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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2016 22:31:31 GMT -5
You're quite the pro at this!! I think we need an ILIASM Forum guide to painless online dating and this post is a great example of how to do it and preserve your sanity and dignity and have some fun along the way! Oops, I buggered that one up so it looks like I said part of what should have been attributed to CU. One of these days I'll get the hang of using quotes on mobile or give in and fire up my laptop.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2016 22:36:28 GMT -5
Or maybe a bowling date with a guy and a few of his buddies and their wives/girlfriends. If one of them rolls a gutter ball, the others make him bowl the next one with his pants around his knees. My but you have an active imagination! Helen, I've seriously buggered some promising dates. Probably why I'm in the situation I'm in.
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Post by itsmytime2be on Apr 3, 2016 23:53:13 GMT -5
I'm glad that you've at least had first dates. I'm looking at Match. A friend of mine(single female) told me not to bother with POF. Not sure if that's indicative of your experience, or not. I have noticed that their are dating sites for everything, and everyone, it seems. Race, religion, age, you name it. Interesting for sure. I'll be sure to let y'all know when I decide to do it. Maybe we should make potential dates get approval from ILIASM members?
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Post by sand5280 on Apr 4, 2016 4:10:27 GMT -5
Four years ago decided ready for relationship again. Only tried two: Eharmony connected me with others that were 1000 miles away, because we were compatible, liked the same music. Serious. I met, I am still with, and will be forever, the one I found on Match.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2016 13:45:35 GMT -5
I'm glad that you've at least had first dates. I'm looking at Match. A friend of mine(single female) told me not to bother with POF. Not sure if that's indicative of your experience, or not. I have noticed that their are dating sites for everything, and everyone, it seems. Race, religion, age, you name it. Interesting for sure. I'll be sure to let y'all know when I decide to do it. Maybe we should make potential dates get approval from ILIASM members? Bad idea. I'll only approve the ones with potential for humor. Those may not be the ones you're likely to enjoy.
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 4, 2016 14:27:17 GMT -5
I totally just having fun. Most men on these Websites don't want a relationship they just want sex. . I am afraid after 14 yrs of a SM, that is what I am going to sound like, or turn out to be, if I go on a dating sight! I guess a man who has high morals and standards, but has the chains of SM all around them, is looking for that moment. A chance to release the chains for a while, and remember what those teen/ early twenties years was like. Someone like you, needs to avoid someone like me, for now. What kind of woman wants to have a " short term FWB?" how many " short term FWB's" , and for how long a period of time? What are the Long term affects? Would it be detrimental? Looking back on my younger years, not detrimental at all. a woman needs to be cherished. Hard to provide that when your sexual need is roaring like a lion in the wild, but the rest of you is caged in marriage, family, responsibilities, reputation, commitment, etc...
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 4, 2016 15:00:17 GMT -5
This has nothing to do with this thread, but I have to chuckle at your new avatar, Helen. At first look I saw an elaborate theatrical outfit, complete with fur cape and a flamboyant headdress. Nope! Holding a cat, in front of a poinsettia!
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Post by tamara68 on Apr 5, 2016 5:51:33 GMT -5
That is what I wanted. I work nearly full time, am 'caged in my marriage and responsibilities', but also in need of playtime. Time away from it all. Feeling feminine again. I have found someone who has become a good friend. with or without the benefits. It will never become a romantic relation but we do care for each other. No obligations, enjoying time together making each other feel good. And apart from that, I very much enjoyed doing something out of the ordinary. Totally different of what people would expect of me when they see me. Not living up to my image of a decent and a little boring woman.
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 5, 2016 15:55:34 GMT -5
And apart from that, I very much enjoyed doing something out of the ordinary. Totally different of what people would expect of me when they see me. Not living up to my image of a decent and a little boring woman.
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I can relate to that. I stepped outside the sidelines and it does help to cope. And yes it's nice to be thought of in a different way then the world sees you. There's something to be said for being with someone new and losing the inhibitions.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2016 16:43:50 GMT -5
And apart from that, I very much enjoyed doing something out of the ordinary. Totally different of what people would expect of me when they see me. Not living up to my image of a decent and a little boring woman. Ha! Kind of like being a double naught spy or something?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2016 22:06:41 GMT -5
Me personally, what I really want is a true partner...the love AND the sex. But if all I can get is a FWB, I'll take it.
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Post by tamara68 on Apr 6, 2016 2:36:58 GMT -5
I can relate to that. I stepped outside the sidelines and it does help to cope. And yes it's
nice to be thought of in a different way
then the world sees you. There's something
to be said for being with someone new and
losing the inhibitions. [/span] [/quote]Exactly how I feel. It opened up a new world for me.
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Post by tamara68 on Apr 6, 2016 2:37:37 GMT -5
Yes it feels a bit like that
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Post by Deleted on Apr 6, 2016 23:53:46 GMT -5
Ugh. I was just reading an article about online dating and as usual the comments section was the best part. But I'm only going to talk about the horrifying comment where someone had been online dating for SIX YEARS. God, I'm pretty sure I'd slit my wrists at about six months let alone YEARS. Ok so that may be an exaggeration but not far off the mark.
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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 24, 2017 21:49:10 GMT -5
Dating: The longer this divorce drags on, the more alone Fridays I spend, the more I think about all the people downtown at the bars! Yet there's this huge fear of the noise, the atmosphere, the smell, the smoke, the age group The fact that I haven't had a drink since I was 18 yrs old, and still don't want one. It just seems so, "not me." Neither does the alternative of being home alone again.
Seems the most I've done is go to a movie alone, or sit at a bar in a steak house and eat alone. It's beginning to feel like the scariest part of the whole divorce.
Sometimes I wonder, "is God protecting me?", or " Am I being a wimp and God wants me to be bold, be strong, be brave, take risks, go out into the un- known?"
I'd like to think I am just having a "self doubt moment" , " give it more time" but it keeps recurring, weekend after weekend!
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