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Post by bballgirl on Mar 26, 2016 7:12:33 GMT -5
I decided to join POF and see what the dating
world is like. So last weekend I went out
with 2 different men.
Date 1conversation good everything normal
Next day no response then Sunday morning
I got a message saying he doesn't think he
is right for me which is the same thing as I'm
not right for him. I told him thank you for the
message and good luck. Next day he messages
me begging to see me, saying he's sorry he said
that. I told him he had to base why we are not
right for each other on something. He couldn't
give me an answer. I told him that I wasted
23 years with a man that wasn't right for me
and I won't waste another day on someone that
isn't right. I was proud of myself for putting
me and my future first and being quick to
see the signs and not get sucked back in because
I'm a nice person.
The other man I went out with last weekend
wants to take me out again this weekend.
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Post by TheBumble on Mar 26, 2016 7:21:08 GMT -5
YAY YOU!!
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Post by misssunnybunny on Mar 26, 2016 9:35:47 GMT -5
Oh, gosh, dating....lol Good for you for having the courage to try online dating! We do need to be more protective of ourselves moving forward, and using what we learned in our SMs to find healthier, happier relationships in the future.
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Post by Isabellas39 on Mar 26, 2016 10:10:39 GMT -5
It's great you stood up for yourself! Are you planning on saying yes to the other guy for a second date ?
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 27, 2016 6:36:09 GMT -5
To answer Isabella's question:
(I don't know how to reply to just her)
I'm not sure if I will. He said he wants to take
me out again but hasn't asked.
If he waits too long I won't be available.
There's a fourth guy now and he wants
to meet me. Lol
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Post by Dan on Mar 27, 2016 8:07:13 GMT -5
To answer Isabella's question: (I don't know how to reply to just her) This is one way to show you are replying to something specific: use the "Quote" button. It a) Copies the original post, b) puts it in a quote box and opens the "rich text" editor. What you should do then is c) edit the original material down to the few sentences you are replying to, and d) enter your reply BELOW the text box. As for how many men you should consider dating... well, as you know, it takes NINE men to field a team that can run bases effectively. Here's hoping all your bases are visited often! |
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 27, 2016 11:02:20 GMT -5
As for how many men you should consider dating... well, as you know, it takes NINE men to field a team that can run bases effectively. Here's hoping all your bases are visited often![/quote]
Love the baseball analogy. Yeah right now I'm
in tryouts phase checking out their skills, love of the game, morals and then
I'll determine the batting order. Lol
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Post by Dan on Mar 27, 2016 11:19:20 GMT -5
Oooo! Oooo! Put me in, Coach!
(Enjoy your "spring training"!)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 21:30:54 GMT -5
To answer Isabella's question: (I don't know how to reply to just her) I'm not sure if I will. He said he wants to take me out again but hasn't asked. If he waits too long I won't be available. There's a fourth guy now and he wants to meet me. Lol Just call out, "Next!" |
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Post by wewbwb on Mar 30, 2016 15:01:38 GMT -5
Whomever you choose, don't rush. After all, there really is POF.
I like to hear all the "moving on" stories. Maybe one day I'll have one. When I have the courage.
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 30, 2016 15:44:46 GMT -5
I decided to join POF and see what the dating world is like. So last weekend I went out with 2 different men. So...I am really curious, what's the dating world like in the year 2016? ( it would drive me crazy if a woman was on her cell phone constantly!) we also have something major in common, we are both parents, still raising children, how is that handled? Is it brought up before you go out, in the middle of a date, at all? any thoughts about bringing up the SM? |
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Post by Dan on Mar 30, 2016 16:03:15 GMT -5
So...I am really curious, what's the dating world like in the year 2016? ( it would drive me crazy if a woman was on her cell phone constantly!) we also have something major in common, we are both parents, still raising children, how is that handled? Is it brought up before you go out, in the middle of a date, at all? any thoughts about bringing up the SM? Note that bballgirl (who started this thread about dating) has already served the divorce papers and moved out. If you are considering "outsourcing" (as we tend to call it here), that is a WHOLE NEW can of worms. I suggest you start a new thread with this as the question if you want some feedback on that. (I have some myself... but will hold until this becomes its own thread.) |
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 30, 2016 18:16:38 GMT -5
I would like to hear both! Like several of us, who have been dealt a bad hand, divorce is in the cards. Preparing for the future of " dating world" and or " outsourcing" would both be useful discussions. More info. Would help speed up e decision ( good and bad info.) just as important would be knowledgable caring advice to bballgirl too!
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Post by TheBumble on Mar 31, 2016 14:35:22 GMT -5
Just came across this new Humans of New York entry - shows there is indeed hope! (the woman HONY photographed and interviewed for this one looks to be in her late 60s....perhaps older):
“I was miserable being a widow. But I knew it was going to be hard to meet someone new. There is so much space junk out there. And a lot of older men are looking for a younger woman. But I had great hopes. I did my visualizations. I pictured a nice, younger, good-looking man. Every morning I wrote down just what I wanted. Then I found him on one of those dating sites. I was a little worried at first because his profile said: ‘I’m back, ladies.’ I thought that maybe he was a womanizer. But he also quoted a psalm in his profile, and it was a good psalm, so I sent him a smile emoji. We started chatting and decided to meet at the Metropolitan Museum. I walked up the stairs and there he was! Suit! Tie! Overcoat! So much better than his picture! We spent six hours at the wine bar. They had to kick us out. We started seeing each other regularly. I felt like I was sixteen. Nothing could bother me for months. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. Everything worked out just like I imagined. It will have been eight years together, this July.”
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 31, 2016 16:01:54 GMT -5
Dating world is crazy. A lot of men are just looking
for a hook up.
I've had 3 first dates zero second dates.
I'm looking at it as all a learning experience.
Honestly I couldn't care less if I go out on
two hundred first dates. I've decided I'm going
to journal about each one because I think I
can learn about dating or myself from each
experience. Maybe in the end I'll have a nice
collection of stories.
Date number 3 is comical and I learned first
dates should be short and sweet no matter
what!!
So this man asked me to go to a sporting event
which I love sports. Big mistake! On the way
over conversation was good. He wasn't a talker.
No way I can carry the conversation for hours.
Game goes into extra innings. Highway accident
on the way home- traffic a nightmare. Even less
conversation. Oh and the topic he talked about
most was his mother. Honestly I can't make this
crap up!
So that's dating!! Just taking it with a grain of salt.
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