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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 22:23:09 GMT -5
LEXUS46 I'm so sorry for your loss and your continuing grief. And much less importantly it is under the approprite group title, off-topic. We can sort of make up for some of the rest of EP there.
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Post by DryCreek on May 2, 2016 22:27:41 GMT -5
Lexus, so sorry to hear this. Even with a living will to provide instruction, it would still be very hard to do. Much more so if you are forced to decide.
Hugs,
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Post by unmatched on May 2, 2016 22:36:00 GMT -5
On EP, I would put this story under the appropriate grouptitle, but that's no more. So, I'm putting it here...because, I just need to express my thoughts.
As Sunday is approaching, I'm becoming more anxious each day. I'm experiencing so many emotions and find myself in tears and I cannot speak about it without crying.
See, I lost my mother two months ago. I had to make that horrible decision ....life support or let her pass, naturally. No person should ever have to make that decision and cannot seem to erase that from my mind or heart. I hate that is my last visual of her. 
I pray time will make it easier...
Lexus, I am so sorry. It is hard enough to lose your mother, and to have that added burden makes it harder still. I lost my father about 4 years ago. He was in ICU and they expected him to go very quickly. But he didn't, and the doctors kept saying 'hang in there, he might come through this' and then it was 'hang in there, he might come through this with brain damage' and then they weren't sure and then they were again. So we watched him lying unconscious for weeks, and he kind of woke up enough to feel uncomfortable and mumble things that didn't make sense and look confused, and then went back to sleep. Four weeks later he died, and I don't believe that extra time did anything good for him at all. Sometimes you have to let go, and I acknowledge you for having the strength and the courage to do that when it was time. Do you think maybe you could use Sunday as a kind of remembrance day for your mother? Light some candles, spend some time looking at photos, talking to people who loved her and remembering as much as you can. It might help to ease your heart a little and to begin to remember her as she was when she was alive, rather than just seeing her dying. Best wishes, and as far as I am concerned you should post here any time you want. |
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Post by lwoetin on May 3, 2016 0:08:40 GMT -5
I'm very sorry Lexus. Praying for you and your Mom this Mothers Day.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 0:20:55 GMT -5
On EP, I would put this story under the appropriate group title, but that's no more. So, I'm putting it here...because, I just need to express my thoughts.
As Sunday is approaching, I'm becoming more anxious each day. I'm experiencing so many emotions and find myself in tears and I cannot speak about it without crying.
See, I lost my mother two months ago. I had to make that horrible decision ....life support or let her pass, naturally. No person should ever have to make that decision and I cannot seem to erase those last horrible moments from my mind or heart. I hate that is my last visual of her.
I pray time will make it easier...
Lex, I'm so sorry. Please don't carry that burden with you. You had a job to do and it seemed best at the time. It probably was the best thing. But you miss your mom. My mother died on January 28. I had not yet considered mothers day. I'm sorry for your loss. |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 8:48:05 GMT -5
It's been over three years since I lost my mom (also Jan. 28th), but her loss still hurts so much. She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and then in four months, she was gone after suffering horrible pain to the point she could not eat and could barely speak. Even the lightest touch was painful to her. Her illness was so incredibly unfair - my mother loved socializing and eating with friends and family and loved hugging and snuggling with her kids and grandkids. The cancer took her favorite things from her. Mother's Day makes me anxious, too. It brings back all those awful memories.
This year I'm going to pull out my pictures and choose some to hang in my apartment. I want to find the ones that express her personality the best. I know it will be painful, and I know I'll cry some, but I think I'm finally ready to replace those final images of her with happy memories.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to have to decide when to let someone go. Please be kind to yourself and do whatever it takes to get through this time. There is no correct time frame or "right" things to do. Do what feels right to you when it feels right.
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Post by bballgirl on May 3, 2016 11:10:22 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your lose. Praying for you and your mom this Mother's Day.
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Post by tamara68 on May 3, 2016 11:59:31 GMT -5
My mother died in September last year. I am glad I could be with her, but I am so sad that I was not able to do more for her in the last years.
I wish you strenght. I hope those last moments will fade in your memory and you will think of the good moments with your mother.
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Post by jim44444 on May 3, 2016 14:31:40 GMT -5
My friend, I am sorry for that you lost your mother. But I also commend you for honoring her last wishes. It is the toughest decision a person can ever make. We continually second guess ourselves even though we know it was the correct decision. Will time make it easier? It will make it easier to remember all the good things about your mom. It will reduce the biting edge of agony you kow feel with her passing.
You will grow to remember the happy times with her on those special days in the year. You will laugh about the things you did with her, the things that made her special. And yet on that one day each year you will sadly remember her and miss her deeply but that is OK. It is the expression of a child's love for her mother
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Post by misssunnybunny on May 3, 2016 15:44:05 GMT -5
So very sorry for your loss. I found this quote and it has helped me in times of grief.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 16:10:52 GMT -5
LEXUS46 I am very sorry for your loss. Your grief is still an open wound and raw, after only two months. Time will help ease the pain, but for now, I send you love and hugs.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 16:14:12 GMT -5
@creelunion My condolences on the loss of your mother too.
Hugs & Loving Kindness.
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Post by itsjustus on May 3, 2016 20:27:24 GMT -5
Lex....as I told you in EP, I am so sorry for your loss. That's not something I've had to face yet. I cannot imagine how difficult your decisions were. I hope time will help you remember the good times....My heart goes out to you. {{hugs}}
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 21:07:57 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss, Lexus. This is one of the toughest situations that most people ever have to face. Please remember that you loved her and you were honestly trying to do the best thing. Let yourself grieve, and don't hesitate to reach out for help if you need it.
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Post by Deleted on May 4, 2016 9:16:41 GMT -5
LEXUS46 sending you my deepest condolences on a heartbreaking, yet gentle and dignified choice. You are in my thoughts and prayers, today and on Mother's Day. Please kmow, that while I do not know what it is like to lose a parent, I do know what it's like to be childless on Mother's Day (through nothing more, than life's circumstances). {{{ LEXUS46}}}
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