife would have been giddy-excited and hidden it behind a fake mask of concern. |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 18, 2017 13:00:13 GMT -5
This is why when I see a young person early in an SM I sometimes might get a little overbearing as I scream at them TO RUN, JUST RUN AWAY!!!!!! shamwow , you were in your SM 20 years? Think about how bad it would be at year 32, which was when I finally got out (never outsourcing, a huge mistake). You got out in time. If I had gotten out in 20 years or so I think I might be able to deal with things. In another year or two, I am pretty sure I would have outsourced...scruples or no scruples.... |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 18, 2017 13:03:35 GMT -5
shamwow , I am sitting on my couch smiling a HUGE SMILE for you and her, as well as for my love and myself. Your story has me reflecting on my Hallelujah moment and the compassion, passion, spiritual, uplifting and soul connection that happened in that magical night. So incredibly much has happened since I wrote that story 8 months ago. I have changed, she has changed. We can physically see it in our pictures from then to now. She has made me a better man, and I have made her a better woman. Loving her unequivocally is the easiest thing I've every done, but being away from her is so painful and so incredibly hard at times. I owe this community a new story one that fills in the gaps of our "Night and Day". Congratulations to you both. Welcome to your new beginning. From the chrysalis to beautiful soaring butterfly. The new man and woman you will both become. As we have inspired you, you have inspired us. Rex You and ggold inspired me first, brother. Just following in your footsteps. |
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Post by tamara68 on Jul 18, 2017 13:04:41 GMT -5
shamwow Thank you for sharing, I know not having the equipment work suddenly is devastating. But it sounds like you found an amazing woman that understands and comforted you. It sounds like she is wanting to help you heal your mind to react to the intimate touch of someone else. When it happened to me about a year ago, my W said something like, oh well, put her clothes back on and rolled over. I couldn't even get my self to get fully erect or finish later in the bathroom by my self. The next day I called the Dr thinking I had ED and depression, he told me mine was due to the type of antidepressant and would be out of my system within 48hrs, I still had issues after the 48hrs. My mind had built up a nervous block, even though I then knew everything should be in working order. It took a long relaxing masturbation session to get over it, but it still haunts me. Yours, might take much longer, hopefully on the next trip you can have the pressure taken off and have a nice long massage to relax and get requated with your body being touched by someone else again. It was humiliating and frustrating to the point of tears. The fact it happened just as I finally broke free and was with someone I've grown to care about is what made it doubly difficult. Going through this entire process just to be unable to perform properly? I am so fortunate to have found someone who comforted and accepted me during this time. At a time I could have gotten a kick in the teeth, I received comfort, compassion, and a literal shoulder to cry on. I'm sorry it happened to you as well. I'm pretty sure my ex-wife would have been giddy-excited and hidden it behind a fake mask of concern. You have to know that nothing is wrong with you. High expectations make it more difficult and you have been through so much that you just need a little time. I have experienced a few men who had the same problem the first time, just by being nervous and demanding too much from themselves. It worked out fine later. You need to practice and try not to think too much. Just enjoy the moment and all will be well  |
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Post by shamwow on Jul 18, 2017 13:43:51 GMT -5
It was humiliating and frustrating to the point of tears. The fact it happened just as I finally broke free and was with someone I've grown to care about is what made it doubly difficult. Going through this entire process just to be unable to perform properly? I am so fortunate to have found someone who comforted and accepted me during this time. At a time I could have gotten a kick in the teeth, I received comfort, compassion, and a literal shoulder to cry on. I'm sorry it happened to you as well. I'm pretty sure my ex-wife would have been giddy-excited and hidden it behind a fake mask of concern. You have to know that nothing is wrong with you. High expectations make it more difficult and you have been through so much that you just need a little time. I have experienced a few men who had the same problem the first time, just by being nervous and demanding too much from themselves. It worked out fine later. You need to practice and try not to think too much. Just enjoy the moment and all will be well I think you're absolutely right. I had these expectations on myself that were literally impossible to fulfill (writing a forum thread where you build it up doesn't help either  . It also doesn't help that my ex-wife was the only woman I had ever been with. But by the third day, we were both much more relaxed and I was able to finish a few times. But honestly, the weekend was about a LOT more than counting orgasms. It was about getting to know someone I've grown to care about over the past few months. That's why we stopped counting hers at 75 (if you can't tell, I'm swaggering like hell on that one). |
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Post by WindSister on Jul 18, 2017 14:50:56 GMT -5
I was hoping you guys had a special weekend and it sounds like you did. So happy for you both and the connection you were able to make.
You'd be surprised how many have experienced what you have, they just weren't open with it online. It's not a "bad" thing at all, it speaks for where you are coming from and the healing you have left to do. You will get there.
Saying good bye must have sucked but I am happy to hear you have a Part Two in the works. Good stuff! Love to you both!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2017 15:08:54 GMT -5
It was humiliating and frustrating to the point of tears. The fact it happened just as I finally broke free and was with someone I've grown to care about is what made it doubly difficult. Going through this entire process just to be unable to perform properly? I am so fortunate to have found someone who comforted and accepted me during this time. At a time I could have gotten a kick in the teeth, I received comfort, compassion, and a literal shoulder to cry on. I'm sorry it happened to you as well. I'm pretty sure my ex-wife would have been giddy-excited and hidden it behind a fake mask of concern. Friend, this is one of the most insidious parts of sexual refusal. It hurts us in ways we never anticipated. I sometimes also have a hard time having an orgasm. I know it is because I was conditioned to temper my arousal by years of rejection, and that has made it harder to finish. It is a terrible thing to have to endure. |
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. It also doesn't help that my ex-wife was the only woman I had ever been with. But by the third day, we were both much more relaxed and I was able to finish a few times. But honestly, the weekend was about a LOT more than counting orgasms. It was about getting to know someone I've grown to care about over the past few months.
